1. Don’t compare yourself to your friends lives.
Everyone has a different path. Whether it is being rejected from your dream job or getting engaged the moment you have that diploma in your hand. You need to remember that everyone has a different destiny right out of college as well as different goals now that they have reached that goal of graduating. You may see some people complain about how awful their job is, but really what you will probably see on social media is their successes and happiness with their post-grad life. Newsflash: it is not always what it seems. No one’s life after college is a straight path and the exact plan that they thought it be. Maybe it’s finding out that your dream job was not what you expected it to be, or finding a completely new passion and goal in life or even meeting the love of your life and changing your path partially because of that person. No path is the wrong path and there is always something positive in everyone’s path.
2. Be patient with yourself, you are just starting out.
Learning how to be independent and how to live without all of your friends near by is tricky. I can speak from personal experiences of FOMO and loneliness. However, this is the time that you can figure out where you are truly meant to be in your young life. There will be ups and downs, but that is what learning about yourself is all about. This is the time to reflect on yourself, your past and your future decisions. Don’t worry if one thing doesn’t go as planned. Recognize that said thing may be a chance to branch out and try new things. It is easy to dwell on failures, but use those failures as lessons and most importantly as springboards to success. It’s okay to be lost at 23 years old. You have so many years left in your life. This is just the beginning of a new chapter.
3. Do not be afraid to fail.
Failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of success There will be many times in your life that there will be big consequences for failures, but at this point in your life there are risks that you can take without those huge consequences. So take the risks! What’s the worst that could happen? Live with your parents for a few months before you get back on your feet? There is no shame in that. There is no shame in taking big career risks, in fact I know that employers want those ambitious people who take those risks to better themselves and their careers. You want to travel the world for a year before settling down at a job? Do it! This is your time.
4. Save your money.
With independence and a college-educated employee comes management of a salary bigger than you have ever had, even if it is not as much as you had hoped. It is important that you use and save your money wisely. Now, I will be the first to admit that I am still working on saving more money. However, using this money to save for future endeavors is more important than ever. How you budget and spend your money is your choice and your business, but really think about how much you need/want to save.