50 Things Misogynists Don’t Know About Relationships

Read the original post by Chuck Henderson: here.

I came across this article when several friends of mine posted Henderson’s article online on social media. I didn’t even read it when I saw it at first, but people kept sharing it so I decided to read it. I don’t know if it was supposed to be comical or serious but I feel people were taking it seriously, in both negative and positive regards. I don’t feel that any woman should use this as a basis as a way to interact with men in relationships. I personally think that Chuck Henderson is a misogynistic piece of shit for even creating this lengthy list. I am fortunate enough to have evolved from a somewhat petty man into someone I hope my partner feels that we can build somewhat of a life together eventually. But I’ve had to learn many things over my brief 22 years of life on this planet, and the changing dynamic between men and women was one of them.

While relationships are not easy, Chuck Henderson’s list will surely send many women who take his advice down the wrong road thinking men are petty, insecure, hyper-masculine, Neanderthals like himself. He sets ideals for women like that of a slave, and not like a partner even though he feels he knows what that entails. I am not married, I am however in a very positive relationship that gives me a great perspective to knock this fuckwad down a few pegs. His list will be numbered, then I will explain WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT. So, if you will bear with me, lets rip this pathetic motherfucker apart.

1. You Gotta Stay Away From His Internet Search History

You can’t handle it. It’s more or less the same for every guy, so don’t think he’s a perv or anything. But if you go browsing where he’s been, you’ll regret it. There are some things you can’t unsee.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Aside from pornography being potentially damaging to relationships (setting ridiculous standards and being overall completely fake), Porn isn’t a big deal. Browsing history takes 2.34 seconds to clear that shit. There’ a reason why Google Chrome has incognito mode. It’s a gift from the technology Gods to men. Most women don’t care if their man looks at porn, but make sure you aren’t jerking away your entire sex drive.

2. You Can’t Change Him

I know that you know this intellectually, but on some level, you may still think you can pull it off. You can’t. And if you do manage to get it done, he’ll figure it out and resent you for it. Love him the way he is or not at all.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

When people engage in a relationship, they adopt traits of the other person starting on DAY FUCKING ONE. People change all the time, and if you’re lucky enough to have the right woman, she will help you change for the better. This will benefit every area of your life. People opposed to change NEED to remain single.

3. You Shouldn’t Take It Personally When He Checks Out Other Women

Unless he’s leering and drooling, just let it slide. It’s a reflex and he can’t help it. Just let it slide.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Biologically speaking, male’s primal objective since puberty is to place their seed wherever they can. This primal urge is offset by cultural norms called MANNERS. Women can recognize a beautiful woman, just as a man can recognize a handsome man, vise versa. This doesn’t mean it is an excuse to negate a woman’s feelings of inadequacy if you just happen to look at every woman that walks by. Women will not make a big deal about this, so long as your aren’t a pervert with seemingly ulterior motives.

4. He Will Choose His Friends Over You

They’ve been with him for way longer than you have, and no matter how much he loves the regular sex, he’ll sacrifice it if you’re trying to 86 his buddies from his life.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

I’ve had plenty of experiences where my male friends choose to spend time with their S.O. instead of robbing liquor stores in Los Santos with me (GTAV reference there). It is all about balance. A decent partner will recognize when hanging out with friends supersedes their need for your company. Ideally it shouldn’t be an issue for you all to get together and fuck each other’s shit up in some Team Deathmatch.

5. Never Criticize His Mother

If he wants to do it, and you commiserate with him, that’s fine. But if you’re the one who brings it up, watch the fuck out. Odds are, there are qualities she has that he sees in you, so try to figure out what those are and relate to her on that level.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

When you get into a relationship, your social worlds tend to meld. It is important to try toget along with everyone and it is especially important to not be too judgmental of each other’s families. We can’t choose who our family is, and there is a reason the trope exists of the in-laws who we can’t stand. Make the best out of every situation, and bite your tongue if necessary. Look for understanding in a calm open manner and this shouldn’t be nearly as large of an issue as asshole above if making it out to be.

6. You Have To Let Shit Go

You’ll have a lot of fights over the course of the relationship, but when they’re over, they really need to be over. Throwing old arguments back in his face will lead to loss of trust and ultimately change how he feels about you.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Men are often equally as bad with this as women, and if it is an ongoing problem she has every right to bring up specific examples. Clarifying and rectifying problems is a very important part of a healthy relationship. Use specific examples and explain how you feel in non-aggressive, self-directed tones and everyone will come out of the discussion for the better.

