This Is Why I’m Choosing To Hold On To Love

When I say people fall in love quickly, I think a lot of you would say that’s a laugh.

This belief may be true, but for some, it may be the contrary.

Love takes time. But I think what really takes time is when people decide to hold on to love.

There are a lot of times we fall in love with people, with places, with things, with abstract ideas and everything that comes in our lives. We may fall in love the moment we see the spark in someone’s eyes or the moment a person touches our lives, or maybe when we feel cold and there’s the warmth from another keeping us alive.

There are many times we fall in love quickly. It’s when your heart skips a beat for the first time for that one person who understands you easily. Maybe you’ve finally found someone who cares and will be there when you’re lonely and decide what you feel was love.

But as fast as we fall in love, we quickly fall out of love.

Do we never know when we might fall out of love? Do breakups happen just because?

No. Believe me, one can fall in love faster than the speed of light.

But rare people stay in love. Because it’s up to us to hold on to this love despite the buts and the what ifs. Despite losing the spark and the warmth, and even if we lose that person forevermore. It’s in our hearts to decide whether to put out the fire or reignite the flame from its burnt embers.

The thing is, love is indeed a wonderful thing. And this year, choose to hold on to love.

It’s time to stop putting up walls that are hard to break just because you’re scared to fall in love. Seize the day. Let go and love.

It’s about time to stop playing mind games just because you aren’t sure whether the person would reciprocate the love you could give or not. Set your heart free and enjoy it while it lasts.

It’s the perfect moment to let that special someone know what you feel, because you only live once to create memories you’ll treasure.

It’s the moment you’ve been waiting for, the freedom you’ve been fighting for—to love and be loved in return. Because the truth is, we may not be ready to love a person because our fears overcome us, but we must do it anyway.

No more reservations, no more holding back, no more waiting, what ifs, or buts.

This year, we must only see pushing forwards, honesty, sincerity, clarity, and all those elaborate words you use describe the kind of love that makes you feel like floating in the air like you’re high from all the fluff and butterflies in your stomach.

Hold on to love even when your hands are tattered and your heart is torn in fragments.

Hold on to love despite the possibilities of disappointment, hurt, and insecurity.

Never mind about holding on so tight that you’d lose yourself. Because what matters is that you are not depriving yourself of the chance to experience this beautiful thing all over again.

Sooner or later, the pieces you’d lose yourself for were the ones you’ll let go—fear, anxiety, anger, and despair. And once these pieces shatter, you’ll come out stronger, revealing a version of yourself that you could have never imagined.

While it’s true that there’s a kind of love that could break your heart, crush your soul, and leave you yearning for something that passed, it will always teach you something.

In the words of Rumi, “The wound is the place where the light enters you.”

Keep breaking.

Keep hurting.

But most of all, keep believing. And keep falling in love.

Never, ever dim your light, beautiful.

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