50 Heart-Wrenching Quotes About Divorce

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My husband and I have never considered divorce…murder sometimes, but never divorce.
—Joyce Brothers


In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage.
—Robert Anderson


When mom and dad went to war the only prisoners they took were the children.
—Pat Conroy


A divorce is like an amputation: You survive it, but there’s less of you.
—Margaret Atwood


In our family we don’t divorce our men—we bury them.
—Ruth Gordon


Divorce is an embarrassing public admission of defeat.
—Tracy Letts


Losing a mate to death is devastating but it’s not a personal attack like divorce. When somebody you love stops loving you and walks away, it’s an insult beyond comparison.
—Sue Merrell


I had a really good childhood up until I was nine, then a classic case of divorce really affected me.
—Kurt Cobain


Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn’t matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned!
—Mehmet Murat ildan


When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn’t a sign that they ‘don’t understand’ one another, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to.
—Helen Rowland


We ruined each other by being together. We destroyed each other’s dreams.
—Kate Chisman


Such silence has an actual sound, the sound of disappearance.
—Suzanne Finnamore


The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving. I didn’t want to destroy anything or anybody. I just wanted to slip quietly out the back door, without causing any fuss or consequences, and then not stop running until I reached Greenland.
—Elizabeth Gilbert


Those who divorce aren’t necessarily the most unhappy, just those neatly able to believe their misery is caused by one other person.
—Alain de Botton


There is a rhythm to the ending of a marriage just like the rhythm of a courtship—only backward. You try to start again but get into blaming over and over. Finally you are both worn out, exhausted, hopeless. Then lawyers are called in to pick clean the corpses. The death has occurred much earlier.
—Erica Jong


There was a time when I thought I loved my first wife more than life itself. But now I hate her guts. I do. How do you explain that—what happened to that love—What happened to it, is what I’d like to know. I wish someone could tell me.
—Raymond Carver


When people divorce, it’s always such a tragedy. At the same time, if people stay together it can be even worse.
—Monica Bellucci


The real wonder is that anyone stays together, as impossible to live with and as broken as we all are.
—Kyran Pittman


If you really want to get to know someone, you have to divorce him.
—Elizabeth Gilbert


Divorce is probably as painful as death.
—William Shatner


An arguing couple spiraling into negativity and teetering on the brink of divorce is actually mathematically equivalent to the beginning of a nuclear war.
—Hannah Fry


Many a woman would get a divorce if she could do it without making her husband happy.
—Evan Esar


I find to my astonishment that an unhappy marriage goes on being unhappy when it is over.
—Rebecca West


If there is such a thing as depression and despair, I experienced it during the months leading-up to and following the divorce. Insomnia, constant and uncontrollable thoughts and a deep sense of loss were among the conditions of my life. Was I depressed—yes, I was very much so and, what’s worse, was determined to do nothing immediately for it.
—H. Kirk Rainer


Children must be considered in a divorce considered valuable pawns in the nasty legal and financial contest that is about to ensue.
—P. J. O’Rourke


A defeatist attitude kills almost as many marriages as do affairs.
—Gary L. Thomas


Divorce isn’t the child’s fault. Don’t say anything unkind about your ex to the child, because you’re really just hurting the child.
—Valerie Bertinelli


She is afraid of divorce, which will free her, as she was not enough afraid of marriage, which trapped her.
—A. S. Byatt


Divorce is a game played by lawyers.
—Cary Grant


A horrible end is better than endless horror.
—Oliver Markus


Divorce is the one human tragedy that reduces everything to cash.
—Rita Mae Brown


The biggest financial pitfall in life is divorce. And the biggest reason for divorce is marriage.
—Gene Simmons


Hell, I’d even failed with women. Three wives. Nothing really wrong each time. It all got destroyed by petty bickering. Railing about nothing. Getting pissed-off over anything and everything. Day by day, year by year, grinding. Instead of helping each other you just sliced away, picked at this or that. Goading. Endless goading. It became a cheap contest. And once you got into it, it became habitual. You couldn’t seem to get out. You almost didn’t want to get out. And then you did get out. All the way.
—Charles Bukowski


Anybody who’s been through a divorce will tell you that at one point they’ve thought murder. The line between thinking murder and doing murder isn’t that major.
—Oliver Stone


This is what I know about my parents. They spent the next several years trying to forget each other, and me.
—Raquel Cepeda


I don’t think anybody who’s ever been divorced can tell you divorce is easy or fun or feels like anything other than a tremendous failure.
—Sharon Stone


A lot of people have asked me how short I am. Since my last divorce, I think I’m about $100,000 short.
—Mickey Rooney


It takes two to destroy a marriage.
–Margaret Trudeau


Divorce is the psychological equivalent of a triple coronary bypass.
—Mary Kay Blakely


I don’t miss him, I miss who I thought he was.


I swear, if you existed I’d divorce you.
—Edward Albee


Take this marriage thing seriously—it has to last all the way to the divorce.
—Roseanne Barr


I can usually tell when a woman is going through a divorce because they look so gaunt and tired and sad. It’s just a huge sadness. It’s horrible. It’s like death. You mourn, but the person’s still there.
—Andie MacDowell


Of the many horrors of divorce, the most egregious is that it robs a kid of the best of both worlds. Dads can do many things that even the best moms can’t, and vice versa.
—Rob Lowe


It was a long time in the making, my divorce. One day became less special than the next, and pretty soon, we ceased all conversation. It is a sad day when you have nothing left to say.
—Ricki Lake


My mother always said don’t marry for money, divorce for money.
—Wendy Liebman


I am a divorced child, of divided, uncertain background. Within this division I—supposed fruit of their love—no longer exist. It happened nearly forty years ago, yet to me, nothing is sadder than my parents’ divorce.
—Sylvia Kristel


I feel that marriage can lead to the ultimate rejection and failure and divorce and things we all fear.
—Mike Birbiglia


Divorce is a 50-50 thing, and it can be a number of petty things that finally drive you out of your mind.
—Lee Radziwill


My advice to Hillary would be to divorce that chump.
—Gennifer Flowers
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