6. ‘It was sheer passion. I had been stuck in a dead relationship for far too long.’
“It was sheer passion. I had been stuck in a dead relationship for far too long. I thought I was at fault, tried to change myself, ended up spending an entire year doing things I didn’t want to do. When it became clear that I would not get anything (not even thanks) in return, I knew I would leave that year. I never told my SO because we just didn’t talk. At all. Around the same time I met someone who DID pay attention to me, who did talk to me. When we first kissed, it was fire! I left my SO a month later. It was messy. I mourned the failure of that relationship for a year. But I ended up building something new with the person I cheated with, and many years down the road, we are now happily married!”
7. ‘I cheated because there was someone I found attractive who wanted me and I was horny.’
“I’ve cheated a few times in my long and storied career as a monogamous relations specialist, and although one time I was intoxicated and another time I was mad and yet another time I was in a long-distance relationship, I can honestly say that ‘logic’ never has anything to do with it. I didn’t cheat because I was mad, or because I was drunk or because I had fallen out of love. I cheated because there was someone I found attractive who wanted me and I was horny and as a result my brain put everything else in a little box I had no access to. That’s it, and honestly I think that’s the only thing approaching a viable excuse for cheating. If it’s not working out, break up. if you’re sexually unsatisfied, break up. if you’re mad enough to cheat, break up. if your SO cheated on you, break up. if you’re being abused, break up. There is no excuse for it at that point.”
8. ‘I wanted to fuck every decent-looking girl I met.’
“I shouldn’t have been in a relationship in the first place as I wanted to fuck every decent-looking girl I met. And if they were up for it, then we went at it. I’m done with all that now.”
9. ‘We had been slowly falling out of love and turning into roommates that occasionally rubbed privates together.’
“We had been slowly falling out of love and turning into roommates that occasionally rubbed privates together. There was a lot of talk about spicing it up in the bedroom but by her own admission, she’s pretty vanilla and didn’t want to wrap her head around the idea of other positions besides missionary and her being on top. I had been training a very attractive and smart woman at work who noticed I was having a hard time one day and I spilled everything out to her at lunch. A few more weeks of shameless flirting between the both of us culminated in an incredible night in a hotel room that currently holds the top preferred customer spot in my spank bank. It felt awful imagining my girlfriend’s face but at that point the path ahead was crystal clear, we broke up the next day and I never told her what happened. The coworker and I continued to date off and on for two years. We never could make a relationship work but fell back on the sex. That whole time was full of lessons I’m still learning.”
