1. ‘I never loved you.’
“My wife of 23 years said she never loved me. The life we built was a lie.”
2. ‘Your brother is better in bed.’
“‘Your brother is better in bed.’ She’d been cheating on me. Yes, with him.”
3. ‘I can’t stay with someone who’s going to die soon anyways.’
“That he never knew my dealing with breast and then cervical cancer could be such an inconvenience for him, and that he couldn’t stay with someone who was likely ‘going to die soon anyways.’
cancer free for 8 years now, and happily married with a beautiful stepdaughter.”
4. ‘You’re not defective, you just come without any useful features.’
“‘You’re not defective, you just come without any useful features.’” in relation to me not wanting to have sex with him (I was quite young). Now I just find it funny.”
6. ‘Whoever molested you when you were little must have seriously fucked you in the head.’
“‘Whoever molested you when you were little must have seriously fucked you in the head.’
She was the only person I’d told that. And I only told her so she wouldn’t feel alone because she’d broke down to me about her being abused when she was little and I didn’t want her to feel alone. She thinks I’m a cheater when I’m not it’s whatever though lol.”
7. ‘Your depression makes me depressed and I hate you for it.’
“‘No wonder I cheated on you.’ ‘Your depression makes me depressed and I hate you for it.’ ‘You deserved it then and you deserve it right now for what you’re saying to me.’ In reference to him hitting me.”
8. ‘Your penis is small compared to most I’ve seen.’
“One of my exes worked as a medical assistant for a while, and one of her jobs was to ‘prep’ people getting vasectomies by shaving them. She made the offhand comment during our breakup that ‘actually your penis is small compared to most I’ve seen.’
Kinda put me off-kilter for a while, until I actually got confirmation that I have a ‘good’ size that doesn’t leave girls sore/stretched too bad, it’s been said to be ‘perfect size for humping’, so … I’m good with that :)
9. ‘You’re fat and disgusting and too ugly to deserve love.’
“‘I never loved you. You will never be loved. You’re fat and disgusting and too ugly to deserve love. And she was the best sex I’ve ever had.’ (directly quoted from the Facebook message) He stalked me for a year after that and begged to get back together. I was really hard to overcome those thoughts.”
10. ‘You’ll never be more than the fucked-up kid of two horrible addicts.’
“‘You’re nothing anyway. You’ll never be more than the fucked-up kid of two horrible addicts. Your whole life… that’s what you’ll be.’”
11. ‘I faked everything, I never liked you.’
“‘I faked everything, I never liked you.’”
12. ‘I didn’t fuck her, she just blew me a few times.’
“‘I didn’t fuck her, she just blew me a few times.’ Ow.”
13. ‘I don’t know why you actually thought we were going to get married.’
“‘I don’t know why you actually thought we were going to get married. I’m only 26.’
Uh, motherfucker, because you fucking proposed to me.”
14. ‘He has a better job and he’s taller.’
“When my ex found somebody else, she went with the line ‘He has a better job and he’s taller,’ ouch!! I don’t know what his job was but I’m 6’2″ so I’m only half offended, I’m happy at this height.”
15. ‘You don’t give me butterflies.’
“The worst thing he told me was a few months after we ‘broke up.’ We were never officially in a relationship, but after a year-ish of dating, I figured I could ask.
‘Break-up’ month: Me: Are you seeing someone else? Where is this going?
Him: Actively seeing? No, but I have met other people I want to date. You don’t give me butterflies. Let’s take a step back.
Me: Cool. Let’s stop seeing each other.
Two months later, I avoided him at a concert I didn’t know he was going to be at. I was with a coworker. He sent me a text the next day sounding whiny and still wanting to control where I go and what I do. He then decided to write me a 10-paragraph rant (on Reddit) about how I was a ‘HORRIBLE SHELL OF A HUMAN BEING WITH NO PERSONALITY’ and justifies all the reasons I should hate myself and why no one would want to date me.
Wonderful. Anytime I think about any good memory of him, I just conjure up that memory to remind myself what an insecure, immature brat he is.”
16. ‘She’s better than you in every way.’
“He started telling me the details of his cheating.
Originally he told me it was a drunken mistake and he was completely blacked out. After I dumped him he told me the truth.
He said it wasn’t one night, it was two. They fucked 13 times, and the first time he called her by my name. He said she was better than me in every way.
That had me really fucked up for a while, which was his intention.”
17. ‘I love you.’
“‘I love you.’
Said after the actual dumping. Neither of us had said it yet to each other. It made me more angry than all the things we’d been fighting about combined.”
18. ‘I would have never married you if I knew how much my life would have sucked.’
“Ex-wife: ‘I would have never married you if I knew how much my life would have sucked.’
