20 People Explain Why “Hate Sex” Is So Incredible (NSFW)

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Good sex is supposed to be something tender and loving—but not according to these people. For them, it involves hate, resentment, insults, and often extreme mutual physical abuse. (Found on AskReddit.)

1. “It was so rough and absolutely amazing.”

There was a guy who I was kind of friends with in college, but not all that close with. We would have sex randomly, usually when we were both drunk. We have a lot of mutual friends and therefore things somehow got complicated because we’d always find out when the other one would hook up with someone else. So one night, I had a huge party at my house and he showed up. We were both hammered, and he started hitting on one of my roommates and looking in my direction when doing so, so in my drunken mind I decided to retaliate by flirting with every guy at my house. We both were getting pissed at the other and I went to my room because I got so mad. Right when I worked up the courage to go tell him off, he comes in my room. We just stared at each other for a while and then he grabbed me and pushed me up against a wall and we started making out and he started fingering me. It was so fucking hot and we were both naked in a matter of seconds.

What followed was the most aggressive sex of my entire life. He spanked me so many times and we both were choking each other at one point. It was so rough and absolutely amazing. I rode him for a while and got off as he choked me, and then he fucked me doggy style for a while so hard that my head slammed into the wall multiple times and then finished. This was the night that I found out that I’m really, really into rough sex.

2. “Fucked her like she just kicked my dog.”

Was at a party with a bunch of work people, and she came up to me and started chatting. She doesn’t know that I don’t care for her company, but I was polite enough to continue the conversation. She was drunk and we got on the topic of sex and positions and that kind of thing, and she mentioned that she likes it rough, but is always afraid to tell guys that.

I half-jokingly said “There’s nothing like a grudge fuck”, and then she starts stroking my arm and giving me looks, and I said screw it. Took her into one of the bedrooms and fucked her like she just kicked my dog.

3. “One of the most fantastic orgasms ever.”

There was a girl that was really awful to me in high school. I was a bit awkward and weird back then and she was ruthlessly mean. Anyway it was late in college and my life was going really well; which allowed me to build a lot more self-confidence. So I see this girl out at a bar where she recognizes me and starts chatting. She is telling me all about how she’s been waiting tables since she graduated and wasn’t sure what to do with her life and all. She was impressed with my success and clearly attracted to me now. All I could think about was the shit she put me through when we were kids. I could see she hadn’t changed and would have still been horrible if I hadn’t been so sure in myself. I decided the best thing to do now was to take her home and just fuck the shit out of her. I took out all those years of frustration right where she could feel it the most. I won’t pretend it was the right thing or the moral thing, but damn, that was one of the most fantastic orgasms ever.

4. “Hate sex is awesome.”

Went to a close friend of mine’s house and we got into an argument that turned into a fight. We ended up on her kitchen floor deadlocked since she was pulling my hair and I was pulling hers. We had one of those moments where stared into each other’s eyes. I had always thought she was hot, and she had expressed feels for me too but we never got around to doing anything, so I guess stuff just finally boiled over, so to speak. We made out, things escalated from there and we ended up fucking on the floor. It was my first time trying out tribbing and it felt amazing. It was actually some of the best sex I’ve ever had.

TLDR: Hate sex is awesome, 10/10 would do again. Go hate fuck someone.

5. “I climaxed with such ferocity that I collapsed into a pile of shame.”

I had hate sex with my last ex a couple of times, but the most hateful was soon after we broke up. She had just gone on a trip to meet some guy online and as she passed by my area (well, an hour west of my area) on her way home, she called me and asked if she could stop by. I was moving on from the crying-myself-to-sleep-because-I-miss-her-so-much stage to the I-hate-her-fucking-guts-and-hope-she-rots stage, but I hadn’t quite completed the transition, so I said it was okay. I can’t remember much of what happened that night, but she was crying because she felt bad for spontaneously dumping me and acting like a slut and so on.

