42 Bisexual People Describe The Difference Between Dating Men And Women

42 Bisexual People Describe The Difference Between Dating Men And Women
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1. Men don’t steal my clothes as often when we break up.

“Men are easy, with women I have to actually try to seem cool. This sucks because I am not cool.

Also men don’t steal my clothes as often when we break up.”

honestlyprobablyfake


2. The difference is my wallet is fucking empty when I date a woman.

“Coming from a woman who’s dated both men and women—the difference is my wallet is fucking empty when I date a woman 😂”

Fearfullqueen


3. Girls never tried to stick their dick in my ass.

“Zero difference in sex. I’m serious.. same kisses, same body heat, same heart beating and everything feels the same… except the fact that girls never tried to stick their dick in my ass. but overall men are much easier to date, less drama and stress. dude here.”

yanai222


4. Most women are so fucking emotional. Everything comes down to feels and process rather than facts and results.

“Female. I was in LT lesbian relationships for around 16 years.

Most women are so fucking emotional. Everything comes down to feels and process rather than facts and results. Doesn’t matter if we’re talking about household chores or finances for the women’s tackle football team; everybody’s sure everybody else was dogwhistling about God knows what.

Reconciling fact vs feels is hard enough in a heterosexual relationship. When you’re dealing with two sets of high-level feels, PMS, menopause…. honestly, I’m amazed that lesbian couples stay together as long as they do. (I was with my partners for 2 and 14 years, respectively.)

Upside: It makes me appreciate men, and especially my husband.”

refugefirstmate


5. The only difference I have noticed is gay men will pay half at dinner.

“I have only dated gay men and straight women. They are both as needy, cliquey and annoying as each other. They are both riddled with self-esteem issues.

The only difference I have noticed is gay men will pay half at dinner.

Honestly I hate all of them.”

Happy_Feces


6. With men, you get farted on a lot more often.

“With men, you get farted on a lot more often.”

howtodous


7. The truest statement I have come across is that men are stupid and women are insane.

“The truest statement I have come across is that men are stupid and women are insane.

Guys don’t get that when they fall asleep when they were supposed to call you or when they don’t get back to you for hours it makes you feel like you aren’t worth their time. They don’t know how hard you try to not seem needy.

In opposition girls don’t get that you have a day outside of them and you take them at face value. When they act like they don’t like you of course you are going to assume they don’t like you. Even as a woman I still can’t tell the difference between them really not wanting me and them wanting me to chase them.

Simple things I have learned:

Men can’t take hints. I’ve learned to be blunt, don’t play games but still use tact and not be a bitch.

Women don’t like attainable people. I found that women are more interested in me when someone else is interested in me or while I’m busy with a project.

Women are not fine when they say so… Men are.

Women can and will think about a dozen things wile fucking. Men think of one.”

welpthatreallysucks


8. Girls take it more personally if you don’t cum.

“Bi guy here. After long periods of sex without ejaculation:

Girls—Is it me? Is something wrong? (Two days later) are you sure you’re not fully gay?

Guys—no sweat bro…mind if I finish off and we grab a pizza?”

John-oc


9. The girls I’ve dated have actually been significantly quicker to tell me when something’s wrong.

“The girls I’ve dated have actually been significantly quicker to tell me when something’s wrong. The guys I’ve dated bottled it in sometimes for a month before I even knew anything was up.”

riddley16


10. Women tend to be a bit more ‘political’ about sex.

“When you’re in a same-sex relationship, make absolutely sure you’re on the same page about sexuality and identity politics.

I’m not sure how is for men, but as a bisexual woman who dated a lesbian for two years, she made my live a living hell by expecting me to renounce my man-loving ways and fully conform to being a lesbian.

At least the man I dated before then wasn’t a full-on psychopath, just an idiot.”

FromADenOfBeasts


11. Dating and sex with a woman is a fucking dance, testing the waters to see how far you’re allowed to go. Dating and sex with a man is usually ‘do you have a cock?