She had made new ‘friends’ and she wanted to live their lifestyle. Wanted to buy a boat and go boating, but we had her medical bills, our kids braces, a mortgage, two car payments, saving up for a trip and retirement. But, she NEEDS a $50,000 boat. She wants to live like her new friend. Lots of money, not a care in the world, and always out on their boat.
She comes in one day and tells me that I’m horrible, boring and a pathetic guy. That’s after supporting her as a SAHM for years and providing for everyone. She leaves me, moves straight into her ‘friend’s’ house (some guy) and files for divorce. They get engaged within ~3 weeks and are married a day or two after the divorce.
Well, he thought SHE had money. She thought HE had money. Neither had a red cent. He leaves her when he realizes she didn’t get a massive payday in the divorce as he thought she would get spousal support for life. The child support payments aren’t enough to fund his lavish lifestyle and he hates kids. Within 8 months, the whole thing is over.
Suddenly, she’s backpedaling. It was a ‘mid-life crisis’ and she wants me back. Our kids are furious with her and only begrudgingly spend time with her. She had to return to work to support herself, lives in a small two-bedroom apartment, and has to bargain shop because she’s not the custodial parent. She still sends me letters apologizing and asking for another chance.”
19. ‘I’m really sorry, but I only had to date you for a week.’
“‘I’m really sorry, but I only had to date you for a week.’
She lost a bet on a football game. That shit fucked up my self-esteem for the rest of my time in school.”
20. ‘This isn’t going to work out. You have baggage now.’
“‘This isn’t going to work out. You have baggage now.’ His response when I called him from the hospital after my father passed away.”
21. ‘You’re not my passion; You don’t make me melt.’
“‘You’re not my passion; You don’t make me melt.’
Said about a week after she told me I make her melt.”
22. ‘If you weren’t losing your hair I’d find you attractive.’
“‘If you weren’t losing your hair I’d find you attractive. I just can’t be with a bald man. What would people say?’
She said this to me when I was 20 at an Applebee’s and still wanted me to pay for dinner.”
23. ‘Poof, you’re single.’
“‘Hey, you wanna see a magic trick?’
does crazy things with his hands
‘Poof, you’re single.’”
24. ‘You’ll never be truly over me.’
“‘You’ll never be truly over me, and you’ll always wonder what made me leave you, and for me, that’s punishment enough.’ She thought I had cheated on her, but she actually was the one cheating on me, which prompted me to break up with her. It really fucked me up at the time though, I thought she was the one.”
25. ‘My mom didn’t think you’re attractive enough for me and thinks you’re lazy.’
“‘She called me on my birthday to break up with me because “my mom didn’t think you’re attractive enough for me and thinks you’re lazy.’
I was an engineer training for a triathlon. I helped her overcome an eating disorder and a heroin addiction.
I’m not religious, but I’d like to think it was a birthday gift from God.”
26. ‘I’m seeing a new guy because you’re boring.’
“I was in a relationship with someone who didn’t break it off until she casually mentioned she was seeing someone else. (She was 22 and had been divorced twice, I had a dry spell for a couple years…)
Anyway, she told me she was seeing a new guy because I was boring. At the time, being boring was the worst thing I could think of being. I told her the only way she got guys to like her was to fuck them.”
27. ‘‘Well, it’s New Year’s Eve & I’m in San Diego with I think you know who, so fuck you.’
“Left on voicemail: ‘Well, it’s New Year’s Eve & I’m in San Diego with I think you know who, so fuck you.’
It was not my favorite start of the year.”
28. ‘I’ve lied to you since the start, and you stupidly fell for all of it, you idiot.’
“‘I’ve lied to you since the start, and you stupidly fell for all of it, you idiot. I just wanted to see how you would react to my experiments.’
He was referencing the supposed schizophrenia, multiple personality disorder, and bipolar disorder. He said and did a lot of nasty things under the guise of that. He also was referencing all of the times he told me he loved me (a lot).
Oh, and I was with him for like five years. Awesome waste of my time. :”
29. ‘Our relationship is about the emotions, not the sex.’
“After catching him cheating on me in my own house, with my cousin, ON MY BIRTHDAY, his reason was, ‘Our relationship is about the emotions, not the sex.’
Apparently the whole time he kept fucking other girls while leaving the emotional baggage parts to me. I’m glad to say my brother didn’t let Jason go without a nice reminder of why you don’t fucking do that on a girl’s birthday.”
30. ‘I want to sleep with other women while I’m on holiday.’
“‘I want to sleep with other women while I’m on holiday.’
He sent me a message on Facebook.”
31. ‘I’m glad you miscarried, you’re a stupid slut who uses her pussy as validation and I hope you die.’
“I can’t remember exactly but it was something along the lines of:
‘I’m glad you miscarried, you’re a stupid slut who uses her pussy as validation and I hope you die.’”
32. ‘I think what I will miss the most is your cooking.’
“‘I think what I will miss the most is your cooking.’