7. Don’t Ask Questions You Don’t Want To Know The Answers To

Hey, he’s got a history and so do you. If you love him for who he is now, don’t worry so much about the steps he took to get there.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

If she has asked a question, she can handle the answer. If it is regarding pre-relationship shenanigans then it is up to the person being questioned if they are comfortable divulging the answer. This is a relationship, not a terrorist interrogation at Guantanamo Bay.

8. You Can’t Bombard Him The Second He Walks In The Door

He knows you want to talk about what that bitch said to you at work today or your plans to redecorate the bedroom, but for god’s sake, let him have a beer and stare at the TV for at least half an hour first.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

This is just plain decency in any situation. When someone gets home from work the last thing they want is to deal with added stress. Unwinding after work is important to one’s mental and physical health, especially for those working in physically demanding jobs. If it is pertinent be open to quiet discussion, but don’t be surprised if this happens once in a while, such is life.

9. Withholding Sex Is A Dangerous Game

I don’t care how mad you are at him, if you cut him off for an extended period of time, what happens next is on you.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Are you saying if he cheats it is her fault? If a woman doesn’t want to have sex for any particular reason then you should be man enough to discuss it and try to resolve problems. Withholding sex is never the first response, so deal with these things before she’s tried everything else.

10. He’s Jealous Of All Your Straight Guy Friends

Bitch about him to the girls all you want, but if you’re confiding things to other men and he finds out about it, he’s going to get jealous. Sorry to break it to you, but he wants to be the only man in your life.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

You can’t cut half the human race out of your partner’s life because of your insecurities. Relationships are based in trust and if you can’t trust her around other men you either have some deep seeded trust issues, or you better have legitimate reasons why it makes you that uncomfortable. Women need a man’s perspective sometimes. Especially when you’re the one fucking up.

11. He Wants To Try Anal

He might never ask for it, but he wants it. And odds are, most, if not all of his former girlfriends wouldn’t let him. Let him have it at least once, maybe on his birthday. It’ll be a bonding experience.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

How would you like a cock up your ass with the only knowledge of how to do so is what you’ve learned from watching Sasha Grey take it repeatedly? Anal sex can be dangerous to a woman’s health, and they might just be downright against it because they don’t want it. This is the equivalent of rape. If she is open to it, please research how to do it properly before an attempt is made and never, ever, ever pressure her into doing it. I think it’s only guys with little dicks who persist with this request.

12. He Wants To Bang Your Friends

I’m not saying he’ll do it, but he wants to. Don’t take it personally—he’s wanted to bang 90% of all the women he’s ever met. It’s really not that big a deal. Let him know you know and watch how red he gets.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Woah, Woah, Woah, Tiger Woods. This is just simply disrespectful and not true. He may find your friends attractive, because they probably are, but a good man would never have sex with any of his partner’s friends or admit to it. It can be damaging to a friendship that probably existed before you were a thought in her mind.

13. You Should Learn To Play Pool

There’s nothing hotter than a chick who can beat you in pool.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Many women and men simply don’t like pool. You’re sexualizing a game that’s about hitting balls. NOT COOL! NOT COOL.

14. He Wants You To Seduce Him

Yes, he probably likes sex more than you do, but you want him to be happy, right? Don’t wait for him to instigate every time. Surprise him every once in a while.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

If one is a good partner both will engage the other sexually. Also, I would wager that in relationships where the sex is mutually agreeable (ie, both partners are having orgasms, if not enjoying it) sex is enjoyed the same amount. Just because some men always orgasm and leave their women wanting more does not mean women enjoy it any less. Women are more nurturing and sometimes that is genuinely enough. But seriously guys, always make the effort to please your lady.

15. He Notices When You Don’t Wear The Jewelry He Bought You

If you don’t like it, for Christ’s sake, say so and let him try again. It seems ungrateful when you wear it once and then he never sees it again.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Men who can appreciate their woman’s style can knock it out of the park with jewelry. She’s not Mr. T so don’t buy her a giant gold necklace consisting of “MAIN BITCH” in large lettering. Understated and classy will get you further in this department than spending a fortune trying to impress her. Most good partners don’t want that anyway.