“Hello, I’m a bisexual man.

The biggest difference I’ve noticed is how forward you can be with sex right from the get-go. Dating and sex with a woman is a fucking dance, testing the waters to see how far you’re allowed to go. Dating and sex with a man is usually ‘do you have a cock? Alright, let’s get that shit in me ASAP homie.’

I think it comes from a difference in how homosexual relationships are founded. Since ‘straight’ is the default, you have to know what to say and when to say it and there are all sorts of sexual and cultural hang-ups to deal with. And even then, there’s always the question of ‘am I actually attracted to this woman sexually or are we really good friends?’ Dating a man is based mostly on a known sexual desire, and that difference in baseline really changes the dynamic of the relationship.

Being a moderately attractive gay man, the scale is definitely different. I’m maybe a 6 or 7 to women, but in the general gay community I feel like an 8 or 9. Women in general have a very strong advantage in the dating game versus men; attractive gay men have a very strong advantage in the same way.”

GreatAndPowerfulNixy


12. Women are so soft. And they kiss soft, too. Men feel rougher and harder.

“I am a woman who has dated both men and women. Currently dating a woman. Dated more men in the past (but this probably has more to do with the numbers there will always be more straight men than women who date women).

Relationships are surprisingly similar—there is a need for communication and emotional and physical intimacy whether or not the partner is male or female.

Differences:

Women are so soft. And they kiss soft, too. Men feel rougher and harder.

I have seen other replies in this thread stating women are more emotional—I disagree with this. Men just show their emotions differently. Plus, I found it necessary to cater more to men’s egos.

The sex: depending on the partner’s sexual style they can be very different or very similar. But in general sex with women is more varied, tends to last longer, and everyone orgasms 5-10 times. Sex with men tends to be more penis-focused. However, both men and women can be selfish or giving lovers.

But by far the biggest difference was expectations for gender roles in the relationship. Pretty much all men I dated expected that I carry the burden of the emotional work of the relationship and (if living with them) the housework. It is really not attractive when your boyfriend just expects you to be responsible for his laundry and remember birthdays/pick up cards/make the shopping list/tell him what chores to ‘help’ with as if I turned into their secretary or mom. And the thing was they weren’t even conscious of it! With the women I have dated, it has been far more equal with actual discussions about these things. I mean all couples argue about chores, but it’s nice when the default expectation that I’m responsible for it isn’t there.”

drunkersloth42


13. Sex wise…guys are more wild and assertive of what they want like me.

“Bi-male here. I just started seeing guys in general but I’m still reluctant to show affection in public. In fact, I haven’t and it’s a huge problem. It’s not because I live in a shitty country or city…but the mentality I had before I realized I liked both was very conservative. I live in a very diverse city so I don’t think most will find it disgusting but my own race would probably make fun of me. They are more open and always know what they want. If we go out, there’s no drama and they’re a lot more daring than women.

Dating women is great, too, but a little more conflicted. I find it normal to show PDA like a normal couple. There’s usually more drama and they are very picky about what they want. They would give you signs you are supposed to know and I will never pick up on it. But when I do, I get a little upset of why couldn’t they just tell me. I usually spend more money too haha….

Sex wise…guys are more wild and assertive of what they want like me. While girls are more into just lying there and let me do the work without telling me what they want. After the deed is done…that’s when they tell me ‘oh you should’ve done this to me, this and that… dadada.’

I’m probably 80 on girls and 20 guys, though. Both are very hot. They always say bisexuals have a bigger dating pool, but I don’t think so. When girls find out you’re bi… they usually turn around haha!”

Xpdcion


14. Women like to play more games than men. Men are more direct.

“Male who has dated both men and women.

Most women don’t trust bisexual dudes, even if they decide to have a relationship with you. My last gf used to make fun of me for being bi and she tried to tell me I really was just gay but couldn’t admit it. She once said to me that she thought I was going to give her an STD because I am bi…then she burst out laughing like it was funny.

