A newborn enters this world surrounded by a multitude of circumstances that begin to imprint its soul. This can range from feeling loved, cared for, and protected through being resented, neglected, and isolated. As this baby continues forward on its journey through infancy, childhood, adolescence to adulthood, these initial beginnings have a direct and indirect impact on how this individual perceives him/herself. These internal perceptions shape how he/she forms relationships and life choices. The more one is made to feel unworthy, undeserving, and wrong whether it’s self imposed or projected by others, the deeper the wound grows and therefore the feeling of “being broken” and “beyond repair” furthers the despair.
But here’s the simple truth: you are worthy, deserving, and a person of value. Once you do the work to reverse negative self-image fractures that shatter the mirror within your being, you can learn to understand, accept, and maintain your sense of self-love as a highly valued person. The ability to reflect your inner love and respect outwardly will only allow you to live each day with more ease and less turmoil. Everything that you have been taught and believed to make you feel less than you actually are is not true. It’s a misguided thought; which is not your fault, it never was. But once self-aware, it’s deciding to take responsibility for yourself. Although you may have hurt yourself and others intentionally or unintentionally, you behaved in a way that you believed you needed to in order to survive that experience; out of sheer fear. However, it is only in your control to choose to heal and live in a way that feels good and loving based upon your own context within yourself and how you treat others.
In reality, the little child inside of you is crying out for help. It gets so scared sometimes that it becomes anxious and completely lost. This little child is actually calling the shots in your life of being stubborn, impatient, and feeling insecure because there is one thing it’s lacking. All this child wants is a solid, steady, and strong parent to step up, take control, and properly raise him/her through healthy boundaries, limits, unconditional love, and acceptance. If you haven’t already guessed, you are the parent. No matter how young or old you are, it is still your responsibility to protect and care for this child that is your lifelong commitment. The more the child inside feels safe, whole, calm, and content, so will you. Isn’t that all you want…for your child to be happy? And in turn, you will be happy too.