16. He Wants You To Need Him

Sure, you’re an independent lady and he likes that. But he also wants to feel useful. So let him change a light bulb and open pickle jars for you. It boosts his self-esteem.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

If changing a light bulb or opening a jar makes you feel useful, than you are not nearly as useful as you think you are. Be there for her if she needs help, but sexual dimorphism does not make you manly. Doing those little things shows that you’ll be able to pull through when she really needs you, that’s what the important message is there.

17. You’ve Got To Watch Your Weight

Oh shit, did I really say that? Well, it’s true. Just because you landed him doesn’t mean you can eat whatever you want and stop going to the gym (and to be fair, neither can he).

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Did you actually just fucking say that? What kind of ignorant comment is that? Women put on weight easier and keep it there to a higher extent than men do. This should be a concern for health reasons only. If it is a concern, make it a point to go to the gym/exercise and eat better together. Never insist it is mostly her problem especially when it is most likely you that wants to down that XL Meat Lovers pizza and watch Deadliest Warrior instead of eating a salad and going for a walk at sunset.

18. If You’ve Been Living Together For Longer Than Three Years, He’s Not Going To Marry You

At that point, he already considers himself married, and the idea of a wedding is more of a hassle than the special day it is to you. You can try to force him into it if you want, but…

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

What? That’s an awfully big generalization. My partner and I would like nothing more than to live together, sadly we live in different cities. Neither of us wants to think about marriage until we have a solid financial situation, but the commitment is there. Does that mean if we’re living together for 3 years we won’t get married? Hell no. It’s an important stepping-stone to a future with longevity.

19. Ultimatums Do NOT Work

Any time you try to force a guy to do anything, he WILL resent you for it. Try an honest talk about how you feel and what you want out of the relationship before you give him an “either/or.”

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Ultimatums are an end of the rope tactic. No one should be pressured into making decisions because one person is ready and one is not. This is not limited to women, especially in couples where the man is older and ready to settle down and have kids, and the woman still wants to explore. This is a common life stage incoordination that can lead to the end of a relationship, but sometimes it’s what it takes and can be for the best.

20. He Wants Kids

It’s hardwired into his DNA. No matter what he says when he’s in his twenties, when he gets a little older, he’s going to want a legacy to leave behind. But please make sure he’s ready before you stop taking your birth control.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Lots of men do not want the responsibility of raising children. Honestly, the whole thing frightens the shit out of me. Will I do it? Most likely. Bottom line is both people have to be ready, and if a woman goes off birth control to force the issue, that is one sick and fucking twisted move on that persons part. Just like it would be to poke holes in a condom because a man wanted one.

21. He Knows When You’re Lying To Him

He might not even be sure what you’re lying about, but he knows when you’re not being honest. Better come clean, or his head will fill up with worst-case scenarios.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

I think women are better liars than men.

“No babe, I only have 15 pairs of shoes, not 45”

While she thinks: “I do have 15 pairs I’ve worn once because they make my feet feel like they are trapped in fashionable iron maidens”

The author of this is the most pathetic man if he thinks women aren’t as devious as men. We’re all very capable of lying, the important part is to do our best to be completely honest when it counts, which is 99.4% of the time.

22. He Wants You To Like What He Likes

Whether it’s movies, sports or hobbies, he wants you to enjoy those things with him. Even if it’s not your thing, try to have fun with the fact that it makes him happy.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

The street goes both fucking ways. Sure you might get her to enjoy watching the game with you, but you better find a way to enjoy the things she likes too. Whether that’s a day at the mall, or a mini-marathon of Gossip Girl, strap on your big boy pants and suck it up. A relationship is give and take, not about what the man wants most.

23. He Thought You Looked Good In That First Outfit

The more you change clothes before you go out, the more impatient he gets. After the second one, he doesn’t care anymore. Just pick one and let’s go!

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Later you will complain that she tries hard to look good when she goes out with her friends, yet here you are saying that you don’t care what she looks like when you go out together. She wants to feel validated and beautiful by you approving of what she’s wearing. Just because you can slap on jeans and a plaid shirt and be good to go almost anywhere, doesn’t mean she can. Be honest, and try to enjoy it, she’s modeling for YOU.

24. He Has No Interest In Shoes

What is it with women and shoes? You may think that new pair is the cutest thing in the world, but it just mystifies him.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

This is like the 2 responses above combined. Think of where you’re going and if it involves walking, make sure it is somewhat practical. She may be being indecisive but keep her style and comfort in mind, or you might be making a pit stop halfway through the night at a shoe store because she is walking like a newborn giraffe on heroin.