Women like to play more games than men. Men are more direct. If a guy wants to have sex, he is not afraid to let you know it. If something bothers a guy, you will find out about it, trust me.

Men have more body hair, which I like. Not sure I would want a woman with a hairy chest. Although I will say that women tend to have bigger nipples, which is a huge turn-on.”

pw1016


15. Men are easier to date in my experience, but also harder to communicate with.

“I’m a girly girl who likes girly girls. I hated the expectation that I had to fill a male role. I’m not a bad-looking chick, but with my ex I felt like a fat sweaty bald dude who was constantly in trouble. I will say I miss her compassion and ability to express emotions, though. And the silky feeling of her thick black hair. Her worldly view and love of elephants. And just her. Okay, I’m depressed now. Men are easier to date in my experience, but also harder to communicate with.”

FeelinLikeALoadedGun


16. Girls are soft and pretty and warm and titties and you wanna stare at them all day like who made you Ms. Goddess, and guys are beard and problems lol.

“(Am girl) the difference I noticed is with myself. With a guy, I want to be cuddled and to feel safe in his arms, etc., but with a girl, I want to cuddle her and make her feel safe. also, I find that being with on the same page with a girl because (I guess) she’s more likely to understand why I’d feel a certain way, and she already knows all the nuances girls catch and use to communicate. With a guy communication has to be more intentional: if, say, I’m upset, I’ve taken to telling guys exactly why I’m upset and exactly how it makes me feel, rather than assuming they will infer. and girls are soft and pretty and warm and titties and you wanna stare at them all day like who made you Ms. Goddess, and guys are beard and problems lol.”

swiggityswell


17. Women are more emotionally available and articulate. Men are more physically available.

“Women are more emotionally available and articulate. Men are more physically available. When it comes to actual dating, I prefer women because I get to feel more emotionally supportive and supported. If I need a blowjob, and I need it like right now, going to scruff city.

Women and men also have sex for different reasons. For men, sex is like a pressure valve. Their desire builds up over time and needs to be vented every once in a while. Sex for women is much more mental, she has to be in the right headspace for it. And that feeling can disappear at the drop of a hat with the right trigger. Whereas when men get turned on, there’s a certain threshold where it seems like nothing can switch it off.

In my experience, the best lovers: Women who usually partner with women. The give and take is amazing. 10/10, would definitely still pick girls if I was one.

Obviously, there are exceptions on both sides.”

throwingitaway724


18. Women have softer lips and they’re so gentle. Less hairy too, no prickliness from shaving.

“The main difference is the way a woman kisses vs how a guy kisses, which has been mentioned already in the comments, but I’m saying it again. Women have softer lips and they’re so gentle. Less hairy too, no prickliness from shaving. I could make out with a woman for hours. Everyone should try it haha. And apparently my boyfriend is the only dude out there who doesn’t want a threesome, much to my dismay…”

Exit63


19. With guys, I can play fucking Xbox after a bad day at work without being harassed about spending time together.

“I’m gay but I’ve dated quite a few women when I was trying to turn myself straight.

The number one difference I’ve noticed seems silly: I can play fucking Xbox after a bad day at work without being harassed about spending time together. My guy will even cook on those nights, and he can barely boil water.

Guys are awesome.”

PTFOscout


20. When dating women in heterosexual relationships, men will give up in disagreements.

“Male here who has dated both men and women. One thing I’ve noticed is that when dating women in heterosexual relationships, men will give up in disagreements. Especially if they are minor.

Say you are trying to decide on where to eat. I want Chinese and she wants Italian. I care about this 60% while she cares about this 80%. We argue about where to eat. Eventually I’ll reach a limit of how much I’ll argue about this vs how much I want Chinese. It’s not worth arguing about anymore, so I’ll go for Italian. Keep in mind I still wanted Chinese food. I find this situation will play out a lot.

