That’s Not Cute, It’s Creepy: 20 Women Dish On The Annoying Things That Guys Do To Impress Them

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Found on AskReddit.

1. Constantly talking about what a ‘nice guy’ you are.

“If you talk about what a ‘nice guy’ you are _> you are the creepiest motherfucker ever. If you are at or below ‘average looking,’ girls know it; they’ll assume you had to develop some personality to compensate—let this shine through in your actions do not talk about it.”


2. When guys talk about how much they love eating girls out.

“When guys talk about how much they love eating girls out. And then when I say that I don’t enjoy receiving oral sex they tell me that I just haven’t been with someone that knew what they were doing. I’m pretty sure I know what I like and what I don’t like, and what I like is to give pleasure and not to receive it.”


3. Giving me gifts when we’re not even friends or lovers.

“Giving me gifts regularly. It feels like you’re trying to bribe me into a friendship or relationship, and I don’t like that feeling at all.”


4. Telling me to smile.

“Telling me to smile when I have a straight face or when I’m frowning.”


5. Not understanding what ‘no’ means.

“No does not mean convince me or maybe, it means no.”


6. Good morning texts when we’re not in a relationship.

“A good morning text, every, single, day! I’m talking about guys that do this when we’re not in a relationship.”


7. Any form of white knighting.

“When someone speaks in absolutes romantically about you when you aren’t even dating, especially upon hearing a woman being ‘mistreated’ to try to impress. I hate these even from partner, but it is 100x worse from a creeper.

‘I would never leave you.’ ‘I would always treat you right.” ‘I would never do that to you.’

Also, any form of ‘white knighting.’”


8. Sending me hardcore sex videos of himself when we’d just met and were not dating.

“This one guy sent me a video of him doing kinky stuff with other people—he thought it would be a turn on for me and make me want him. I thought it was a weird thing to do, especially because he and I had just met and were not dating.”


9. ‘Can I get a hug?’

“A guy I work with that’s close to my dad’s age constantly talks about how I look like his wife did when she was younger, but that she’s not pretty like me anymore. I find it super odd. Also, I’m a super un-touchy person with people I work with, especially the men. The same guy forced me into a hug (he’s at least twice my size) and wouldn’t let me go because ‘(insert other female coworkers name here) lets me hug her so why don’t you?’ And then later called me a bitch because I told him to let me go.”


10. ‘Surprise’ visits when you tell them you can’t meet with them.

“‘Surprise’ visits when you tell them you can’t meet with them.”


11. Physically picking me up off the ground without asking.

“Physically picking me up without notice. I’m lucky, being taller than average and heavier than I look, so it doesn’t happen a ton to me, but I’ve known a lot of short, petite women that deal with this on the regular.”


12. Randomly adding me on Facebook and trying to ‘develop a friendship, maybe more.’

“Randomly adding me on Facebook and trying to ‘develop a friendship, maybe more’ and then not getting the hint that I prefer making friends outside of Facebook and keep texting me. Honestly, it is not cool or modern, I find it rather disturbing when I receive random friend requests from people I haven’t even one common friend with.”


13. Calling me after a rapid fire of excessive texts that I don’t answer.

“Calling me after a rapid fire of excessive texts that I don’t answer. I don’t know if this qualifies as nice but twice I’ve been at work with my phone away and when I’ve comeback to it have a slew of texts asking where I am/what am I doing/am I okay followed by a phone call. Damn son I’m working chill out.”


14. Flirting with me over the phone while I’m working.

“I work part time at a restaurant that’s huge for delivery orders. The amount of guys who ask me out over the phone is extremely uncomfortable. I’m not flirting. I’m just being polite and trying to get your order. Guys will frequently say stuff like ‘I’m sorry but you just have a sexy/pretty voice and I wanted to let you know.’ It’s inappropriate and so unnecessary.
I have to ask for their phone number so the delivery driver can call them and they’ll say stuff like ‘Only if I can get yours!’

Or ‘You have my address. You should stop by after work. When do you get off?’ What the fuck you have no idea what I look like! I could be ugly as hell.

My least favorite is when I ask ‘Anything else I can help you with?’ and they reply ‘Depends, can you be delivered with the pizza?’

Whenever I get upset or don’t respond well to these remarks, they always insist they’re just trying to be nice.”


15. Yelling at girls from car windows.

“The amount if times I’ve had to tell people to stop yelling out of my car window to a girl on the street is pretty sad. You look like a fool trying to impress anybody hanging out the side of a Neon. I don’t understand what anyone tries to gain in that moment.”


16. Following me to my car/house when I say I’m fine.

“Following me to my car/house/next class when I say I’m fine. You may think it’s protective of me, but I said no and YOU might actually be what I’m trying to get away from.”


17. Agreeing with everything I say.

“Agreeing with everything I say. I have a male friend who does this—never disagrees with me, never brings up any controversial topics, always expresses interest in what I express interest in even if I know he doesn’t like it, never talks about his hobbies, and basically matches himself to me in every way he can. I know he thinks he’s relating to me and trying to make sure I like him, but it comes off as a fuckboi move. A ‘I want to stay in your good graces so you’ll let me hit that.’ A ‘I’m so insecure in myself that I feel like I need to conform myself to this girl so she’ll like me.’ It’s very creepy. Not to the ‘going to wear your skin as a suit’ point of creepy, but the ‘I’m secretly stalking you and copying what you do’ point of creepy.”


18. Being catcalled at a construction site.

“The feeling that creeps me out the most is walking by a construction site or something like that, and literally speed walking by with my head down trying to avoid any eye contact and I still get cat called. Or walking down the street and I happen to look up and see the creepy guys in a truck completely turned around on the passengers side staring at me and smiling. No matter how hard I try to convey it though body language or even verbally that I’m just minding my own business and to please leave me alone, apparently it’s too hard to do that.”


19. Asking if I want to see a dick pic.

“Asking if I want to see your dick or to have sex over a messaging website… Just, why?”


20. Excessive eye contact on a first date.

“First date excessive eye contact or admiring looks, yes eye contact is nice and a good sign of respect, and I know your keen to show interest, but darling there’s a fine line you crossed into creepy staring.”

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