25. You Should Always Take His Side

Within reason. But if he’s involved in some kind of debate and you take sides against him in public, he will never forgive you.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Given this author’s attitude it would be like supporting the confinement of women to the kitchen or bringing back sexually segregated classrooms. She is entitled to her opinion and you could learn from it. Be open-minded to discussion and always remember you can agree to disagree.

26. He Wants You To Expose Him To New Things

He wants to feel like you’re bringing something extra into his life, so tell him about your favorite authors, philosophers, whatever. If you help him grow as a person, he’ll always be grateful to you for it.

*********THIS ISN’T BULLSHIT******

27. You Need To Tell Him Exactly What You Want

Don’t make him guess, because he’ll pick wrong. And don’t be vague about it either. If you want something, just say it straight out. Odds are, he’ll give it to you.

WHY THIS IS SOMEWHAT BULLSHIT

After a certain point in a relationship you should be able to know her well enough that you can make decisions. She wants to be surprised just like you do. You are not a dog that needs commanding, use your context clues to figure it out. If she’s on fire, she doesn’t want a bucket of gasoline. However, guidance and direction in obscure situations are key to good communication.

28. He Hates That Short Haircut

Very few women can pull off that pixie hairdo (although the ones that can do it beautifully). He likes your hair long, so don’t go chopping it all off without running it by him first. How would you feel if he got a Mohawk or grew a rattail?

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Women are much more in tune generally with how they look than the typical man. She WILL NOT cut her hair off if she thinks it won’t work out for her. If she does decide to pull a Miley Cyrus and she hates it, she can’t really blame you for saying I told you so. She will 100% run it by you first. She does it with clothes and shoes, logic would dictate that this applies a hundredfold to a drastic hair change.

29. He Wants You By His Side

If you abandon him at parties and go talk to your friends while he talks to his, you’re not giving him that level of completion he wants in a partner. Sure, you can branch out now and then, but he wants you to work as a duo.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Clingy much? I bet you’d love if you could legally bind her to you with an iron chain. She is not yours to control. Just as you are not her’s to control. Branch out and meet other people, just be smart and honest about it. You will build many stories and new friends because of it, not to mention a chain free relationship.

30. You Should Never Flirt With His Friend

I know I said earlier that he wants to bang your friends, so this might seem like a double standard, but it’s true. He’ll think you’re fucking with him—or worse, that you’re actually attracted to one of his buddies. Don’t risk ruining his friendships or there will be bad times ahead.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Well this one is obvious. If she isn’t a complete asshat she just wouldn’t do that, it’s inappropriate and rude on many levels. But earlier the author mentioned that a man would want to fuck all his partner’s friends. What a fucking weird, sensitive double standard. Bottom line is don’t flirt with each other’s friends, flirt with each other!

31. He Wants You To Be His Muse

Behind every great man is a great woman. And of course you can have your own hopes and dreams, but he needs you help and inspire him to achieve his.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

While most of this original article is misogynistic, I would argue that this is completely misandristic. Men do not NEED a woman behind him to accomplish great things, just as women do not need men to accomplish great things either. Fact is, we need each other. Cooperation between men and women on an intelligible level is one of the only reasons humanity has survived thus far and has obtained dominant status on Earth.

32. Whatever It Is  You Want In Bed, He WILL Do It

Don’t be embarrassed to ask for it. Whatever you sickest, most twisted sexual fantasy, it’s PG-13 material compared to the shit that goes on in his head.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Well most guys don’t view Pornhub as how-to-have-sex 101. While you might take solace in your depravity, many men simply talk to their partner about what it is they would like to do, or just simply go at it and see what happens. If sick and twisted is what consensually floats each other’s boats, then sail away.

33. He Needs To Lean On You Sometimes

Most of us are pretty good at shouldering our burdens, but every so often, they get too heavy. But don’t sit him down and make him talk about his feelings—that’s YOUR thing. Just do some little things for him to pick up his slack when he’s overwhelmed.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

I think this is one of the biggest problems with masculinity around. Men need to be tough, solid, emotionless brick walls that can’t show a single sign of weakness. This leads to countless preventable issues ranging from health issues, to domestic violence, all the way up to suicide. I think the strongest trait in a man is admitting when he needs help, and sitting down and talking about feelings is extremely helpful and rewarding. “Do some little things” is completely obscure, women are tough and if a relationship is built to last, they can muscle up and pull though and help out just as well as men can.

34. Save The Big Piece Of Chicken For Him

He works hard, he doesn’t complain much. He deserves it (thanks to Chris Rock for that one).

