We all get in situations where we wonder if we should express ourselves if we should state the truth the way we see it. Yet we may be reluctant to do it because we are afraid that others may disagree, or that they will criticize us, or that they will think ill of us. Or we simply wonder if what we want to say is accurate and perhaps wonder if we see it correctly. All these are forms of self-doubt that hold us back.
Self-doubt is the nagging worry that we are not enough, that our words aren’t enough, that our thoughts don’t count. So we dismiss ourselves and fail to speak our truth. And we go about our day, doing what we need to do, seething inside and doubting even more of the things we dream, we wish, or even do. Not speaking our truth is a prison we lock ourselves in, hoping it just won’t matter. But it does matter. And when we say our truth, beautiful things happen.
This is what happens when you speak your truth:
You start valuing yourself more once you realize that your opinion counts. Your opinion matters because it’s what you think and what you believe about a particular issue; it’s your take on a given situation. Remember, an opinion is not absolute, irrefutable truth; it’s your truth. Once you realize that speaking up and stating what you believe is a form of valuing yourself, you will be inclined to do this more often.
You liberate yourself from half-truths and webs of lies. You don’t feel obliged to pay insincere compliments or agree with someone so that you please them. Once you start censoring yourself, wondering if you’d better not say this and avoid mentioning that, you fall into the trap of half-truths. You see it, you want to comment on it, you have an opinion, yet you keep your mouth shut. You probably find some excuses that you tell yourself about your choice not to speak up; after that, it’s only a matter of time to find yourself tangled in a web of lies, those you tell yourself and those you tell others.
You don’t allow worries to hold you back. Speaking your truth paves the way to paths that you couldn’t see before. When you state what you believe, when you share your opinion, then you allow multiple possibilities to unfold. You stop worrying about what you should or should not say or whether to say something or not. Eliminating worries such as these sets you free. Now you have the freedom to choose not only what to say but to act and pursue what you believe is right and worthwhile. By speaking your truth, a shift happens; your mind focuses on solutions and possibilities instead of worrying.
You become assertive. Realizing that you are no longer controlled by your worries, speaking your truth becomes an excellent small habit. It becomes your way of relating to the world and setting healthy boundaries. For example, when you say “no” when you don’t want something, when you disagree with someone, or when you put a stop to offensive behavior, these are all effective boundary-setting ways.
You’re authentic. You can speak your truth in a gentle, heartfelt, respectful way. Maybe what you say is not pleasing to the other person, but the way you say it is polite and sincere. And people appreciate honesty, partly because they realize that deep down, it provides useful feedback. When you get in the habit of speaking your truth in your unique way, you will find that you are becoming more aligned with your values and true beliefs. This way, you feel and come across as more authentic.