• She kisses another girl in front of you–and wants you to watch. Or invites you into a room to fool around more. How threesomes start.
• She asks you out. She’s tired of hinting. Straight talk is the last resort.
• She says she used to have a crush on you. If she’s single, she could be hinting she still has a crush and you should ask her out. Guys get hung up on how she used the past tense, and treat it as her saying, “I’m not interested in you now.”
Negative tactics. Some girls do these things to attract guys, but they actually repel guys.
• She tries to make you jealous. She brags about guys asking her out, flirts with guys in front of you but always looks at you to make sure you see it, etc. She wants to let you know she’s “in demand” so you’ll want her. The problem is girls are turned on by competition in relationships, while most guys are turned off.
• Complain about guys hitting on her. What she means is, “I don’t like it when other guys do it, but it’s okay for you because I like you.” This backfires, because the guy will assume the girl doesn’t want him to make a move too.
• She bad-mouths any girl you date, because she’s jealous of them getting to be intimate with you.
• She opens the conversation by insulting you. house_robot explained this really well in another thread.
Quote:
When a girl says, “Oh you’re a player aren’t you?” its similar to when they say shit like, “Oh you want me to go home with you? You sure you don’t have other girls there already?”
Its the female approach to giving a man a compliment: passive aggressively, and couched as an insult. Shes letting you know you have desirable qualities.
When girls say this type of nonsense to you, never confirm or deny it.
I’d meet a new girl, she’d break my balls, and I’d be turned off. Hear later she liked me. WTF?
Positive:
• Food (+1 if she cooked or baked it herself), gifts, handmade greeting cards, mixtapes, poems or stories she wrote, etc.”
