Forget The Way It’s Supposed To Be

forget the way it's supposed to be, nontraditional, live free, be free, arms outstretched, poetry
Nathan McBride

the nine-to-five
the deadlines
the rush rush rush
just to end where you started.
how love was ‘meant’ to feel
like a fairytale
like hands on a body,
having to be a housewife,
knives neatly aligned in the kitchen,
dinner on the table,
a single glass of wine next to your plate
or a husband
who works so late he only sees his children
an hour before they go to bed.
being ‘right.’
and the way you’ve been told
to follow a certain path
or else you won’t find
Have they found it?
In their perfect houses?
In their empty faces?
In the monotony
of following all the rules?

Dance barefoot in the kitchen.
Sip wine until your lips buzz
and your brain spins.
Laugh too loudly.
Eat all the food on your plate
and ask for seconds.
Leave the job you hate.
Pour your heart
into something other than a body.
But if you fall in love
fall headfirst
like diving into a pool
with the fearlessness of a child
who never learned there are things to be afraid of.
just stand on the edge
of all that you wish for
and jump.
because safe is a life that never moves.
all the doubt that’s kept you up at night
because doubt is the conscience’s defense
and your life
is worth going to battle for.
all the ‘shoulds’
the maybes
and the foolish ghosts of your past.
the way it’s ‘supposed’ to be.
not living
your f*cking life. TC mark

Marisa Donnelly

Marisa is a writer, poet, & editor. She is the author of Somewhere On A Highway, a poetry collection on self-discovery, growth, love, loss and the challenges of becoming.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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