Just So You Know, You Don’t Have To Be Perfect All The Time

Neill Kumar
Neill Kumar

You’re not always going to feel on top of the world, you know.

You’re not always going to get that bonus or promotion, not always going to be asked on a date, not always going to have your hair parted just right, or find that perfect shirt to wear out on a Friday night.

You’re not always going to get along with your parents or siblings, not always going to believe in love or have the strength to get out of bed in the morning. There will be days when you just feel like giving up. And days when your heart hurts.

And on those days, it’s okay to admit that you’re struggling.

It’s okay to tell yourself to slow down. It’s okay to be honest with yourself and say that things hurt when they hurt. It’s okay to reach out to people around you and confide your pain. It’s okay to feel weak or afraid. It’s okay to feel strange, and admit that you’re feeling strange. It’s okay to be sad.

It’s okay to not feel okay.

We live in a society filled with pressure. There’s so much pressure to have the perfect body, to have a successful career, to have a great-looking significant other or spouse, to travel, to have money, to do fun things, to eat well, to party hard, to accomplish so much that when you really take a step back and look, you realize that meeting those expectations is near impossible.

Yet we still try. We still push ourselves to follow all these rules, meet all these guidelines. We don’t want to fall short. We don’t want to be any less than the next person.

But sometimes the way we are living leaves us feeling empty. We try and try to be something that we’re not. Or we try and try to push ourselves until we just break down.

And it’s when we finally break down that we realize we’re not okay.

But here’s what you need to know: It’s okay to not feel okay. It’s okay to be ‘off.’ It’s okay to hurt, to be confused, to feel broken, to cry, to just need a break. It’s okay to need someone. It’s okay to seek help.

The strongest of people are the ones who know when to quit, who know when to reach out to others, who know when to throw in the towel and say, ‘Okay, I just need a moment.’

The strongest people are the ones who don’t follow society’s expectations of perfection and instead try to live a life that feels right to them.

It’s okay if you aren’t first in line or the best at everything. It’s okay if you fall short in some ways or just don’t feel like yourself when you wake up in the morning.

It’s okay if you’re not over your ex or are still struggling to find a job. It’s okay if you don’t eat healthy or you haven’t been to church in months. It’s okay if you don’t have your sh*t together all the time or have a crappy past.

It’s okay to not be perfect all the time.

So take a deep breath and relax. You’re not alone and you’re not a failure. You have just hit a bump in the road; you are just in a moment of transition, switching gears. You’re like a car with dead battery, simply needing a recharge.

You might not feel okay, and that’s fine.
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