1. Not getting it up.
“On two occasions I’ve had the normal build up to sleeping with a girl, both of us really hot for each and all that, and then couldn’t get hard. So I worry about that.”
2. Not satisfying her.
“Not satisfying her.”
2. Worrying that I’m too small.
“I had a girlfriend make a joke in sense calling my manhood small. To my face, while in bed. So that’s stuck with me for a while.”
4. I make sure I’m fully ready before she sees it for the first time.
“As a grower I make sure I’m fully ready before she sees it for the first time.”
5. Not being able to cum.
“Seriously, as a dude, not being able to get off. Really not them. Only been able to do it missionary. Never from oral before. I’ve had girls cry because I can’t cum thinking that they’re ugly or something when it’s not the case at all.”
6. Males worry about stretch marks, too.
“My stretch marks. I was hefty as a kid, and even though I’m pretty athletic now (though still losing), I’m riddled with them. Males worry about them, too.”
7. Worrying if my junk stinks.
“Worrying if my balls and member stink at 2:30 when I get an after-bar BJ.”
8. Fear of getting caught.
“The fear is getting caught. Back when I was 17, I had heart palpitations after an incident. Parents were gone and siblings were in the backyard. Had a friend of the family watch a movie with me. She was 20, redhead, freckles, she and her little brothers came to visit family since her little brothers and my brother were buds. Whilst we watched the movie, she just slipped her hand into my pants. Of course I was already rock hard since I was glazing her with her half v shirt and rocking boobs. I looked over and she just placed her head on my shoulder. She kept squeezing the shaft and then playing with my tip only to get me more excited to unzip. I told her I was going to get water but went to lock the backyard door. Then I was going to sit down but picked her up and dove into my room. Looked around for best possible angle to bang and tossed her on my desk when I shoved everything off. She was laughing at me scrambling and we started to suck face while she wrapped her legs around me. I tried to unzip but couldn’t as she got tighter around me. I then thought is sucking on her neck and earlobe which made her squirm and loosen her legs up while she dug her nails into my back. I started to unzip and that’s when I had a fucking pinch of a heart attack when my parents pulled up and my little siblings were banging at the backyard slide door wanting to get in. Quickly fixed myself unlocked the back first then sat at the sofa while she wobbled to the sofa. Then both parents came in. I was sitting at the sofa and blacked out. Woke up at hospital. Guy said I had a rush to where I blacked out. Her and her family had to then leave back to Cali. Wanted her to be my first, too. But nope.”
9. I’m super nervous about my penis size.
“I’d be super nervous about my penis size. Every girl I’ve ever been with, I’ve somehow brought it up before hand to give them the option ahead of time in case it’s something they really need. Once a girl said ‘good because I’ve got a tight small pussy’—that nearly made me cum right there. But it scares the shit out of me every time.”
10. I’m always worried about getting them pregnant.
“Getting them pregnant. Every fiber of my being is adamantly against being a parent. I am always worried about it before, during, and after.”
11. I worry that she doesn’t like uncircumcised guys.
“I’m uncircumcised and it honestly worries me that a girl is going to nope out one day. I usually warn them before, though…”
12. My dick is almost 90 degrees to the right.
“My dick is almost 90 degrees to the right.”
13. My greatest fear has been letting out a huge fart while on top of a woman.
“Well, historically my greatest fear has been letting out a huge fart while on top of a woman and the irreparable trauma it would no doubt cause her. I’ve never once let even a sigh escape from my iron starfish, and I’ve gone at it with an orchestra on deck just waiting for the go-ahead. I only have this overriding fear of tooting before the first time. After we’ve tangoed, the spell is broken and my sphincter ducks back under the radar.”
14. Cumming too quick.
“Cumming too quick. For some reason I decided to go all January ’16 masturbation free, thinking that good luck would come to me or some shit. Girlfriend broke up with me about a week into the month, but I was determined. Ended up going over to a girl’s house on like the 25th because her parents weren’t home. Didn’t last more than 2 minutes…both rounds. I now fear this will happen anytime I get with a new person :/”
15. Being so nervous that I can’t get hard.
“Being so nervous that I can’t get hard. There have been times I was so focused on making sure my partner came I just couldn’t get going immediately.”
16. If I actually have feelings for them I can’t perform.
“I have this horrible curse where I can go for a solid 2 hours of straight penetration if it’s a girl I’ve never met before, but I ALWAYS last about 5 minutes if it’s a girl I’ve known for some time. I don’t know what it is but it sucks that if I actually have feelings for them I can’t perform.”
