27. She almost doubled her weight.
“Long-term relationship (5 years). We haven’t done the deed in about a year, haven’t done it regularly in a normal capacity in over 2.
She gained weight. When we met, she was about 130 lbs. Over time she gained weight and is now at 230lbs. Sexual drive dropped off at the same rate as her weight. Don’t get me wrong. Every other aspect of our relationship is great. We make each other laugh, connect emotionally, protect each other, and I still think she has the most beautiful eyes and hair I’ve ever seen. Our relationship isn’t in risk of breaking. But I just can’t bring myself to do it when everything below the head has turned into what it is.
What kills me most about it is how it will affect her health. She never learned good eating habits, because in high school and college she had pretty severe eating disorders. So not only does she eat like crap, it’s a touchy subject that has to be tiptoed around because freaking her out about weight will just cause her to say ‘OK’ and lose 40lbs/month by eating basically nothing.”
28. He withheld sex, said he didn’t feel emotionally connected with me and we would go months without it.
“He withheld sex, said he didn’t feel emotionally connected with me and we would go months without it. I suffered from depression, anxiety…you name it, mostly stemmed from him being a colossal butthole, didn’t seem to process that when he treated me well I was happy, didn’t argue with him, did more around the house, took better care of myself etc. He’d just treat me worse and worse the more depressed I got, the more depressed I got the less connected I felt, he cheated, I got more depressed, he felt less connected, he sought emotional connections elsewhere…it was a vicious circle.”
29. I’ve had ED for about 3 years now.
“I’ve had ED for about 3 years now, I’m 37, she’s 31. She deals with it by making me have sex with her with my limp dick. She claims to enjoy it while I add oral and finger her, but I hate doing it because it feels like a chore and I’m not hard so it’s only certain positions to use. So I try to avoid it as much as I can until she starts to argue and fight about it. I know I need to change my habits…diabetes, fucked up eating, no exercise, and being depressed but it’s really fuckin hard to stay focused on getting right even though I’m killing myself.”