13. You can love someone without needing them.
“That I can love someone without needing them.”
14. Someone is going to be hurt.
“Even if the intentions are good and they understand why, someone is still going to be hurt.”
15. Date someone who puts you first, too.
“Been a pattern—date someone who puts you first, too. Don’t bend over backwards to be with someone that makes you feel like a second thought. I think someone else said this, but if you’re not a priority now, you won’t be a priority later. Find someone that puts effort into the little things that make you feel good and happy, too.”
16. You are worth more than being treated like a backup plan.
“That I’m worth more than being treated like a backup plan when things didn’t work out for him. In hindsight it was a shitty relationship from the get-go, but I was infatuated and thought I couldn’t do better which gave him the opportunity to regularly walk all over my heart knowing that I’d forgive him. Then as time went on I grew up. I finished my studies, started my career, and made lots of new friends. Meanwhile he stayed exactly the same apart from the fact he grew increasingly possessive and insecure. Eventually I realized he was toxic and that I wanted a lot more from a relationship. I do feel I learned a lot from him about what I don’t want in a relationship and am happy to say I’m now with an amazing person.”
17. You shouldn’t have to convince someone to continue loving you.
“You shouldn’t have to convince someone to continue loving you.”