What. Thee. Actual. Fuck.”
33. ‘I was with you ’til I found better.’
“I was with you ’til I found better.”
34. ‘YOU HAVE A HUGE TOUCAN NOSE!’
“He just said ‘I would have sex with any girl who asked me if you gave me blue balls again…ugh, AND YOU HAVE A HUGE TOUCAN NOSE!’
I started cry-laughing. I actually am very self-conscious because of my nose.”
35. ‘I still love you but I just think you’re a distraction from my future.’
“I still love you but I just think you’re a distraction from my future.”
36. ‘I want to be with someone with a future.’
“‘I want to be with someone with a future.’
I was recently back from the military and still finding my footing. The fact that I was working two jobs didn’t seem to matter.
She contacted me on FB a few years ago and found out that I have been fairly successful. She flat-out asked to get back in the sack with me. My wife and I got a chuckle out of it as I typed the message to turn her down.”
37. ‘I only married you because I felt sorry for you.’
“My ex-husband was the master of cruelty. However, this is a question about cruelty in breaking up so I will just give you those.
He cheated on me with his brother’s girlfriend while I was pregnant with our 3rd child. He begged forgiveness so I took him back. But only if I was able to get a tubal ligation because I didn’t want to bring another child in to a failing marriage we were supposed to be working on. Instead of getting a tubal ligation, I was talked in to getting a birth control device called Essure that eventually disabled me. He never believed anything was wrong with me.
After cheating on me again while he was in Japan two years later, he said ‘I never signed up to be with a gimp. I eventually want to leave the Army and having you and the boys as a responsibility will not allow me that. I only married you because I felt sorry for you.’
Then after saying he would not get custody of our children, he said, ‘That’s fine. You can keep the children. I’ll get remarried and make another family.’
Fast-forward three years, we still haven’t divorced and I was too sick to get a job, on the verge of being homeless, and he would sporadically pay child support. I tried to commit suicide because I knew I would no longer get to be with my children. Court gives him the children after he lied on the witness stand. He comes to my room drunk that night and says, “I always knew something like this was going to happen, I was just waiting for the moment to come. I do feel bad that I made you get Essure, though, because what self-respecting man is going to want to be with someone who can’t have children?’
Two nights before we sign our divorce papers, he raped me. This is the first time I’ve talked about this publicly.”
38. ‘I don’t want you. I don’t want to be with you. I don’t love you anymore!’
“‘Don’t you get it? I don’t want you. I don’t want to be with you. I don’t love you anymore!’ :’(”
39. ‘I don’t know what I was thinking.’
“While laughing: ‘I don’t know what I was thinking.’”
40. ‘Bitch, you are nothing without me. I ought to go over there and rape you.’
“‘Bitch, you are nothing without me. I ought to go over there and rape you. You are going to get something you are going to miss. You worthless piece of crap.’
I called one of my best friends. A six-foot-tall MMA fighter to protect me during the night. My 5’4 slim bean of an ex did tried to rape me. He got a foot in my house before my friend body slam him into the wall and broke his jaw.
I never saw my ex again. He is in jail now for raping a high schooler and trying to kill him. In the middle of the afternoon, in an alley way behind a major street.”
41. ‘I don’t like you that much, so bad luck.’
“‘Hey do you really like me? … ‘Yes.’—well, I don’t like you that much, so bad luck.”
42. ‘You’re just a giant lesbian cock-whore.’
“‘You’re just a giant lesbian cock-whore.’
Context: Ex husband wouldn’t leave the house until the divorce papers were signed (‘You can’t make me!’), so I was staying with the kids at my best friend’s house (F). Yeah that makes me a giant lesbian. Grown ass man. Also, lesbian isn’t an insult, and cock-whore kind of cancels out the lesbian part? I regret every moment of that marriage.’”
43. ‘You’re too sad all the time now.’
“‘You’re too sad all the time now.’
After coming home from a deployment for a year and I was falling into severe depression trying to reintegrate back to civilian life. It was a week before Christmas. I bought a ring.”
44. ‘I ran into my ex and we ended up having sex.’
“‘Sorry I’m late for dinner. I ran into my ex and we ended up having sex. So we need to talk…’”
45. ‘My biological clock is running and you are not it.’
“‘My biological clock is running and you are not it.’ She said this to me at a restaurant just seconds before our meal arrived. I couldn’t eat I was so shocked at getting dumped.”
46. ‘No one will ever be able to love you because I ruined you.’
“‘No one will ever be able to love you because I ruined you.’ Said by abusive ex-boyfriend who knew fully well he was manipulating and abusing me.”
47. ‘You’re not pretty enough to make the drive for.’
“It was a long-distance (read an hour and a half drive) relationship.
When he broke up with me, his exact words were, ‘You’re not pretty enough to make the drive for.’”