Dating men this rarely happens. Sure you get disagreements and have to compromise, but the overall relationship seems to be more balanced.”

Lokican


21. When you are feeling down, a man’s cuddle can make you feel safe in a way women can’t.

“Bisexual Male here. 25 y.o.

Standard:
Women are less open on their immediate thoughts. There is ‘the chase’ dance that you must perform during the courting stage. They are more concerned about labels than men. That said, I find it easier to be more personal with women.

Men tend to be more straightforward. They are generally open to sex quite early and won’t hesitate to communicate it. They are less concerned about labels. Also when you are feeling down, a man’s cuddle can make you feel safe in a way women can’t.

Sex:
Straight couples have defined sex roles so usually you are expected to take control. You are the alpha and you are supposed to do the fucking. Women are also less vocal in my opinion. But have an easier time being quiet if needed be.

In gay sex there is more of a push-and-pull dynamic. Yes, the person getting fucked can be dominant. Even the most submissive bottoms push back. Guys are far more communicative because the roles are not defined and are open to kinks, “You want to get rimmed? Well as long as you showered”. Guys give superior blow jobs and are far more willing to have sex. And lastly guys are far more vocal in general, as the sex is more rough. Hard to not moan when you’re getting stretched out.

Body:
Women are just beautiful beings. I believe breasts and vaginas look far more attractive than a penis. Women’s skin is soft and their bodies are more fragile.

Men are attractive to me because of their masculinity. From thin to muscular they have lines on their bodies. The soft skin is exchanged for little things that are the essence of men like leg hair.

However, penises can vary drastically. There truly are some ugly ones out there. But there are others that make your imagination run with wild fantasies. Also butts, many men make the mistake of not working out their butts. Big mistake.

Match—making:
Men in general, but gay men in particular are more open to dating different races/ethnicities. I believe there is good amount of data backing this up. I think part of this is due to the availability of gay sex. You get to try it with a variety of people. As a Latino, I’ve only had sex with white women largely because my experiences are more limited. But I’ve had sex with white men, Latino men, Asian men, and Black men.

However, men are more concerned about body shapes. Gay men will date different races but they will look for more similar body types since they have a more accurate point of comparison. I try to be open but I know I do to an extent look for someone that keeps themselves lean/toned as I put the work myself.

I think women gravitate more toward their racial circles or white men. However, I think they are more forgiving of unflattering bodies.

Conclusion
Want to meet girls? Work on your ‘game.’ Want to meet guys? Hit the gym.”

Redditmapz


22. Bisexual woman here. The guys I’ve dated think it’s ‘hot,’ while the women I’ve dated seem bothered that I harbor any attraction to men.

“Bisexual woman here. The guys I’ve dated think it’s ‘hot,’ while the women I’ve dated seem bothered that I harbor any attraction to men. Both reactions are annoying and make me feel like my sexuality isn’t being taken seriously.”

IrishCubanGrrrl


23. The sexual power dynamics are more complicated and interesting in same-sex relationships.

“The sexual power dynamics are more complicated and interesting in same-sex relationships.

Being a female bottom is just sort of a given in het relationships, but being fucked in my same-sex relationship always makes me feel much more vulnerable.”

Marla_Brando


24. In my experience, the gay community has been far more ignorant towards bisexual people.

“I’m a 38-year-old bisexual. I have dated both men and women for several years. This is a brief description of my experiences.

Women, in my experience, look at a man not only for what he is, but tend to put more focus on what he could be. It seems common for a woman to want to tweak things about a man. Clothes, job, friends. I don’t mean this to sound bitter or jaded. I believe women are conditioned to be extremely selective since the dating pools are generally in their favor as far as numbers. Barring an actual deep connection, women are typically likely to avoid men who need too much work, not unlike a house or car that doesn’t justify the investment to produce something worthwhile.