After a bit of this, she fell asleep on my bed and I just sat there hating her. But I couldn’t help still being attracted to her and I started getting horny, so I woke her up and we started fucking. We had always liked it a little rough, but I was really going at it this time, slapping her, choking her, pulling her hair, and just getting out a lot of pent-up aggression. This went on for 20 minutes or so, her moaning obnoxiously loud (as she always did) while I smacked her around and told her to shut the fuck up. I climaxed with such ferocity that I collapsed into a pile of shame and eventually fell asleep. I don’t even remember if I let her spend the night or if I sent her home. Either way, it was a good final fuck for us and I felt like I got a bit of closure.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, was the night I got my ex-girlfriend pregnant.

6. “It was the best sex she’d ever had.”

My most recent ex. We got in an argument while drunk and she slapped me and said I wasn’t even as good as her last bf in bed so I just grabbed her and bent her over a table and fucked her with absolutely no mercy. Apparently it was the best sex she’d ever had. 10/10 would recommend. We dated for a few months after that and ended things on good terms. I still get booty calls when she’s in town. Yes I respond to them.

7. “It hurt so good.”

I had hate sex with a fuck buddy once. He was supposed to be at my house at ten one night, was late, kept telling me ten more minutes, ten more minutes. Showed up at three stoned out of his mind, woke me up for some shitty sex wherein he came inside me on accident because he was too high to stop himself before putting on a condom. I punched him in the face (I realize this was wrong, but I was pissed and half asleep), then we both fell asleep. The next morning we both woke up, I was still mad as hell, he barely remembered the night before but had a big ass bruise on his jaw and was like, “did you fucking punch me?!” And I was like, idk maybe? And then he threw me on the bed and fucked me until it hurt so good.

8. “An amazing night of sex.”

I broke up with my long time girlfriend (35ish). Really ugly breakup, we both lost friends over it and there was pet custody to deal with. Also, worst sex ever.

A few months later I think I spot her at a bar (I was there trying to “go out” and still quite sore about the whole breakup). I do a double take when I see her. This girl’s hair isn’t quite blonde enough and she’s way younger but she’s otherwise the spitting image of my ex. It hits me she must by my ex’s baby sister just as she turns and we make eye contact. The smile she has completely drops off her face. She scoots off her barstool makes a B-line for me, looking more pissed by the second.

“You broke (ex’s) heart you know that,” she says, polite as fuck.

That pisses me off. I say something like, “do the world a favor and try not to grow up into a bitter shrew like your frigid sister.”

To my astonishment, she hops up on the barstool and we go back and forth: I’m a shit. Her sister is a penny-pinching thief. Etc. It’s like some kind of post-relationship confessional.

Two hours later we’re both drunk as fuck and I’m wondering how I’m driving home when she just stands and leaves. I follow her out of the bar thinking I should stop her from driving. She tells me she lives nearby over her shoulder as she walks away.

At this point, horny me decides to notice how nice her ass looks in that skirt and drunk me opens his big mouth about it, “I see you’ve got an ass that won’t quit, just like (my-ex).”

I don’t remember how exactly but I end up following her home. Maybe her butt mesmerized me. She opens her apartment door and turns to look at me. I look at her. No smiles. We just stare at each other for a minute. And then suddenly, it’s on.

The door hasn’t even closed and I have her pinned against the hallway wall. She climbs up me and some how we manage to get enough clothing out of the way and I am in her. Everything is wet and warm and wonderful and somehow that enrages me even more. Why couldn’t her sister have been like this. Later I have her bent over the couch. She’s screaming obscenities at me and I’m pegging her mercilessly when we hear keys in the door.

“Roommate,” she says.

We make it to her room. It’s a fucking pigsty, and I’m wondering if this girl is really related to my neat freak ex. She grabs a bottle of lube off her nightstand and hands it to me then hops on all fours onto her bed. For just a second, from behind, she looks just like her older sister. It’s almost creepy. Then she wiggles her ass and it breaks the spell. No way would my ex do something like that. I lube up and push into her ass and she starts up with the verbal abuse again.