48. ‘You didn’t actually think I loved you, right?’
“‘You didn’t actually think I loved you, right? People don’t really love each other until they’re like in their thirties or something.’
Cruel and stupid it turned out.”
49. ‘I just don’t like being around you.’
“‘I just don’t like being around you.’
Came pretty out of left field, and it was my first breakup, so it was pretty rough. The worst part of it was when a week later she tried to pull me back in for emotional support and nothing else. Being inexperienced and not being anywhere close to being over her, I went right back to her. I of course got nothing out of the deal. Ended up telling her off and getting closure like 2-3 months later.
This girl is probably the single most neurotic person you’ll ever meet. I don’t know much about her life now, but I hear from a few of my friends that kept her in their social circles that she was basically a train wreck after she left me (we dated my freshmen year of college). There were some interesting wardrobe choices which included a wearing a tutu to class at one point, and I’ve heard she got into painkillers. I can’t imagine that’s the end of it, but I’m not super interested in finding out more. That was 6 years ago, but I’m still glad she’s out of my life for good.”
50. ‘Your mother must be turning over in her grave at how much of a man you turned out to be.’
“‘Your mother must be turning over in her grave at how much of a man you turned out to be. You should be glad she is dead so she didn’t have to see how much of a failure you are.’ I was dumping them for the record. It was a very abusive relationship that pretty much cost me everything I had.”
51. ‘I just wanted to get my dick wet.’
“‘I just wanted to get my dick wet.’ He literally said that to my face after 6 months.”
52. ‘You’re so ugly I have to be drunk to go near you.’
“Told me I was so ugly he had to be drunk to go near me, also that I looked like a donkey. I like donkeys so I don’t really mind. Finally ended a 5 year on and off again relationship where I was constantly cheated on. He cheated on the next girl too so he didn’t change.”
53. ‘I’m sorry you have issues and I can’t help you.’
“‘I’m sorry babe I don’t have free time to care for you. I’m sorry I don’t prioritize you. I’m sorry my life is not revolving around you. I’m sorry you have issues and I can’t help you.’
I was a depressive and suicidal (ended up in the hospital, Baker Acted) person at the time. Was seeing a therapist which helped.
But what helped the most was her breaking my fucking life. I was able to build my life anew.
She came back again months later and was trying to see me, then when I started letting her in (like an idiot) she broke things off and was going around trying to see other people.
My life from 20-27 has been a really cruel joke.”
54. ‘Even your dog hates you.’
“‘Even your dog hates you.’”
55. ‘I love sleeping with you, but you don’t have a great body.’
“We were friends with benefits and he ended it by saying ‘I love sleeping with you, but you don’t have a great body.’ Cut ties real quick.”
56. ‘I faked every orgasm.’
“‘I faked every orgasm.’ Hurt pretty bad. I don’t think it was true, and I think she was just trying to get me angry. It takes quite a bit to get me angry. But either way it was her problem. I have never had complainants before or after, so I have got that going for me.”
57. ‘Stop that, you look fat when you cry.’
“‘Stop that, you look fat when you cry.’
58. ‘The moment I walk away I won’t even remember your name.’
“I was unhappy because we would not see each other for long times and then I would feel neglected with lack of affection. So, I broke up with him, and he said ‘I understand. But you know, the moment I walk away I won’t even remember your name…’ I know he was hurt and probably didn’t mean it, but that stung way more than I thought.”
59. ‘All my friends think you’re a 2 and don’t know why I’m with you.’
“She told me ‘all my friends think you’re a 2 and don’t know why I’m with you.’ This was said by a 25-year-old woman. The stinger on top of that is that her friends are fat as fuck. She also said ill never be able to provide the lifestyle she wants because I grew up poor and will always be poor as fuck. After for the 4 years we lived together I paid for all the rent, in an apartment I couldn’t afford and food and her car insurance because she could never hold down a job for longer than 5 months.”
60. ‘This isn’t gonna work out. You being sad all the time is annoying.’
“‘This isn’t gonna work out. You being sad all the time is annoying.’ Fuck you, I almost lost my dad, you dickhead. He was in the hospital for months after he had collapsed in the bathroom.”
61. ‘I don’t love you, I never loved you, and if you do actually love me as you say, that’s really pathetic.’
“‘I don’t love you, I never loved you, and if you do actually love me as you say, that’s really pathetic.’
She was…a piece of work. I was young and dumb and things started out well it seemed. Fortunately it was only a very harsh life lesson and not something worse like a failed marriage.”
62. ‘I was way out of your league anyway.’
“‘Whatever, I was way out of your league anyway.’”
63. ‘They’re not your kids.’
“‘They’re not your kids.’”
64. ‘Have fun living with your dick-sucking, meth-smoking mom!’
“Have fun living with your dick-sucking, meth-smoking mom!’”