Dating men, in my experience, is very different. Men primarily focus on sex. I know, deep wisdom here. Even if you have nothing in common other than being horny, gay men will still at least still be interested in sex most of the time. This is, of course, not all gay men. The ones that are sincerely looking for a partner are at a catastrophic disadvantage. Monogamy is all but nonexistent among gay men. Even functioning relationships are temporary. Most sites and apps are full of couples who have long since tired of fucking the same person. Some couples branch out and fuck other people with the permission of their partner. I would be more inclined to believe in the practicality of an open relationship if I had not seen so many couples split due to complications from this type of arrangement.

Regardless, being bisexual is tremendously difficult. Straight people won’t usually accept you no matter how tolerant they are told to be. I’m told by many in the gay community that most bisexual men are simply in denial or uncomfortable with the idea of coming out. In my experience, the gay community has been far more ignorant towards bisexual people. I keep my affiliation to myself socially. I have learned that being bisexual is worse in many cases than just being a homosexual.”

KyMaTo


25. Bisexual guy here. I honestly find men to be MUCH sweeter in a relationship.

“Bisexual guy here. I honestly find men to be MUCH sweeter in a relationship. It’s not that they can’t or won’t express their feelings; a lot of them just don’t know how. Men, despite their sexuality, are taught to bottle up feelings and not express vulnerability. I find it so cute when the guy I’m with gets flustered when trying to get deep, because you can tell that he’s trying. Women on the other hand, are allowed to be emotional and express their troubles, and in my experience, they tend to weaponize their emotions, because they know men aren’t afforded that same emotional availability. They know quick short emotional outbursts will get them what they want. I’m also only in my early 20s so maybe that behavior dissipates as women get older.”

SoYoung_SoHigh


26. Guys are better at making me feel dirty sexy. Every now and then, this girl likes to feel a little objectified by her lover. Just a little.

“I’m a bisexual woman. Here are some observations from my personal experiences.

Guys:

1) care more about what their friends think and care way too much about gender roles. I had a boyfriend who loved when I cuddled up against him and could scratch his back. I personally love having things in my lap. Sometimes, if no pillows were present, I would have him sit on my lap and scratch his back so both of our needs were taken care of. We did this in front of his friends once and he never did it again because they teased him about his masculinity.

2) are better at making me feel dirty sexy. Every now and then, this girl likes to feel a little objectified by her lover. Just a little.

3) their male friends want to know how hot I am and how good I am in bed.

4) sex is shorter but not necessarily worse. Sometimes it feels more dangerous. He might kill me, he might take his condom off.

Women:

1) give little to no fucks about gender roles, although bi girls I’ve dated seemed to care a little more than the lesbians I’ve dated.

2) are better at making me feel beautiful sexy. They embrace my flaws and make me feel empowered-kind-of-sexy.

3) their female friends want to know how well I treat them and aspects of my personality.

4) sex is longer and for me, feels safer. I feel more comfortable having a random hook up show up at my hotel room to fuck for 5 hours if she is a woman. With men, I am sometimes even afraid to meet up for a Tinder date in public.

A big similarity between some men and women I have been with is jealousy directed at the opposite gender. For the guys, it was kind of justified. Women are my favorite.

These are generalizations based on my own experiences. I have had people/experiences that have proved this wrong, but they were the outliers I guess.”

ladleitup


27. Girls are just so tilted by the normal heterosexual dating atmosphere that it is often impossible for me to get through the attitudes.

“It’s complicated.

I love picking guys up.

I hate picking girls up.

I’m sorry but girls are just so tilted by the normal heterosexual dating atmosphere that it is often impossible for me to get through the attitudes. I don’t wanna date a lady who is bitching about guys all the time I wanna date a person who will quite literally just wanna go have fun like tonight.

I can hit up a guy on Grindr, discuss our kinks, and get each other off and fully satisfied in less than an hour. Maybe we have dinner and be on our way, then we can do it again any time.

