Recovery differs for every single person. Though recovery is defined as being a return to a state of normality, no solid definition of normality exists.
It’s hard to say whether we’ll ever feel entirely whole. Sometimes, at its most basic, striving to be happy is what we should aim for. But life is complex and there will always be elements that we cannot control. And for anyone suffering with their mental health, there are several more layers of complexity that have to be dealt with.
It is unfortunate that we don’t often look beyond getting help. We forget that the process of recovery is just as valuable as that of seeking the help itself. But accepting that recovery may, in fact, be more of a journey – not an instant result or a complete state of being may just be the key to a beautiful, albeit unpredictable journey to a better state. The process is one full of catharsis, but it is, of course, one that may be filled with small hurdles- hurdles that in accepting the challenge, one can grow and flourish beyond their own expectations.
However, suggesting that recovery is easy, or that one can follow a pattern to achieve optimum balance is somewhat misleading. It’s also important to note that relapses may occur in the future. And that’s okay.
The most important thing to note perhaps is that forcing any form of recovery is unnecessary and could be more damaging.
This is a gentle reminder to stop forcing your recovery
It is okay to take recovery slow.
It is okay to take selfish steps throughout the process, but it is also okay, and possibly helpful to include people on your journey through recovery.
You can cry or laugh.
You can write out your thoughts or record video diaries.
You can feel scared or elated, or confused, but know that the recovery process is yours to own and to create and to make special for your own future.