We have an amazing night of sex and her roommate gives me the stink eye as I collect my clothes and leave the next morning.

TL’DR: If you can’t grudge fuck your ex, grudge fuck her sister.

9. “The best 10 minutes of sex I’ve ever had.”

A few years ago at a party I was flirting with a girl and she challenged me to finish my pint. Back then I took this shit seriously, and did not back away from it, and when I finished challenged her to do the same. She said no, so I said I would bet her whatever money I had in my pocket at the time to do so (I thought I had about £2, turns out I pulled out a £20 note). She grabbed it off me in the guise of checking if it was legitimate, and then said she wasn’t going to drink, but she wasn’t giving back the money. This was all playful and I held out my hand to grab it and we basically held hands with the money in between. Not sure what led her to the next movement, but instead of giving up the money, she bit down on my arm hard. Enough to draw blood. Then slapped me across the face. I stood there in absolute disbelief, and stared at her, and she had this seductive lip bite going on. Confused and angry as I was, I wasn’t too out of my mind to recognize this crazy bitch wanted to have sex. I grabbed her by the wrist and pulled her into the next room, pushed her hard against a wall and she started trying to ram her tongue down my throat in the most aggressive pash I’ve ever had.

At this point I thought, okay, this has started off rough, so I lifted up her (very short) skirt and literally tore her G-string off her, completely ruining it. She slapped me for that but it didn’t stop her, she pushed me down and started to ride me. But I wasn’t going to let that happen, this was a dominance thing now. So I flipped her over and power fucked her to the point I was pouring with sweat, whilst she was choking me. I choked her right back which made her cum like a fucking torrent. Having just come out of my first real relationship with a girl who needed clitoral stimulation to cum, this should have been a good surprise, but it wasn’t. I didn’t want her to enjoy it more than I was.

At this point she spat on my face and asked if I was going to fuck her properly, and everything was so soaked down there I just wrenched my dick out of her and slammed it into her arse. If I thought I was going hard before, I absolutely put my back into this and went to town for the best 10 minutes of sex I’ve ever had. She kept trying to finger herself to help her cum again and I wouldn’t let her, so she kept slapping me and I kept slapping her. I ended up cumming like a goddamn firehose into her arse, more than I ever have in my life, and then left her on the bed. This was the first time of the experience that she actually smiled at me.

10. “Best sex ever.”

Best sex ever. Dated a girl in high school, she had a reputation for being a slut. I was fairly innocent at the time, having just recently lost my virginity. She cheated on me with a friend, I was livid. She had a younger sister, though, whose reputation was even worse, despite her young age. A few months later, the situation was ripe… I snuck over to her house and hate fucked the shit out of the younger sister in the room right next to the older sister’s. Younger sister liked it rough, and was a screamer. Left scratches down her back. Soo satisfying.

11. “Our sex life improved dramatically.”

After my then-girlfriend told me that she made out with another guy, I was upset but didn’t break up the relationship right away. Then, I found out that they did more than just make out. Since telling her that would inevitably lead to arguments of “he said, she said,” I decided to keep it to myself. Out of decency, I did tell her that what happened bothered me enough that I didn’t want to keep the relationship formal anymore. She thought she got one over on me, probably to this day still thinks so.

Hate-fucked her every. single. time. after that while seeing/hooking up with other girls. Our sex life improved dramatically, but of course the relationship lost all substance by that point…It wasn’t the “right” thing to do, but what the hell.

12. “Ended up at his place and had the best, raw sex ever.”

Saw my ex who was an asshole at a bar one night. We talked a little and turned out my friends left me so he had to drive me home. Ended up at his place and had the best, raw sex ever. Couple weeks later turns out I’m pregnant and now we’re married and haven’t had sex like that since :(

13. “Probably the best sex I had ever had.”

