Toxicity and negativity are contagious. There’s a quote saying that you are the sum of the five people closest to you. Well, what’s that? Who’s around you? Do you choose who to have in your life or do you let others choose you? I know it’s hard to let go of toxic people; after all they are your friends, partner, or family. How can you do it? In six simple ways! Here they are!
1. Measure the toxicity
Seriously! Don’t just feel it or complain about it; give it a number. On a scale from 0-10, zero meaning not at all, ten meaning full, how much toxicity is there in your life?
2. List the toxic people
That’s a tough one. Most people give excuses and try to avoid the task of pointing the finger. But you have to know. Who’s the person or the people that create toxicity and emotional chaos in your life?
3. List the toxic behaviors
Now, next to the toxic people, add a column and write down the toxic behaviors of each of these people. Please, no excuses! “She didn’t mean it,” “He was just upset,” and the like are excuses. People who love you and care about you should show you how they feel with their behavior. Actions speak louder than words.
4. Ask yourself this question: “Do I deserve it?”
No matter what, the answer is a loud and clear NO! Nobody deserves to have toxicity and negativity in their lives. If you think otherwise, think twice. What’s preventing you from striving for healthy, happy, fulfilling, and positive relationships? What’s on the basis of this line of thinking? You deserve better, that’s for sure!
Literally and metaphorically! Banish toxic people either by deleting their contact information of blocking them from your social media or letting them out from your social life by saying you can’t go out or you are not interested. You don’t have to give any explanations. Just to what’s right for you.
6. Learn to say “no” and set boundaries
Remember that “no” is a small but powerful word that should be part of your vocabulary. You need to set boundaries and learn to take up only what’s fair. Let go of the assumption that others will love you or appreciate you more if you do more and if you say “yes” more often. It just won’t happen with toxic people.
7. Choose positivity
Have you ever wondered why you are sticking around those poisonous people? Choose positive people, positive emotions, and positive actions. Do what makes your soul smile; don’t just grin and bear it.
8. Choose self-compassion
Be compassionate towards yourself. Maybe you chose the wrong people, maybe you had different expectations, maybe you made mistakes, but that’s human. Let go of self-criticism and embrace a loving attitude towards yourself.
9. Choose love
Allow love into your love. Reconnect with old friends, meet new people, make new friends. Spend time with people who are positive, those who support and encourage you. Give love and allow yourself to receive love.