1. Go to therapy.
I used to think that going to therapy was for people with very intense problems. Like somehow my problems could not possibly compare to someone that has lost a family member or has gotten divorced or has contemplated suicide etc.
But then I lost someone and more than a year later I decided to actually go to therapy. Taking that step helped me realize something.
Going to therapy is more than just having your very intense problems assessed. It’s about confiding in someone, telling them all of the things that go on in your mind, and working on making sense of your life.
It’s definitely hard, but it is very much worth it. My therapist helps me understand how past events have affected me in order to continue down a journey of emotional healing.
2. Create a workout routine.
Whether you’re already fit or you don’t really care too much about having a healthy lifestyle, working out seriously has so many benefits.
Personally, it motivates me to be productive, it helps clear my mind, and it reduces my stress levels.
Yes, it has been hard sometimes to keep active when there are days where I’m overcome with tiredness, but working out has become a part of me now. I feel weird when I don’t do it and when I finally do it and I experience the benefits I question why I didn’t just push through.
3. Disconnect from technology.
I cannot stress this one enough. Honestly, I crave doing this more than I get the chance to. When I disconnect, I feel refreshed and rejuvenated.
There’s something about putting your phone far away where you can’t see it (I like to leave it in my bedroom and go to the kitchen or living room) and spend time writing, watching a movie, reading a book — doing anything other than waiting for texts and opening my social media accounts every five minutes.
4. Spend time doing things you love.
I started my personal blog last year. At first, I was really nervous because I’d be sharing my thoughts with the world and I didn’t know how it would fare. But I knew it was something that I wanted to do so I mustered the courage and did it.
It has been incredibly liberating and personally rewarding and I encourage you to do whatever it is you like to do. Whether it’s writing, singing, painting, exercising, anything. Even if you’ve never tried it before, do it. Get lost in it and see where it takes you.
5. Be honest about what you think and feel.
Some of you might not relate, but if you’re anything like me, you have gotten caught up in caring so much about what other people think that you deny yourself in order to keep them happy.
Honestly, that benefits no one. Sure, people might get upset and it may be really hard to muster up the courage, but in the long run, you will not only gain respect (even if it’s your own) but you will live a less stressful life.
Keep in mind that people that care about you will consider your thoughts and feelings, not shame you or manipulate you with them.
You are such a beautiful, amazing, and capable person no matter how different your life may look from the picture the world shows us.
I challenge you today to forget about looking like X person or trying to do X things because that’s what this person does, and try things that actually interest you and truly make you happy.
Whether you choose some of the things from my list or you take the time to come up with your own, love yourself by doing things that are good for you and make you happy.
Love yourself and love yourself hard, because honestly you deserve it, and the world could use your talented, amazing, and unique self.