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

She works hard too. You just came up with 50 crybaby complaints, and you’re saying “men” don’t complain much. She deserves it just as much. Make extra for leftovers or lunch the next day, nothing wrong with that and women don’t have to sell themselves short.

35. Don’t EVER Emasculate Him

Even if you’re just joking. I promise you, he won’t think it’s funny. And if you do it during a fight, your relationship might never recover.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Is a man’s ego that fragile that a simple joke can shatter his masculinity? Men should command their bodies and sexualities in a way that they are proud to…JUST LIKE EVERYONE ELSE (ideally). In real, loving relationships you just don’t say something that you can’t take back. If a man has a smaller than average dick, and you as a woman throw that in his face, I think you’re the shittiest kind of person imaginable. You’re same kind of person that makes fun of people with disabilities or the homeless, hurting someone due to something they can’t control. If you’re going to fight, keep the topic to the issue at hand. It shouldn’t even be called a fight, it should be called a discussion, tempers shouldn’t get out of control to the point where you call her a hermaphroditic penny whore because her clitoris is a little larger than normal…catch my drift?

36. He Doesn’t Want To Hear About Your Sexual Past

If you feel the need to give him a number, fine, but don’t get into what you did with whom, no matter how much he asks. I promise you, he doesn’t want to know.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

This is simply a conversation to be had with boundaries that both parties are comfortable with. I’m not going to go into explicit detail about what I did with whom. Women rarely come out and say how many partners they have had and what they have done with them simply for the fun of it. There is sadly a certain societal point of shame involved in this when women do it when contrasted with men. Men typically gloat about sexual experiences to their buddies as if having returned from plundering a village of its treasure, where some women feel robbed. Not saying this is the case, but the author of the original list is coming across like women broadcast this information, when typically they do the opposite. Bottom line is if you ask for this information you had better be comfortable and accepting of the answer. Everyone has their past.

37. He Wants To Be The Best Lover You’ve Ever Had

And if he’s the love of your life, he probably is. But if he’s not, just lie to him.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

In the original author’s opinion women should just live with mediocre sex and fake orgasms to prevent the fragile house of cards that is a man’s ego from collapsing. WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK. Michael Jordan didn’t become the Space Jammin’ basketball player he was by people letting him win. Sex takes practice and communication to achieve maximum satisfaction by both parties, not just letting it slide (no pun intended).

38. If He Cheats On You Once, he’ll Do It Again

Even if he apologizes and honestly regrets it, if you let him get away with it, it WILL happen again.

****THANK YOU CAPTAIN OBVIOUS, FUCK CHEATING ANYWAY*****

39. You Should Let Him Open Doors For You

It’s great that you’re all liberated and shit, but being a gentleman never goes out of style. Let him do those little things and it will make him love you more.

***You’re not wrong, just an asshole…also it is to be reciprocated***

40. You Need To Be His Moral Compass

He looks to his woman to keep him in check. Make sure he always does the right thing.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Maybe for the OP because his morals came from Hitler’s manifesto, but most modern men can figure most things out for themselves. I’ll admit that sometimes my partner needs to set me straight, but we all need that sometimes to grow as human beings.

41. You Should Let Him Win Sometimes

Men hate it when you’re better at them at what they love. He has a fragile ego, and sorry, but you need you to cater to it sometimes. If you throw a game and he gloats, though, all bets are off.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Women do not need to cater to men’s egos. Women, you kick our shit stained asses back to the 2nd grade at anything you choose, completely unmercifully. I’m talking that Mike Tyson vs Gerber Baby boxing match kind of unmerciful. It’s the least you can do after centuries of oppression.

42. If You Make Him Watch A Chick Flick, At Least Give Him A Blowjob Afterwards

Seriously, those things are painful. You have no idea how much we hate them. If he made it through the whole thing without complaining, reward him. And if it was one of the SEX & THE CITY movies, you owe him either anal or a threesome. Your choice.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Go cry into your Busch lite-stained white Wal-Mart tank-top some more. How many times has she sat through those terrible made for TV Steven Segal movies just to be near you, or how you insist that Crank 2 has a deeper meaning every time you watch it. You don’t have to like the movie. Grab a beer and a bag of Doritos and just make fun of it in your head, and once its over (provided you’re still alive, you will be), she will feel closer to you and you might just get that blowjob anyway without forcing her do it. There is nothing wrong with humoring her, believe me, she expects it anyway. However, she owes you nothing, especially not a threesome or anal…EVER. Asshole.

