Are you the nice guy? Do you constantly let her have her way? Do you go out of your way to please her? Does every relationship you have end with the F-Word – FRIENDS?
“Nice Guy” is a Matter of Perspective, Yours and Hers
Nice Guy: Noun, Informal. A likable man who is generally pleasant to be around who avoids conflict in order to please those around him. Enjoys an anxiety-free environment and will make others happy to ensure a peaceful co-existence.
I know you think that you are being a gentleman by giving into her every whim. I know that you want to go out of your way to make her happy, never wanting to argue, always letting her win.
However, in reality Mr. Nice Guy, you lose! You are being a doormat. If you look deep inside yourself, you probably don’t want to rock the boat out of your own fear of losing her. Yet, the only woman who appreciates this guy is her mother.
There is a reason this guy doesn’t get the girl. Generally, women don’t want to date a doormat. If they need one, there are plenty of cute ones at IKEA.
I see this guy every day in my business, and I know you can change. I am not asking you to become a complete scumbag because that doesn’t work either. You need to change your definition of Mr. Nice Guy by understanding what a woman really wants.
Change your Definition of Nice Guy and Get the Girl!
I hear women say, “I need a nice guy” all the time. As a woman, I know what they mean, and I can assure you it is not your version of Nice Guy.
In the song Yeah! by Usher, there is a line, “We want a lady in the street but a freak in the bed. “
Well, I hate to shock you – but women are no different!
Nice Guy: Noun, Informal. A man who exudes confidence and oozes sex. The guy who is in control while treating her like a lady in the street, and makes her want to be a freak in the bed
So how do you get there Mr. Nice Guy? Let me help.
Stop trying so hard to be nice and be yourself.
Women know you’re a man, and they know you want sex. You just have to learn to provide the subtle clues while being a nice guy.
You can build sexual tension in a nice way.
While you are busy being nice, let that little bad boy out every now and then. I am not telling you to get all perverted, but innuendo and well thought out touchés, can go a long way.
Don’t be a doormat!
I can’t say this enough! Women enjoy the thrill of the chase as much as the man does. If you allow her to walk all over you – she will. And guess what, she will get bored and eventually use the dreaded F-word.
So what is the true definition of a nice guy? A man who can balance kindness with sex appeal.
Women actually do like a man who will not tolerate her crap! But you need to find the right balance. There is a true art to being Mr. Bad Boy – Nice Guy. Do you have it?