28 Straight Guys Describe How They Feel When A Gay Guy Hits On Them

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1. ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTED.

“ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTED that someone would lower their standards to such a repulsively low bar.”

this_kid_again


2. The fact that they think they can make a lover out of this Sasquatch is adorable.

“Completely flattered. Gay men have ridiculously high standards and the fact that they think they can make a lover out of this Sasquatch is adorable.”

Vonmiller4president

 


3. I feel like a hot piece of ass.

“Honestly flattered, feel like a hot piece of ass. It’s not a big deal, just let them know you don’t swing that way and respect them for the confidence it took to approach you.”

ungreasedmonkey


4. Same way I do when women hit on me.

“Same way I do when women hit on me. Totally oblivious.”

LongDistRider


5. Not a problem until you meet one of those ‘you’re only straight because you haven’t tried it’ types.

“Not a problem until you meet one of those ‘you’re only straight because you haven’t tried it’ types. If that’s you please take a course about sexual harassment because you are a shit person.”

94percentstraight


6. I flirt back a little, to be honest.

“I flirt back a little, to be honest. I guess I feel bad that I might be leading someone on. But flirting is fun and this way it’s pretty low pressure for me since I never have to worry about them seeing my penis. Plus it feels nice to actually be pursued.

I take it back, considering the number of girls who’ve led me on, it feels good to do it to someone else.”

paulthenarwhal


7. You don’t have to go to the party, but it’s nice to be invited.

“My mom always told me, ‘you don’t have to go to the party, but it’s nice to be invited.’ It’s stuck with me and taught me about acceptance.”

biohazardivxx


8. I’m far too slow to pick up hints.

“With the same total lack of awareness as when a man flirts with me. Basically, unless someone flat out asks me ‘hey, wanna date?’ I’m far too slow to pick up hints.

But if they do ask and I get it: ‘um, thanks…that’s really nice but I’m straight. Sorry.’ Always flattering and I don’t mind sitting and chatting afterwards.”

Rosekernow


9. He proceeded to return to my restaurant every week for the next 3 months to ask if I were ready yet.

“Awkwardly (this applied to both sexes btw). One example; I was a server at what is fondly referred to as the ‘GayHop’ which is an IHOP located adjacent to the Boys Town neighborhood of Chicago. As the only straight man that served the night shift (9pm-7am) this happened a lot. Another server suggested anytime a guy asks to exchange numbers to demand it be written on a $100 bill. The one and only time I tried this the guy had a hundred in my face within 0.05 seconds of the proposition. His own demand was ‘If I give you this, I better fucking get some.’ Tried to back out of the situation by explaining I was straight, in a relationship, and the whole thing was a bad joke. He proceeded to return to my restaurant every week for the next 3 months to ask if I were ready yet. His normal phrasing was ‘You tired of that stank pussy yet?’ Good times.”

LordsofDeath


10. I grinned, thanked him, and walked on.

“A gentleman at a local Pride parade I went to stopped when he saw me and said, ‘Oh, my…now there’s a beautiful man.’ I grinned, thanked him, and walked on.”

Skel_Estus


11. I was crazy flattered and felt extra confident for a few days.

“Years ago I had a Craigslist Chicago Missed Connections written about me by another dude. He had come into the pharmacy I worked at. One of our regulars found the posting and brought it in to show us. The gist was ‘I like your belly and beard, let’s get coffee.’

Everyone wanted me to call, just to see what would happen. I declined, as I didn’t want to contact the guy just to reject him. Still, I was crazy flattered and felt extra confident for a few days.”

eyes_are_grey


12. Ladies, I feel your pain.

“I was drinking alone and the guy sat down near me and started up a conversation. It was very obvious he was gay, (I’m a straight male) but we had a good time talking about stuff and passing the time. He drank a lot, but was a pretty big guy. I politely refused his offer to buy a round. On leaving, he said his car was blocked in so I helped direct him out of the spot. One he was freed, he popped open the passenger door and said ‘get in the car.’ I said ‘No thanks’ and he repeated, louder ‘Get in the car.’ I said ‘no’ and started walking back to the bar, when he jumped out and pointed to the open door, screaming ‘GET IN THE CAR!’ I stopped and said nothing, but started thinking of what to do if he took a step closer to me. Then he jumped in and sped off. WTF? Ladies, I feel your pain. If you ever feel uncomfortable at a bar, tell or signal someone, please.”

whiskeyalpha7


13. It is, in all honesty, refreshing to know that there is someone eyeing you that has the balls to say something about it.

“I can speak for many men when I say this:

Flattered and appreciative.

Generally speaking, women don’t bother giving me any obvious signals of overt attraction that compliment our demeanor, style, and physical aesthetics unless they are friends or girlfriends.

We don’t receive consistent and ensuring commentary on our appearance unless we’re seen sloppy or we drastically change something about our style.

