35. Don’t take a girl you hardly know to a secluded spot.
“My wife tells a great long-ago story of a first date where the guy was really into rock climbing. He asked her to meet him at the place, and she didn’t know what she was in for. My wife does not like heights…
Long story short, buddy shames her into trying rock climbing when she’d rather be sipping a cool drink and chatting. She agrees so as not be rude and has a terrible time. He proceeds to scurry about the rocks showing off and leaving her on the ground.
Moral of the story: no adventure dates where you care more about impressing the girl than getting to know her.
Also: don’t take a girl you hardly know to a secluded spot. She doesn’t know you aren’t a creep yet.”
36. Don’t neg.
“Negging doesn’t work. I went in a date with a guy I had a crush on in high school. It was a slam dunk for him but he insulted me for the fact I had a tattoo and when I went to the bathroom I came back to a random girl screaming at him. Apparently he insinuated that she was spoiled because she lived in a certain neighborhood that is known to be extremely wealthy. I was gone for two minutes.
So I told her not to worry about him, he insulted me too and I won’t be bringing him back to this bar. I said it right in front of him. His jaw dropped, I paid for our drinks and I had him take me home. During the drive I explained to him that he said a lot of wrong things and it wasn’t going to happen.
Also I don’t know why he insulted her. Earlier he brought up having a financial advisor and his dad taught him and hired him to program at his dad’s company.”
37. Don’t brag about the stupid screenplay you’ve just written.
“He bragged about a screenplay he’d written that was just about to get the green light for production, apparently. That wasn’t enough though, he then proceeded to get out his MacBook and made me read the whole thing, and to make it worse it was a total rip off of the game Heavy Rain he’d just changed the names.”
38. Don’t tell her she’s your soul mate.
“Insist that we’re made for one another and that you’ll be patient and wait for me to be ready. Seriously, I really liked the guy, and was completely put off by his insistence that I was his future.
We’d had dinner, not a date, before this where he was charming, confident funny, and even found a way to tactfully ask if I dated men (there was quite a bit of doubt/confusion in my social group on my preferences). I was really excited when he asked me out too, and then bam, apparently we’re soul mates.
I also found out he’d told everyone we were a couple, and even got a stern talking to from him about ‘breaking up’ with him via Facebook and embarrassing him in front of his friends. All I said was I didn’t want to go out again when he asked and confirmed that we were never a couple when it came up with other people.
I will say, in his defense, a couple of months later he apologized for his behavior, and for coming on too strong. He claims he took some awful advice. We eventually became friends.”