That being said I am a bit of a dom and it can be hard to find male subs. Women are almost universally subs (in my personal experience.) So dating women can be ultimately more rewarding. Also, men tend to be more of a wild card. Many people are switches too but you get the idea.”

clashbuster


28. Dating girls often comes with far more unwritten rules and roles.

“Bisexual guy here. I’ve also lived in multiple countries.

One of the things I’ve noticed is that dating men can be a lot easier, despite (or because of) the fact society as a whole still prefers hetero couples.

The reason being that dating girls often comes with far more unwritten rules and roles. When you date another guy, there isn’t as much pressure to be the one paying for the date, or to be the emotional support without reciprocation. I’m well aware this sounds kinda fedora-tippy, but that’s some of my more negative experiences of dating some women, and the point is they never happen with guys.

With guys, they are sometimes far more desperate. I’m not sure if that’s how guys work, or if it’s because of where I’ve lived and I’m from a country with better LGBT rights, or because gay guys can only date a tiny fraction of the population. But my break ups with guys are usually messier.

As a fun side note, I’ve always gotten more grief for being bi from gay people than any straight person.”

popebarley


29. I find guys higher maintenance in general.

“The penis/vagina is one big difference I noticed. Other than that, women have different kisses, I could sit and make out with a girl All. Damn. Day. But it’s just not the same with guys. I find guys higher maintenance in general, although everyone is different. They have different expectations and don’t always say what’s on their mind. Whereas most women I’ve known that way just straight up tell me what they want and if I’m wrong or they are upset about something. Guys piss about and don’t say anything and then try to manipulate the situation. Again, just my most recent experiences, everyone’s different.”

GhostFacePizza


30. In the end they are both a pain in the ass.

“Am male, in the end they are both a pain in the ass.”

beartorus


31. Women are louder and tend to speak their mind more. The whole ‘women are complicated’ thing is bullshit. Men bottle shit up.

“Women are softer. Kisses are softer, so is touch. Every woman I’ve dated has had long hair so that can be weird at first too. Just a lot of hair that gets in the way. The sex is less centered around orgasms and more about finding out what works and doesn’t work.

Women are louder and tend to speak their mind more. The whole ‘women are complicated’ thing is bullshit. Men bottle shit up. Probably because society teaches men that having emotions makes them a li’l bitch.

Women tend to subtly initiate sex while men are more blunt. Example: a light hand brush over the small of my back and a glance vs walking up and grabbing my clitoris roughly through my shorts and grinding it around thinking its seductive.

Men tend to be weird about bisexual women and won’t shut the fuck up about threesomes. I have dated men that I have chosen not to tell that I am bisexual because I knew they would never let the threesome thing go. Women tend to not care about my sexuality and none of them have asked for a three way.

I’m very dominant with women, very submissive with men.”

WhiteDiabla


32. Girls tend to get more emotionally invested.

“Girls tend to get more emotionally invested. Relationships there move a little slower, but are—generally—more fulfilling for me personally. On the other hand, they’re a lot more subtle. You have to put in more time and mental effort to figure out what they’re thinking.

Guys, on the other hand are very direct. They’ll tell you exactly what they’re thinking at any given moment, whether you want to hear it or not. They’re less emotional than women but are usually quicker to push a relationship to a sexual level. A lot of my relationships with guys have been remarkably similar to a FWB with a woman.

These are, again, generalities. There are girls that don’t get emotionally invested in relationships and guys that do. There are girls that are perfectly fine with moving quickly to sex, and guys that are perfectly fine without it at all.”

DariusJenai


33. Women are more jealous.

“My boyfriends, while they may get a little jealous, more find it funny and we can share a laugh when I point out a girl I find attractive. My girlfriends, on the other hand, don’t even want me to think about a boy, let alone admit that I’ve dated boys in the past. Other than that, there are honestly no huge differences other than the stigma when you’re out and about with someone of the same sex.”

