19 Men Share Stories of Being Raped By A Woman (NSFW)

13. “She told me in no uncertain terms that I was ‘disgusting and worthless.'”

I was 10, she was 12 or 13. Most people I think would say “that’s not really rape because you were pretty much the same age, it was just sex” but thinking back about how she acted is not much different than you’d expect from the stereotypical child abuser.

Saying things like “you’re so mature because you are doing this” or “you can’t tell anyone or you’ll get in trouble” etc. sounds a lot like the grooming techniques you’d expect from a seasoned child abuser (and it probably was learned from that since she came from a bad family and was probably assaulted herself).

The thing is, it wasn’t the physical act of sex, oral, fingering, being poked and prodded as she experimented with me that did the damage, it was when it all ended she told me in no uncertain terms that I was “disgusting and worthless” and that she was “disgusted by the things I did to her”. This was someone I trusted more than almost anyone because I knew what we were doing was “wrong,” I just didn’t know it was her being an abuser and me a victim, I thought we were basically doing something together that was essentially illegal (I was 10, when an older kid told me something would get me in trouble it was like breaking the law to do it).

The lasting effects are pretty apparent in my life still.

14. “It is the worst feeling ever.”

I was too, by my ex, several times, spanning a period of around 3 months, then I finally had the courage to stop her, my current SO once made some jokes about it, and I couldn’t deal with it, it is something that leaves a scar forever, I was afraid, I know it might sound stupid but I used to think I deserved it, but nobody deserves it, it is the worst feeling ever….

15. “I’m made fun of by friends I confided in.”

Shitty. I’m made fun of by friends I confided in. I felt super conflicted since she was my ex-girlfriend and I was dating someone at the time so I ended up breaking up with my girlfriend and dating my ex again because I felt guilty. For some reference my ex is super aggressive and she’s surprisingly strong despite being tiny. Also I was super drunk and I’m a pacifist so I decided that if I fought back much I’d look like I was assaulting her. I don’t trust cops to begin with but if I called them and pushed her off of me and she got bruised in sure I’d be seen as the assailant there.

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