5 Things I Was Only Able To Learn After Loving Someone Else

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1. You will find yourself.

The usual finding yourself is when we’re broken or we’re lost. That’s when we can find ourselves. But there’s also finding yourself when you love someone, the idea of finding yourself when loving someone is not as cliché as it sounds. It is when you realized that there are things that makes you who you are, that you’re sensitive but you are loving. You are strong but you have a good heart. You are a high maintenance girlfriend but it doesn’t mean it’s wrong. You are protective and sweet. You are not overdramatic, you’re just passionate.

2. You will love yourself more.

You will realize that you’re capable of loving someone while loving yourself more. You have standards that cannot be compromised. You will learn that loving yourself more makes it easier to love someone better. You are assured of yourself, you know what you can do and what you can’t do. You treat yourself better.

3. You will learn to love unconditionally.

You will learn that there is no such thing as not giving your 100% to someone, because when you love. It’s all or nothing. Loving is not a buffet that you’ll get what you want. It’s when you learn that loving is a choice, that you cannot choose when to love someone. Whether it’s a good day or a bad day, you will always love them. You will learn to love someone regardless of what they can do for you but what you can do for them.

4. You will see the good in others.

You will learn that there is a goodness in others. Making a mistake doesn’t mean they’re bad. The person you love is human, he will make mistakes. There are things that he will do that you don’t understand but it doesn’t mean that he wants to hurt you. That he deserves the forgiveness.

5. You are enough.

You will learn that you are enough for the right person. You’re pretty and amazing. Your love is enough to withstand the problems. Your goodness is rare. You’re not perfect but you’re just who you were made to be. You are enough for anyone, and that’s pretty damn right. TC mark

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