We all know exactly how things are “supposed to” go in college…You meet someone at a party, hookup, and never speak to them again. This is a dangerous phenomenon that is going to affect our generation for the rest of our lives. When many of us leave college, we won’t know real love even if it slaps us in the face.
We have been conditioned to think that just hooking up with someone is the way that things are supposed to be (and don’t even get me started on being friends with benefits…but I’ll save that for another article). So here are the problems with accepting hookup culture as the only option in college…
1. Hookup culture is expected. Hookup culture is the “norm” in college. It has made it acceptable to not even learn a person’s name before hooking up with them. Yes, random sex can be fun as long as both parties are on the same page, BUT not only is this mindset encouraged, it is now expected of people in college. Having a girlfriend or boyfriend makes you an outcast and your single friends might even question your sanity, “Why would you settle for one girl when you can have a different one every weekend?”
I have actually heard someone say this and honestly, I wanted to slap him. It is stupid…no, actually, it’s PATHETIC that a guy/girl can’t stay with someone they actually have feelings for because they are too busy waiting for their next fuck buddy to come along.
2. Hookup culture is making people scared of their feelings. Many college students find it easier to detach themselves from anything with meaning than to face their feelings and give someone else the opportunity to hurt them. Why put time and effort into a person when you can just go to a party, meet a girl, and hookup with her, all in a matter of hours?
And honestly, I see where this mindset comes from because relationships are A LOT of work and real feelings are scary as hell. But at the end of the day, if you are with the right person, it is worth all of the time and risk of heartbreak that comes with it. So stop being afraid of your feelings and embrace them, you never know when or where you’ll meet your future husband.
Hookup culture is ruining real love. You meet someone and you two are so happy and everything seems to be going perfect, until one day he decides he wants to hookup with other people. You have done absolutely nothing wrong, it is completely and utterly the fact that they feel like “meeting” girls at frat parties, bars, etc. You decide this is it and you need to move on, but then, he texts you; he tells you that he still loves you, he just “isn’t ready”, and you probably believe him. You probably meet up with him and you guys “hangout”…but it’s okay because he kisses you goodbye and says he loves you. He is teaching you that’s what love is and let me tell you, that is bullshit.
If he were really in love with you, he would make himself ready. No matter how hard commitment might be for him, it would be worth it, because at the end of the day, he would have you. So do what you need to do to get over him; cry, watch sappy romantic movies, and drink some wine, but then pick yourself up, put some makeup on, and make him wish he still had that ass. Because guess what? One day you’re going to find a man that knows exactly how lucky he is to have you by his side.