If you’ve ever had a job, chances are at some point you’ve had a crush on one of your colleagues.

It’s only natural. The more time you spend with someone, the more there’s a chance you’ll develop feelings for them.

And considering how much time we spend in the workplace, it’s no surprise then that more than a third of people have dated a coworker.

So the question then becomes, what should you do when you’re into a girl you work with? Do you ask her out? Wait for her to give you signals she’s interested? Ignore your feelings in the name of professionalism?

It can feel like a tricky road to navigate. After all, it seems for every story of the happy couple who met at work, there’s a horror story involving sexual harassment claims.

But if you follow a few simple rules, flirting at work is not only safe… it’s a hell of a lot of fun!

And that flirting may lead to dating, which may lead to… well, you can use your imagination here. To help you avoid any flirting and dating landmines at work, I’ve put together this video on the simple rules you should always follow. 

I know there are some guys out there who’ll see this and immediately disagree with it.

“Marni, I can’t flirt with girls at work, let alone date them. It’s sexual harassment and I’ll lose my job.”

If you had that reaction, you need to watch the video again. Pay close attention to the part where I stress that you need to avoid flirting that is overly sexual.

When you’re joking around and being playful and fun with people, that ISN’T sexual harassment.

The other point I make in the video is that you should stop immediately if it’s clear your flirting isn’t welcome. When women make allegations of sexual harassment, 99% of the time it’s because the guy is persistent even though she’s made it clear she’s not interested.

One of the other main reasons you may feel some resistance to flirting at work is if your flirting skills aren’t up to scratch. Truth be told, most men could use a little help in this area.

That’s why I set out to create the last resource you’ll ever need to get your flirting game on point. It’s called the F-Formula and it’ll show you in clear detail how we want you to flirt with us.

Once you know the secrets to flirting effectively, you’ll feel comfortable being your natural, attractive self with women wherever you are.  

Marni Kinrys is Your Personal Wing Girl and the author of
The Chick-tionary, available here.