I hate fucked an ex a couple times. One time we had broken up but of course we were still having sex here and there when we were both available. It was 2 am (tipsy) and I was planning on going to sleep, she called and wanted to come over. walks in drunk as fuck, giggling and all over me. (honestly wasn’t planning on sexing at the time) I laid down on my bed and she just hopped on me and starting biting my chest and I just lost it. 3 hours later I was covered in scratches and bite marks, she was practically whimpering at the end. Probably the best sex I had ever had.

14. “It felt empty and meaningless, but the sex itself was off the charts.”

I lived with my then girlfriend several years back. Things between us had gone downhill over time and one night she came home from work and broke up with me.

Neither of us had an alternative place to go, so we agreed to keep things civil and live as roommates until one of us could find a new place to live.

We had a 1-bedroom apartment and shared a bed. I initially offered to sleep on the couch to keep things from getting weird, but she thought it would make things worse, so we agreed to just keep sharing the bed for the time being.

That night we just lay there next to each other staring at the ceiling. Neither of us could sleep and we were not talking. Finally She turns to me and asks me if I would like to fuck. I had never heard her refer to it that way before. She was more the type of girl to call it “making love.”…

That went on all night until neither of us could move. It was the worst and best sex we ever had. It felt empty and meaningless, but the sex itself was off the charts.

15. “Best sex we ever had.”

Had an ex who was convinced that we would get back together one day in the future because ‘we belonged together’. One day she turned up at my house in ye middle of the night because she found out though a mutual friend that my mum was out of town for the night. We had a massive argument for like an hour and a half. This culminated on her pushing me into a wall and then onto the sofa. She then got on top of me and tried to punch me. To stop the torrent of half assed punches I bear hugged her leaving her face about an inch away from mine. We both extended a look of pure hate and kissed like we were trying to dislocate each other’s faces. We then tore off each other’s clothes and fucked on the floor for about 20 minutes. When it came to me finishing I came all over her chest and face. Without saying a word she wiped it off on one of my favorite cushions, gave me the finger and walked out.

Best sex we ever had. Cushion is still traumatized.

16. “Hands-down the best sex I’ve ever to this day.”

One winter break I ran into my “high school sweetheart” at supermarket in our hometown. I hadn’t seen her since we split up before we went off to separate colleges. We had a pretty grizzly break up. She cheated on me but hey this was nearly 3-4 years later I wasn’t affected by it. But when we ran into each other we both stopped dead in our tracks. In my heart of hearts, I knew that there was still something there. We added each other on Facebook. We still had each other’s number and so we decide to get coffee a week later. … There’s about 2 hours of nostalgia. Remember this. Remember that. Reminiscing how stupid we were. I’m single. Turns out she’s single too but she’s got some guy friend who she keeps talking about. Whatever. Not my problem. The emotions are flowing so easily now. Nothing can stop us. And then the bomb drops. I had anticipated this scenario. She asks me who I’ve dated/slept with in the past 4 years. At first I dodge the question out of respect and the fact that I know that this is a loaded fucking question. Well, turns out she hadn’t thought it through and starts telling me all this shit I would rather not hear. No we weren’t dating. And no I hadn’t kept in touch for almost 4 years so I really have no say in what she has done with her life. But it’s difficult to hear. Of course now when she’s said her part, I delve into my debaucheries. It’s an absolutely shit show. By the end of it we’re both pulling back. What is this pit in my stomach. The difficulty to swallow. IS IT JEALOUSY? It was the stupidest idea to hang out. We barely knew each other anymore but we’re acting like we’re still dating. She’s had enough at this point and wants to go home so we start heading back to my car because it’s time to fucking split. This was a horrible fucking idea. We get in the car and we just start making out. I’m ripping her clothes off. She has got her fingers in my hair. Practically choking each other it’s so good. The fucking smell of her shampoo. And the way she tastes. These things you never forget. Fucking amazing. One thing leads to the other and we end up fucking the shit out of each other for like 40 minutes. Just like old times in the backseat of my car. Afterwards I don’t remember how we went our separate ways. It was fucking amazing. Hands-down the best sex I’ve ever to this day. We never spoke after that and the fall out from this whole ordeal was really bad.