Digimountain


34. With women, it feels like I constantly have to fill a role. With men, I can be more myself.

“I’m male. I feel much less judged by the men I date than by the women I date, especially on things like masculinity. With women, it feels like I constantly have to fill a role. With men, I can be more myself.”

Ficrab


35. With the gay women I dated, shit was CRAZY. The level of emotional response to everything, constant reading between lines.

“Bisexual woman here. Dated primarily straight males and gay women.

I dated men first, as I wasn’t really aware of my attraction to women until after high school (small town, tiny high school with no females that tickled my fancy.)

My main observations were that the guys I dated were more emotionally closed off, and communication was a bit of a struggle. I feel that maybe that had more to do with me overthinking things and reading between the lines too often. Upon reflecting on those relationships- it seemed they were really sweet, decent dudes who didn’t know how to deal with an emotional young adult woman. Totally fair. Sex was good-to-great, I thoroughly enjoy hetero sex and don’t have any issues there. I also felt the guys I dated were so much more independent than the women I dated—if I wanted to do my own thing they were way more cool with it and did their own thing.

With the gay women I dated, shit was CRAZY. The level of emotional response to everything, constant reading between lines, overthinking was happening from TWO people now. The sex was mind-blowing and I am definitely on Team Soft. However, I felt that emotionally and psychologically it was just a constant struggle that I did not find sustainable. Also, the jealousy and territorial behavior from her was, intolerable. Too dependent on my comings and goings, and she was pretty helpless when it came to fixing shit and taking initiative to cook, help out, etc. But, the SEX. That, I do miss very much.

Married a man. 10/10 would marry this man again.”

86eggplant


36. With men, the way they grab you securely and tightly when giving hugs, the way they can be chivalrous, and the strength they possess is incredible.

“As a woman who is feminine, I have dated feminine women and masculine men. I dated people that fell into the stereotypical gender ‘roles.’ I dated a woman for 4 years, married a man (now I am divorced).

I lean towards women, so I will start there. I find other women more sensual and sensitive. I am not talking sensitive as in empathetic (I dated Way crazy women—men too), but more in a feelings hurt type of way. Not just that, but women are easier to read (as a woman) when something is bothering them. Not that they will tell you WHAT is bothering them, and not that they themselves will even know, but you can feel when something is off a lot easier than with a man. I am sure it is similar in gay male couples, you feel like you are hanging out with your best same sex friend, because… you are. They understand the workings of your bodies the same way you understand theirs. Mood swings? PMSing? They totally get it. (Men: Blue Balls?—he knows your pain) Women are sensual in the way they kiss, in the way they touch. It’s lighter and sweeter… softer, more of a gentle firmness.

With men, the way they grab you securely and tightly when giving hugs, the way they can be chivalrous, and the strength they possess is incredible. I do not mean physical—mental strength. They can hold your hand as you sob snotty tears in a way that is different than a woman would. Very seldom do they join in, and when/if they do—your whole world becomes about making them feel better as well. I know—I know—women can do this as well… but the way they show support is different. Men have a way to bring calmness to chaos. They have a solid intimidation that few women possess, and that can be extremely sexy in the right atmosphere. If someone is crude, their way of defending their S.O. is more gruff and less pointed. The sexual charge a man brings to the bedroom is incredibly fun. To be tossed around like your light as a feather, and “man-handled”, the way their hands wrap around you as if saying “Mine”, makes bedroom play adventurous.

These are interchangeable of course, but the differences were held most of the time.”

tatualysse


37. It’s easier to talk about things with women than men.

“Bisexual woman (although I lean more towards women).

I found kissing women to be more enjoyable. I have a habit of putting my hands on their hips as we kiss. Also, the kisses are so soft compared to men. The guys I’ve kissed seem to stick their lips out or immediately start trying to French kiss. Doesn’t help that it felt weird when I would put my hands on their hips lol like oops. my bad.

