There’s a line from My Best Friend’s Wedding that goes, “If you love someone you say it, you say it right then, out loud. Otherwise, the moment just… passes you by.”
How many times in your life have you held back from saying something you should have or wanted to? Is there someone that you loved but never told? Someone who did something amazing for you but never thanked? Or maybe someone you hurt but never apologized to? What stopped you from saying those words?
Sometimes the seemingly easy statements are the hardest to say. Simple I-love-you’s, or thank-you’s, or I’m-sorry’s end up being left unsaid to the people who deserve to hear it the most. Maybe it slipped your mind, or maybe it didn’t feel like the right time, or maybe you were simply scared to let go of such strong statements because you weren’t sure how the person on the other end would react. Well let me ask you this, what do you have to lose?
What if the person is waiting to hear those words? What if they’ve been on the brinks of leaving you because you fail to express how it is you’re feeling? What if they just don’t know how you feel? Don’t ever assume that your feelings are always evident or implied through your actions because, let me tell you, it’s not always that obvious.
Life’s too short and life goes by quickly. One moment you’re entering your 20s with a realm of possibilities and the next, you’re at the end of your 30s and it seems like everything just happened in an instant. If you hold back or wait too long to say what’s in your heart, the words and feelings might lose its value and depreciate over time. How you feel may no longer have as much of an impact on the person as it would’ve if you just spoke up sooner. Yes, sometimes it’s good to wait for the perfect timing and not to rush things, but sometimes we need to make our own perfect timing and take initiative, especially when it comes to genuine feelings or emotions that we may have.
If you know how you feel, and you’re sure of those feelings, say it. Tell the person. Avoid any confusion. Say you’re sorry. Say thank you. Tell the person you love that you love them. Be upfront and straight up. Don’t let another moment pass you by because one moment can turn into two, and two can turn into a lifetime, and one day you might just wake up and realize that along with those lost moments, you also lost the person you cared about the most.