100 Things All Women Need To Know About Men (According to 100 Men)

100 Things All Women Need To Know About Men (According to 100 Men)

81. A lot of us want a woman that will make us feel loved.

“A lot of us want a woman that will make us feel loved, not one who just gets loved.”

82. Sometimes we just like to be alone.

“Sometimes men just like to be alone; it’s not that we’re angry with you or ignoring you, we just like to be alone occasionally.”

83. Don’t tell your friends about our sexual secrets.

“If we tell you something about our sexual history or sexual predilections, it doesn’t mean we actually want to talk about or hear about it every time you think about it. We opened up enough to tell you some kooky, borderline stuff we did in the past; leave it alone, don’t bring it up, and definitely don’t bring it up lightly or use it as ammunition during an argument, and what’s more don’t tell your friends about it. This is personal stuff, and at some point grown-up relationships should be about integrity, mutual respect, and trust—even beyond the bounds of the relationship.”

84. Give us feedback during sex.

“Every vagina and their owner is different. Much like how every penis and their owner is different.

What may work for one, may not work for the other. So during sex, feel free to give feedback. Faster? Slower? Softer? Harder? Let us know what works, what doesn’t. Can we be doing things better? Tell us.

I dated one girl for over a year who told me she didn’t like how I fingered her. Seriously, she didn’t speak up about it for over a year because she felt awkward about it. So she essentially just wasted our time. If I am finger-banging or eating pussy, I’m not doing it for my sake. A little feedback and guidance isn’t going to kill my mood.”

85. Constantly being on your phone while we’re out together makes us wonder why we’re actually there.

“Maybe it’s just me, but constantly being on your phone while we’re out together makes me wonder why I’m actually there.”

86. If you like a guy, tell him.

“I don’t know if every guy would agree with this, but I don’t think it’s the rejection we’re afraid of. It’s the possibility of looking like some creep/loser if we ask you out and you say no. It’s the way you’ll see us from then on out that makes us afraid. The vulnerability. So honestly, if you like a guy, tell him. No guy should ever have a problem with a girl doing that; there’s nothing wrong with it. Don’t make us have to go through the whole fear of asking you out if you already want to tell us yourself.”

87. Don’t blame us for things we do in YOUR dreams.

“Women of the world!!!!

Guys cannot cheat in your dreams!

Three times it happened with an ex of mine. Three times she awoke in a complete strop, of course being the ever caring SO at the time I ask what’s wrong….

Supposedly I cheated with her best friend three times in HER dreams and I’m the one to blame….

I never cheated and never thought of cheating.”

88. We need time with our friends, too.

“Just because I want to spend the rest of my life with you does not mean I can’t have time with friends. Time apart is sometimes just as important as time together.”

89. We shut down because arguing isn’t worth it.

“If we shut down or stop responding during an argument, it doesn’t mean we stopped caring about your feelings or that you aren’t worth talking to or that we’re ignoring you. It means we just don’t want to make the argument worse or last longer than it needs to, because chances are, the argument wasn’t worth the energy to begin with.”

90. Fuck off with the hints.

“Fuck off with the hints (both, the “blatantly obvious” and subtle). We prefer direct, clear communication. Say what you mean and mean what you say.”


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