Everything is going to be okay. As the old adage goes, “This too shall pass.”
I’m not going to tell you when you’ll be okay because you have to earn it and more importantly, you have to learn from it. Determination, patience, and faith will be your strongest weapons. You have to believe that you’re going to get there, and that you’re going to be truly okay.
I’m not going to tell you how easy of a task it is because it really isn’t. Those emotions that had cut you deep won’t be healed by time, more so by another person. No, those wounds will be your battle scar, a testament to your survival, a reminder that you have overcome such a daunting challenge, an assurance that it’s not all hurricanes and thunderstorms.
I’m not going to tell you to stop blaming yourself because you have to come into terms with your mistakes- to admit your fault in the situation, to try and put things in perspective, and to understand what triggers your reaction. This will be the foundation of your wisdom.
I’m not going to tell you to stop trusting people because you still should.
Always hold on to the faith that there’s good in every person, and that they have their own reasons why they act the way they do, and why they are the way they are.
I’m not going to tell you to quit crying about it because you need to let all the pain out. Those tears are not your enemies; they are your companions, the witnesses to your vulnerability as a person. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
I’m not going to tell you to talk about it because you deserve to mourn in private for whatever loss or pain you felt.
We all have our ways of coping and it’s our choice to do whatever makes us feel good. Draw, paint, write about it through a poem or a song, or basically anything that will help you ease the pain. When you’re ready, you can talk to someone about it. Most of the time we just need someone to listen, to be there, to make us feel like we’re not going through it alone, to keep us on our feet when we feel like giving up.
I’m not going to tell you to forget everything because at one point in time, it was what you wanted. You have to stand by every decision you make – no matter how small or big the impact is. As long as you’re not hurting another person, never apologize for doing the things that make you happy – you owe yourself that.
I’m not going to tell you to stay away from what hurt you but if that’s what you need to do, then so be it. It’s not a sin to put yourself first especially when you know you’re putting a great deal of strain on you.
Love yourself enough to save you from self-destruction.
To acknowledge the fact that you are not alright is to embrace the good and the bad of humanity. These kinds of emotions do not make us weak. On the contrary, it strengthens us. It makes us better decision-makers, better friends to those we impart our journey with, and a better person with a wider perspective and understanding of the world.
You’ll get there. Just hold on. Keep the faith.