How A Solo Trip Can Help Mend Your Broken Heart

Danka & Peter
Danka & Peter

There are no good or happy breakups. Even those who dumped you will soon realize how painful it is to be apart from someone who truly loves them the most. Breakups are hard to face but it is something that you should not disregard and ignore. The more you pretend you’re not hurt, the more it will get worse as it will surely backfire once you go home – you might start to curl up on your bed and cry for long hours or you might binge-eat or not eat at all because you lost your appetite. Going through a breakup is very painful and it sure feels like you’re carrying the weight of the world. While it may take a long period of time to move on, considering going on a solo vacation is one way to ease the pain.

It’s a step to getting used to being single.

Yes, as hard as it may sound, going somewhere far from a place that could potentially remind you of your ex is a great idea. It’s best to shut down all the memories for a while and just embrace an unfamiliar place where you could start building new memories by yourself. Being single may feel new and unusual, but you just have to learn how to accept and embrace the fact that it is only you who can help yourself.

It’s a chance to forgive and forget.

Let’s admit it. This is not an easy step. But learning to forgive can be a way to forget. When you are far away from a place that reminds you of your ex-lover, you will be able to realize a lot of things. And once you are able to realize and reflect about the hurt and pain that you’ve been through, you will also learn to look at the bright side of what has happened between the two of you. With that said, forgiveness will come. And in the right time, you will forget the pain and sorrow.

It’s a chance to meet new people.

No, it’s not what you think it is. You don’t have to flirt with anyone on the road just so you could fill the hole in your heart that was once your ex-lover’s. Meeting new people while travelling is a good way to not feel alone despite going solo. It’s important that you try to interact and mingle with new people because they may have the same heartbreak story as yours and you could actually find support from them.

It’s a way to overcome your fear of being alone.

As much as it hurts, you have to go on your own way now. You have to accept the fact that your former travel buddy is no longer there to accompany you and cheer you up. We all know what it’s like to be single again. We all know what it’s like to be scared because you’re no longer accompanied by your lover. When you travel solo, you will learn how to overcome your fear of being alone. People always say you have to face your fears, and that is something that you should apply in your own process of moving on.

It’s a green light to acceptance.

ACCEPTANCE. This is probably the hardest step in moving on from your past relationship. No matter how hard it is, you have to accept the fact that you’re no longer together. When you are alone in your room, you tend to cry and grieve. While it’s normal and necessary, you have to consider going out to travel and brave the world without having to rely on someone you thought will be there for the rest of your life.

Moving on is not easy. There are no shortcuts and surefire directions, but when you travel solo, you will be able to meditate and reflect on why certain things happened. The directions may be bumpy and steep, but those are the pathways that you have to experience in order to be a more stronger individual. You have to learn how to be the better person in this situation. You don’t have to rush things but you should not ignore your heartbreak so you must do something in order to ease your pain. While there is no right formula to quickly move on, the most important thing that you can do is to embrace and accept the things you cannot change, little by little. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Mark Aldrin Hipolito is a writer and artist who wants to inspire a lot of people.

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