It is, in all honesty, refreshing to know that there is someone eyeing you that has the balls to say something about it, even if they have balls and you’re just not into the homosexual persuasion.

So here’s a thanks to those bold gay dudes who bother giving out compliments. You’re good people.”

Just-A-Lucky-Guy


14. A lot of them have pretty high standards in appearance so it feels good just to be hit on by them.

“I’ve been hit on directly by a few gay guys. I’m sure there are assholes who would take it the wrong way, but I think you can pick up that asshole vibe before you ask. I’m super flattered when a gay guy hits on me. A lot of them have pretty high standards in appearance so it feels good just to be hit on by them. Like the other poster said, I generally never have girls giving me compliments or hitting on me like that.

It’s just a bit awkward having to turn them down because I know how hard it is to approach a girl, I’m sure it’s doubly as hard to approach a member of the same sex who you don’t know which way they roll. As someone who doesn’t have as much experience getting hit on as girls I feel really bad disappointing someone like that.

I’d say if you don’t make it weird, they won’t make it weird. If they say no thanks, play it cool, smile, make a joke and go about your day.

Honestly gay bars are some of my favorite places tho. The girls there are awesome because they don’t have their guards up against douchebag hitting on them. The guys all want to buy me drinks. And everybody is down to dance. I don’t mind having to dodge a guy trying to grind on me now and then.”

datboitaw


15. Reactions range from ‘this is my girlfriend’ to ‘ahh what the hell, I heard prostate stimulation prevents cancer anyway.’

“It depends on how long of a dry spell I’m on. Reactions range from ‘this is my girlfriend’ to ‘ahh what the hell, I heard prostate stimulation prevents cancer anyway.’”

warpg8


16. It really made me realize that if I was a woman that sort of behavior would be scary to me.

“I was pretty flattered most of the time it happened. I lived in a neighborhood with a large gay community so it was a little normal. This one guy got kind of pushy though. It really made me realize that if I was a woman that sort of behavior would be scary to me. As a man, I could fight this other guy off, he was smaller than me. If I had been a woman getting aggressively hit on by the same guy, I wouldn’t have been able to fight him off. So now I’ve taught my little sister how to fight dirty and go for the jugular, just not literally.”

Judge_Bredd2


17. Never minded it.

“Worked at a restaurant and one of the cooks, Fat Freddy, was gay. 300+ pound 6’2 black man. I was a 5’9, 160 pound white kid.

He would occasional say to me when I went to get my orders ‘Mmmm, one day I’m-a tear you up.’ It was a running joke and he’d do it at the most inopportune or opportune time for that matter (when he could tell I was having a bad day). One day after a night of drinking we stopped to get a bite to eat, I see my friends on the other side of the table looking over my shoulder, behind me, a second later I hear ‘Mmmm, one day I’m-a tear you up.’

Freddy!!!!!! Hadn’t seen him in 2+years.

Needless to say I liked Freddy and considered him a friend, never minded it.

For the visual, give this guy a mustache and you’ve got Freddy and this is me now.”

JohnnyBrillcream


18. ‘Fuckin’ straight guys. YOU DON’T KNOW!’

“I was at a gay bar for a friend’s birthday a few years ago. Another straight friend and I were chatting. He is a pretty good looking dude. I was decent, if a little chunky, at the time. A patron of the bar, who may have been a little drunk, walked over to us. Doesn’t even give my friend a second look.

‘Stand up,’ requests the patron.

‘I’m sorry…?’ I reply.

‘Stand up and turn around for me.’

I stood up, just to get at eye level, but did not turn around.

‘Oh, no. I’m just here for a friend’s birthday. Thank you, but I’m not interested.’

‘Turn around!’

‘No, I’m good. But thanks!’

‘You don’t know! Fuckin’ straight guys. YOU DON’T KNOW!’

‘I’m pretty sure I know, but thanks again.’

And with that, he walked away, continuing to complain about how ‘straight guys don’t know!’

Honestly, it was a pretty funny encounter. And I was genuinely flattered (as I am when anyone hits on me, as it doesn’t happen very often).”

rdt156


19. I laughed, shook his hand, and went on with my night.

“I was in a nightclub a month or two ago and a guy came up to me, winked and said, ‘Hi, I’m blahblah and I like to eat ass.’ I laughed, shook his hand, and went on with my night.”

Skippyfx


20. Ask them to buy me a drink, take the drink from them, yell ‘white girl’d!’ and run away.

“Ask them to buy me a drink, take the drink from them, yell ‘white girl’d!’ and run away. (I’m an Asian male.)”