17. I worry about worrying until it’s too late to worry anymore.
“Will I get it up, or will it be like that time I couldn’t get it up? Fuck, now I’m thinking about whether I’ll be able to get it up. OK….just stay focused—no, you twat! Don’t focus, you’ll overthink it and then you won’t be able to get it up, just relax. But what if I’m relaxed and I can’t get it up? Fuck, think sexy thoughts think sexy thoughts, fuck why do I feel under so much pressure? Maybe if I just—oh, she’s gone.”
18. I feel I’ll hurt them with my large dick.
“That I’ll hurt them with my large dick (not kidding) it’s a blessing and a curse.”
19. Finishing too quick.
“Finishing too quick. For some reason when it’s my first time with a girl I almost always have to go twice because the first time I last about 30 seconds to a minute, but after the first time it’s now my attempt at making her finish multiple times until she’s either shaking or asking me to stop. Still though that first time is embarrassing so I worry about that.”
20. I’m scared that her labia will be really messed-up looking.
“I know this will be unpopular but I’ll say it. I’m scared that her labia will be really messed-up looking because I find gnarly chewed up looking labia a complete turnoff. Downvote me if you like but it’s the truth and I can’t be the only one.”
21. I’m terrified that she’s gonna change her mind after and claim rape.
“That she’s gonna change her mind after and claim rape. A girl threatened to do that to a friend of mine when she found out he was just trying to smash, and basically hooked him into a 3 week relationship till she got bored.”
22. I fear leaving a skid mark on her bed.
“That I’ll be sliding out of bed after things get hot and heavy and leave a skid mark. Since things can get pretty slippery in places with poor ventilation during sex even a tiny bit of residue could ruin some sheets. I always try to have good hygiene, but I’ll wipe til I bleed to avoid having that happen.”
23. If I stop for a second to put a condom on, I lose my boner almost instantly.
“Performance anxiety. If I stop for a second to put a condom on, I lose my boner almost instantly and then I feel guilty as if somehow I’m telling the girl that she isn’t pretty enough for me to stay hard. It’s terrible.”
24. Most times I don’t even cum during sex.
“I have delayed/retarded ejaculation meaning most times I don’t even cum during sex. They are always impressed for the first 20 minutes, then an hour later start cry about why I don’t find them attractive and if they are horrible at sex.
It’s me, not you.”
25. That I’ll take off her panties and be hit with some bad stank.
“That I’ll take off her panties and be hit with some bad stank. Girl, wash yourself.”
26. That I’m going to hurt them.
“That I’m going to hurt them. Physically but intentionally.
I’m big, strong and, uh, quite a ways above the average below the belt if you catch my drift.
I love to use my hands and mouth, but I’m always nervous when they ask for it to go in because no matter how gently I go, there’s (almost) always a look of discomfort (which lasts for different times depending on the lady—I’ve had to stop penetration completely before too >..<”
27. I’m usually nervous to take my shirt off first.
“Being a chubby dude, I’m usually nervous to take my shirt off first. But once I do its usually far enough along where the chemistry has already taken over and it’s all about the moment.”
28. I know I’m going to cum in about six fucking seconds.
“That I know I’m going to cum in about six fucking seconds.”
29. The massive amount of pre-cum that might make a noticeable wet spot on my pants.
“The massive amount of pre-cum that might make a noticeable wet spot on my pants during foreplay.”
30. What always made me nervous was that she would regret it after and accuse me of rape.
“I’ve not been in this situation in a long time but what always made me nervous was that she would regret it after and accuse me of rape. It happened to a friend of mine in high school and it always weighed on my mind. All that a girl I was fooling around with would have to do is express the slightest doubt about going all the way and I’d slam on the brakes and we’d snuggle for the rest of the night. I probably missed a lot of chances to get laid but I never wound up in jail and every girl I dated has said they always felt safe with me.”
31. The smell.
“The smell, the smelly smell, the smelly smell that smells…..smelly…………………Pussy”
32. I have a hard time finishing.
“I have a hard time finishing, sometimes it can take hours and the vaginas get sore from me going at it. It also becomes a little monotonous for the girl, so my biggest fear is that I won’t finish within a reasonable amount of time.”
33. I worry that the chemistry is off.
“That the chemistry is off. Maybe you’re confident, but she’s too nervous to even move. Maybe you’re inexperienced but she’s experienced. Maybe you’re drunk but she’s not as drunk. When things start contrasting that’s when it doesn’t go smoothly and can feel awkward.”