It’s easier to talk about things with women than men. It just seemed like they liked to keep it to themselves instead of trying to talk about it.

It’s hard to believe (because of my appearance), but I can be very romantic. Being romantic towards men felt odd. Like THEY’RE supposed to be romantic and I’m supposed to be on the receiving end. You never really see a girl give a guy flowers. Meanwhile with women, I didn’t feel odd at all.

Obviously, everyone is different, but I enjoyed sex more with women instead of men. I felt closer towards my partner afterwards and more affectionate like kissing them all over their face. If I did that with a guy, I’m not sure how either of us would react. I got off way more with women too. Men just made me feel awkward in the end.

Threesomes… lol. Most men I’ve dated would ask me if I was ever down to have one. I’ve dated one guy who told me (after I told him I’m bi, but didn’t bring up threesome) that he would never want to have one. Thank god because it gets annoying getting asked and repeatedly saying no. The women I’ve dated showed zero interest in threesomes.”

roflpancakemix


38. With women, BJs last 5, at most 10 mins. With guys, they can last as long as you want. I’ve had blowjobs last 20-40 mins before.

“Blowjobs. With women, BJs last 5, at most 10 mins. With guys, they can last as long as you want. I’ve had blowjobs last 20-40 mins before. You have to warn women you’re cumming, and they generally stop at that point. Not with guys. You don’t have to warn them and they keep sucking long after you finished cumming. Also, guys are a million time better a BJ’s. They feel way better than what any woman can do. Deep throat is the norm too. Guys will also thank you for letting give you a BJ. They don’t feel like it’s an obligation. Sex in general is better with guys. Now I only have sex with women when there’s not a guy available.”

Cumfeast


39. Girls are a bit more closed off with relationship issues and rigid to changes in a relationship dynamic.

“Guys are very straight orward about most things. And with that, I feel they can be more cooperative and compromising. Relationship issues, sex, what they want and what they dislike. It all comes WAY easier. Sex is more aggressive on average. Sex is generally far more casual.

Girls are a bit more closed off with relationship issues and rigid to changes in a relationship dynamic. Sex is more strategy and it takes effort to learn a new sexual partner but ultimately can be more fulfilling because of it.

Really, guys are just easier all around. Maybe it’s because I am one and I get the way we think.”

_ansyn37


40. Both are equally mercurial, overly sensitive, clingy, hysterical, bird-brained homunculi.

“Both are equally mercurial, overly sensitive, clingy, hysterical, bird-brained homunculi.

On the plus side for females if I need some panties I can just ask her for a pair.

On the plus side for males they got nice big t shirts to sleep in and hoodies to borrow.

But let’s be honest I just like to borrow clothing from either sex.”

Foxlust


41. Women tend to be more emotionally needy, while men tend to be more sexually needy.

“Bisexual guy here: for the most part (by no means universal) women tend to be more emotionally needy, while men tend to be more sexually needy. Sex with men tend to be rougher and focused on the orgasm, sex with women tends to be more connective and less just pure pleasure. Honestly the biggest difference isn’t between men and women but between other bisexual people and straight/gay people. Most straight/gay people tend to get really insecure about you being attracted to the sex they don’t belong to, and a lot try to convert you to their side. Gay men seem to be the biggest offenders. Other bi people on the other hand seem to be really cool with discussing being attracted to other people no matter when sex/gender.”

Smiling_Aku


42. Women are so much more romantic. In my experience, relationships with women are extremely passionate and affectionate.

“Women are so much more romantic. In my experience, relationships with women are extremely passionate and affectionate.

With that said…it is also very hard to be with a woman. For me, those relationships had much more arguing as well. I gained a new level of appreciation for men who date women. It’s tough to keep us happy!

Men just don’t pay attention to the fine details like women do, so that can be very frustrating and make you feel unimportant.”

zeemarie88 TC mark

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