For The Girl Chasing The Guy Who Just Isn’t Into Her

Brooke Cagle
Brooke Cagle

With myself just recently being that girl for the 14th million time (or so it seems) I’ve come to reach an understanding about the routine. You meet someone, go on date, click, thing’s are going well. You start to fall only to realize, oops. They stop texting you.

You curse the culture of our generation for the games, going back in your mind replaying every scenario and wonder: what is wrong with me?

You pathetically attempt to gain back their fondness for you, only to realize you’re making the matter worse. Stop.

As cliché as it sounds, I constantly remember the saying “you could be the juiciest peach in the world, but someone will always dislike peaches”. As a person who dislikes peaches, I understand.

Why he stopped messaging me? Who knows? I could think of a thousand reasons as to the possibilities.

As much as I wonder what I could have done differently and overthink myself into a mess, it’s important to remember for anyone that you were just being yourself. You know in your heart that you wouldn’t have changed anything.

I noticed during the scenario when I was trying to impress “The Guy”, he couldn’t have cared less. I was being my goofy self, dancing in a group setting and while I was doing that, many other people noticed and had fun with me. Those are the people you need to focus on. The ones who enjoy being around you and that you don’t need to try so hard to win over.

I even went so far as to attempt to apologize for my goofiness he didn’t like. I apologized for being myself basically (Face-palm). Needless to say, he never responded.

It’s so hard especially when you just want that one person to like you. I’ve learned this time and time again throughout my life in so many different scenarios; it just means something better is coming.

So why are you listening to the girl who’s done this 14 million times? When it comes to my 14th million and one time, I think I’ll know how to go about it. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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