43 Married People Confess Why They Stopped Having Sex With Their Spouse

16. She said no often enough that I quit asking.

“She said no often enough that I quit asking.

I’d rather be celibate than accept a pity lay or have her have sex with me out of duty. I’m good-looking and relatively fit, she’s just more interested in exhausting herself with kids and other people and doesn’t save energy enough for me (she’s not a very touch centric person with her affections).

So I just decided to reset my mental expectations so that I’m not disappointed or angry at her. No unmet expectations=not angry with my wife.

It does feel more like we are roommates who are partners in raising kids than anything else though.”

aggiecru22


17. It has gotten to the point where I could tell she was only doing it for me, and I began to feel as though I was essentially raping her.

“I gave up.

We’ve been together since the mid-80s, so there’s that. I still find her very attractive, but she has 0 interest. Until last fall we were still doing it, but over the past four or five years it has gotten to the point where I could tell she was only doing it for me, and I began to feel as though I was essentially raping her. I never forced myself on her, but her lack of enthusiasm (to the point of curling up when facing me so I could not see or touch her breasts or vagina) made me feel like a total creep. I was frank with her. She claims she wants to continue, but I just don’t believe it. If I made her dinner every night and she hardly touched it, over time I would get the impression she didn’t like my cooking. Why make the effort if it’s not wanted? That’s how I feel. So I’m done.”

clamberrypie


18. My wife developed a germ/dirtiness phobia around year one of our marriage.

“My wife developed a germ/dirtiness phobia around year one of our marriage. It’ll be 5yrs soon and there’s little to no contact of any kind physically at this point.”

The_Scientist22


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