17. “We had sex everywhere—the couch, the bathroom…we were like animals.”

Yes. There was a guy I went to college with and I could not stand him. He was completely full of himself and would treat girls like absolute shit. He didn’t give a fuck about anything or anyone…you get the gist of it. Anyway, I was in an acting class with him and my hatred for him apparently made for some great chemistry onstage, so our acting professor would constantly pair us up together. Every time we would rehearse together, he would hit on me even though he knew I had a boyfriend. I loathed him. Our rehearsals were an absolute nightmare. Finally, we got cast in a show where we had to have (implied) sex onstage. The tension between us grew and grew. Fast-forward to about a month later, I had just broken up with my boyfriend (messy breakup) and this guy I hated showed up at my door with a bottle of wine. I was still in such a funk from my recent breakup, that I wasn’t thinking clearly. He could sense that I would finally give up the V. I said “fuck it” and went for it. We had sex everywhere—the couch, the bathroom…we were like animals. I tore him up.

18. “It was the best oral sex she ever had.”

This happened with a former girlfriend. I wasn’t too happy with the way things were going, but we were still having sex. One night, while going down on her, I did a variation on the alphabet technique: I was tonguing the letters that make up the words, “I fucking hate you so much” over and over until she came. She later told me it was the best oral she ever had.

19. “It was the best sex of my entire life.”

It was the best sex of my entire life.

I was dating this girl senior year in high school for about a year. We fought a lot and in hindsight the relationship was severely toxic. We talked nearly every day, so when she ignored me for an entire day I was fairly suspicious. I asked her about it but she blew me off. Later that night, I got an anonymous message saying that she had fucked a friend of hers. I called her right away and confronted her. She denied it repeatedly, until I bluffed and said her friend told me, at which point she fessed up.

I told her i was coming to her house to get my shit. I then snuck out of my parents’ house at midnight and drove half an hour to meet her at the end of her street. She had my things in a bag and was dressed in her pajamas. I pulled up next to her and she just stared at me. I asked her to get in my car so we could talk. After parking my car without saying a word, i look over at her and without thinking, pull her head to mine and start making out with her like crazy.

We ended up fucking for 3 hours with the windows up in the middle of a summer night. It was the most angry, passionate, loud, sweaty sex ever. After we finished, we both got dressed and knew it was over. I drove home and she went back to her house and we never spoke again.

20. “It was honestly the hottest sex I have ever had.”

My second girlfriend and I broke up under very unpleasant circumstances; we had been together for almost three years, and I had proposed to her while we were visiting my family out of state. The day after the accepted she took a Greyhound back home and then proceeded to break up with me via text, while informing me that she had been cheating on me with a co-worker. After lots of ignored panicked and confused texts my now ex, or potentially her new beau decided it would be fun to keep me in the dark for three days, and finally send a text message stating that “sorry, ;gf; has passed away”.

This was of course bullshit, which I learned a week later after several panicked phone calls to mutual friends, so I decided to confront her at her apartment. She wasn’t expecting me and let me in reluctantly while i fought back screaming and tears. The rest was a blur, I remember lots of talking happened and we hugged when I was about to leave, but instead of just hugging I picked her up, she wrapped her legs around me and I slammed her into the door, closing it, and we proceeded to fuck like animals against the door for a few moments before I flipped her around and basically slammed her onto the floor, where we continued. we didn’t even bother losing clothes, she was wearing a skirt and never wore panties and I just ripped my pants open. It was honestly the hottest sex I have ever had, and we proceeded to do this on a regular basis while she was dating the guy she left me for, sometimes right outside his house, in my truck.

Looking back, I realize it was super destructive, but at the time the forbidden and fucked up aspects of it made it so much more passionate. TC mark

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