Please Friend, Never Feel Guilty About Caring ‘Too Much’

Twenty20 / @edric
Twenty20 / @edric

Have you ever felt like you were foolish for caring about something or someone too much? That maybe whatever you said or did made you want to crawl in a hole and never come out? Question everything about yourself, down to the littlest of detail?

I’m going to safely assume that the majority of you have at least once in your lives.

With this day in age, especially when it comes to the high and mighty millennial, it’s safer to keep it ‘cool’ and not express your feelings. Hold it all in, and never let anyone too close. You don’t want to come off as ‘clingy’ or ‘crazy’, and the one who can play it down the most wins. Right?

You dance around the topic of how you feel without actually saying it. You don’t want to say too much, for you are so worried that they’ll become spooked.

Quite frankly, this is no way to live.

Don’t ever apologize for feeling too much.

Never say ‘sorry’ to the ones you love for telling and showing them how much you do. In fact, you should probably say it more than you currently are.

Caring a lot should never result in regret, or self-consciousness. There is no negative stigma with love nor should there ever be one.

You, my friend, have been blessed with a big heart. Of course everyone has a heart, but not many know how to use it. You have the ability to give so much—to yourself and others. If there are recipients who don’t appreciate this, then that’s ultimately their problem and their problem only.

The truth of the matter is, having someone care too much about you is a rarity. When it’s all said and done, people tend to only think about themselves. And when the going gets tough, our first instinct is to run the other direction.

But, there are going to be people who see you run and chase after you.

They are the ones who has seen you at your darkest hour and stayed, and who believed in you when you didn’t even believe in yourself— at the end of the day, they are who make life worth living.

And you’d be a damn fool to let them go. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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