G1trogFr0g


21. It was a nice ego boost until a guy started rubbing his crotch on me five minutes later.

“Flattered but if they take it too far or make it weird, then uncomfortable. I’m a decent looking guy with a bubble butt. I’ve had a gay coworker offer me $1000 to play video games at his house naked. I’ve had a guy pull up next to me while I was walking, asking for directions to a place. When I started to tell him, he said it would be better if I got in the car and showed him, and then he winked at me.

I went to the NYC gay pride parade once. Terrible idea. Although one very drunk Latino slurred to me ‘You’re so sexy’ which was a nice ego boost. Until a guy started rubbing his crotch on me five minutes later.”

Don’t_know_where_i_am


22. I can’t even imagine what women go through in the same situation.

“I used to work for a catering company in Miami back in 2008.

I would serve drinks and food to people at really nice/exclusive parties. I am straight and had never been hit on by gay dudes before but when I started that job it became normal for me.

It was always older dudes like 40+ and I was around 26. They would be cool, perverted, nice, douchey, or whatever at every event I worked. In the beginning I was super uncomfortable because sometimes they would catcall me or try to put their hands on me while I was working, but after a few months I didn’t care when they tried to make advances at me because I learned how to deflect their advances or shrug it off.

When you serve hors d’oeuvres or drinks at a party, people think it’s OK to talk to you however they want. What makes it worse is you can’t go anywhere because you are working so you have to tolerate it or learn to escape those moments when some guy doesn’t leave you alone.

I’m about a 7/10 regarding looks so I can’t even imagine what women go through in the same situation. It definitely made me feel bad for anyone that goes through that.”

ianreef7


23. It’s the same as a bunch of degenerate guys whistling at a girl. Fucking disgusting.

“My parents decided to take me on a cruise with them. The main demographic is 50-year-old gay men.

I find it horrible. I’m a 19-year-old guy (I’m a ‘pretty’ boy, I’ve got a girlfriend) and I’ve been forcefully groped in clubs by other men. It actually feels like I’ve been abused, and I lose my dignity. It’s horrible.

I heard a group of gay men say ‘Wow I’d bend him over’ to me. It’s fucking disgusting. Just because homosexuality isn’t the norm doesn’t give people the right to be vulgar in public. It’s the same as a bunch of degenerate guys whistling at a girl. Fucking disgusting.”

Le_Jacob


24. I was starting to worry that I was a hideous freak to both men and women!

“My wife used to go to an all-ages club with her coworkers. During most of the week it was a gay club but on Wednesday nights it was open to everyone 18 and over. I was the designated driver for her and a few other girls and I’d hang in the bar while they got their dance on.

Now in PA you could have serve alcohol and have underage patrons in the same space, but they had to be separated by a fence. While my wife was out dancing I was behind the fence with dozens of gay guys just sitting back and relaxing.

Nobody hit on me for the first few weeks we went. Then it happened. a good looking young black dude stood next to me and asked me my name. He started up a conversation. Got me a drink. Found out I was married and walked away.

How did I feel?

Great!

I was starting to worry that I was a hideous freak to both men and women!”

barsmart


25. I may not play for the team, but I appreciate the compliment.

“I’ve had a long running theory as a straight, white male, that gay men generally know what a good-looking man is supposed to look like aesthetically. So I believe that they have a deeper insight into what is desired in the male physique (I’ve seen some hot girls with ugly guys, but in my area not many gay men with unattractive SO’s). So my conclusion is that I may not play for the team, but I appreciate the compliment.”

datlyftbruh


26. I’m going to be honest—being hit on by a guy makes me extremely uncomfortable.

“Seinfeld said that when you’re thin, neat and single, people think you might be gay. I guess that’s true, because it happens to me every once in a while.

I know the ‘high road’ is to say ‘I’m flattered’ when asked the question. Shout out to the straight people who genuinely feel that way. But I’m going to be honest—being hit on by a guy makes me extremely uncomfortable.

As a kid, I was extremely skinny and liked video games and other nerd shit. Sports didn’t interest me. I didn’t speak much. So, I was jokingly called gay often by the ‘jocks.’ That shit ruined me emotionally when it happened in the presence of girls I were interested in.

I guess that automatic response kind of stuck with me. I’m not wild disrespectful when people of the same sex hit on me or assume that I might be bi/gay, but I do become visibly uncomfortable after the fact.”

ppvknifefight


27. I told him I’d take his word that he could suck dick better than any girl I’d ever been with.

“My old roommate had a very flamboyant gay friend, and he would always say ‘I guarantee I suck dick better than any girl you’ve ever been with.’ Just told him I’d take his word for it.”

farva_06


28. Flattered, except when they can’t take ‘I’m straight’ as an answer.

“Flattered, except when they can’t take ‘I’m straight’ as an answer. Then I’m forced to replay every drunken approach I’ve ever made to ensure I’ve never been that pushy. I haven’t, but man is that an inconvenience.”

Nazurai TC mark

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