Why It’s Okay To Break Their Heart


Anyone can have their heart broken. It’s gut wrenching, but it’s bearable. You have the support of everyone who’s ever had their heart broken too, which is everyone.

But when you’re the one who’s breaking a heart, you have no support. You’re alone in this business, hearing the all too familiar phrases.

You can’t be upset, you left them.”

I don’t know why you’re crying, you chose this.”

Or my personal favorite:

How could you do that to someone?”

The reality is, people don’t look kindly upon people breaking hearts. It’s not an “okay” thing to do. But the real heartbreak is being with someone when your heart isn’t in it anymore.

If you find yourself in a relationship, even a healthy, wonderful, picture-perfect one, and you’re not madly in love, leave. It’s okay.

Yes, you’ll break their heart. The fear of that might be the exact reason you’ve stayed so long.

Yes, you’ll feel like an awful person. That comes with the territory.

Yes, people will judge you, and expect you to have no feelings about breaking your own heart in the process. Expect that.

But the most important thing is – you’ve spared them. Spared them, and yourself, from continuing to be in a relationship that was doomed.

The moment you realize you’re no longer in love, the relationship is doomed. There’s not much you can do about it – you can’t make yourself fall back in love, and frankly, you shouldn’t be expected to.

But there are so many worse things you could do than break someone’s heart.

You could be unfaithful. You could lie. You could pretend. All of which are worse than leaving, the one honest thing you can do.

It’s okay to do things that aren’t “okay”.

It’s okay to do what you need to do for yourself, not for anybody else.

It’s okay to do what you need to do.

Not everything is going to be perfect in life. Not all relationships are going to last forever. And not being honest about it is far worse than leaving.

It’s okay to break someone’s heart.Thought Catalog Logo Mark

I’m a girl who’s spent her whole life trying to learn to love herself.

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