When I was a single woman, I found super sappy displays of Facebook affection irritating for obvious reasons—jealousy, bitterness, and my sense that I’d be alone forever and no one would ever love me like that. Now that I’m in a relationship with an amazing man who makes me incredibly happy… well, those Facebook PDAs are still annoying. Here’s why:
Your constant need to talk about how happy you are reads as blaring insecurity.
Plus, I’ve seen you in real life. You’re not that happy.
If we are actually real-life friends, I talk to you and I see you, so it’s obvious to me if you’re happy/in love. If we’re not, then it’s none of my business anyway.
We all deserve to be happy, we all deserve love, but not everyone finds it exactly when/how they’d like. Don’t make it worse by embellishing and setting an unrealistic standard for the people who are too loyal and/or masochistic to unfollow you. People believe you even when they shouldn’t.
It gives in to what Facebook has become for many people; just another place to judge and be judged.
Don’t get me wrong…I’m not completely innocent. But while I may post an occasional bit of mushiness, I will not use words such as “hubby” or post a paragraph of greeting-card sappiness to my significant other’s Facebook page (probably while he’s sitting next to me on the couch) when I could give him an actual greeting card or, better yet, tell him to his face.
I love my boyfriend, and sometimes I feel it so intensely that I want to shout it from the virtual mountaintop that is Facebook. But I make a conscious effort to do so sparingly and to keep it short and simple. Because, let’s face it, no one else really cares, and that’s cool. It’s not that I don’t want people to be blissfully in love. For the most part, I do. But the constant sickening display is just silly. Why not spend that energy actually showing your significant other how you feel?
In the words of Theodore Roosevelt, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” So next time you think your life sucks and you’re destined to be alone forever because people on Facebook are constantly posting how happy and in love they are, remember that it’s probably just bullshit.