Step 1: Get Your Heart Broken
Who saw that one coming? Clearly not you! You’ve been dumped. You’ve been left on the side of the road. Your one true love has left you in the dust and all you can do is cry in bed because your world has come crumbling down around you. Now what?
Clearly, it’s time for a massive change.
Step 2: Consider a Drastic Hair Decision (Don’t Do It)
You’re going to consider dying your hair all sorts of colors. You might want to shave it, chop it, and/ or just get a wig. The desire to change your outward appearance is completely natural. How we look (especially how our hair looks) is one of the few things we have absolute total control over. If you’re looking for a change of pace, it makes sense that you’d want to change what people see when they look at you.
The important thing is to remember that changing your physical appearance won’t make anyone love you any more. (If it does, they aren’t the kind of person you want to spend any time with) So put down those scissors and that box of purple dye and strap on your big girl boots because the next step is a doozy!
Step 3: Make Yourself Better
The next step is to realize that maybe you need to change what’s on the inside! If you’ve learned anything from Grease it’s that love is about changing everything about yourself to impress the person you love! But how? Maybe you need to get that high paying job you never got around to getting. Maybe you need to study up on the Israeli/ Pakistani conflict. Maybe you need to… I don’t know… Get into Harvard Law?
Take those steps to better yourself. Let the thought of winning back the love of your life drive you no matter what people say. You can do anything for love!
Step 4: Surpass Expectations
And you do. You set your mind to it and you did it. You worked your ass off and you should be incredibly proud of yourself. You got the job, won the case, impressed everyone, and now you’re ready to take back the love you lost.
Step 5: Realize You Didn’t Need That Relationship to Begin With
But you don’t. Because you realize now that you’re worth so much more than that relationship. You’re better than it. You’re a success story. You know that you can be so much more than what you were when you were in that relationship and now you can move forward with the confidence that you earned with all your hard work.
Step 6: Continue Being Awesome
And you do. You continue on to achieve more than you ever thought possible when you let yourself be defined by what others wanted from you.