43. Speaking Of Threesomes… He Will NEVER Stop Trying

It doesn’t mean you’re not enough for him, it’s just that it’s the ultimate male fantasy. I’m not saying you ever have to cave in (it’s probably best if you don’t). But just tolerate his attempts to make it happen. He can’t help himself.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

I don’t think you understand the implications of this request. You’re lucky anyone wants to fuck you, but now you expect your partner to go out and find a woman she can trust with your faults and insecurities and invite them to jump in bed with you. Much harder proposition than it seems. Just because you “want to fuck all her friends” doesn’t mean they will even lay a finger on your shitty dick. OP is concerned about pleasing one woman, keeping one woman loyal, yet in a threesome I’d bet OP would just accomplish disappointing 2 women at the same time.

44. He Needs Quiet Sometimes

You don’t have to fill the silence with pointless chatter and small talk. If you’re comfortable together, you should be able to just shut the fuck up every once in a while.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Well I don’t know what’s wrong with a comfortable silence, but what you might not be picking up on is a need for deeper communication. Your Neanderthal-like brain synapses for human interaction might be so flawed that you are completely missing what your woman (and any intelligent being) needs is some stimulating conversation. Again, it’s about meeting both your needs, dickhead.

45. You Should Compliment Him More

Hey, women aren’t the only ones who like compliments. Tell him he looks good, tell him he’s smart, whatever. He needs to hear that shit every once in a while.

***HMMMMMM****

I don’t disagree with this one, only if OP is saying that generally women don’t already do this. If you are a woman, feel free to compliment your man all the time, he will more than likely return the gesture. This results in both of you having a boosted self-esteem.

46. You Don’t Always Have To Be Right

Hey, if it’s worth it, then just dig your heels in and fight to your dying breath. But sometimes, he just wants his opinion validated and you don’t have to contradict him just because you see things differently.

***SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO AGREE TO DISAGREE***

47. Make Sure You Look Just As Good When You Go Out With Him As When You Go Out With The Girls

We all get lazy after a while when we don’t have to impress anyone anymore. But if you’re all sweats and T-shirts when it’s just the two of you and you’re smoking hot when you’re going out without him, he’s going to wonder who you’re doing that for.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

When women go out with women not only is there a bit of competition, but GIRLS TAKE A FUCKTON OF PHOTOS. No woman will deny that. Women command the selfie and love a great new profile picture. It is unlikely that when you two go out there will be a lot of photos taken, and even less if you are just lounging around at home. Again, OP’s insecurity is just luminescent.

48. He’s Not Your Dad

For all you princesses out there. Yes, he’s supposed to take care of you, but it’s not in the same way. You’re a grown woman, for Christ’s sake. Learn the difference between a father and a partner.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Men are not supposed to take care of women, Mr.Neanderthal. We live in a modern world where if all the men disappeared and left behind a giant pile of frozen sperm, women would be just completely fine. Men need women from before day one. Let’s just make that perfectly clear. Let that sink in. All women need men for is genetic variance ie our sperm. They can literally do everything a man can, if not better, and I am a man saying this! You are the one that needs to learn the difference between Hitler and a partner.

49. You’re Not His Mother

If you’re always picking up after him and washing his dishes, he’s got some growing up to do. Don’t play into his Freudian fantasy.

***NO SHIT SHERLOCK***

50. He’s Not As Complicated As You Are

Don’t go thinking that means you’re deeper than he is, though. Or smarter. He just likes to keep it simple. If you can understand and appreciate that, you might end up complimenting each other very well.

WHY THIS IS BULLSHIT

Men and women are equally complex. My whole reason for doing this exercise was to try to shatter the stereotypes that the OP has so idiotically supported. I hope everyone who has seen this list, sees my response to each question and thinks: What makes a man? What makes a woman? These are not terms so easily defined by these horrible stereotypes in regards to the relationships between the sexes. Everyone may not agree with what I have to say, and I say I hope someone leads me to a more accurate way of thinking if I have said something egregiously off-base. However, in an age with so much hate, bigotry, discrimination, and dread, we also live in a time of hope and progression. I hope I can change even one mind in regards to any of the damaging “facts about men” that Chuck Henderson has created in his blind view of what real relationships are.

Thank you for reading. From an unapologetically apologetic White, Canadian, heterosexual, male. TC mark

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