Most of us tend to be very goal-oriented and success driven. That in and of itself is not a bad thing. But, sometimes we let our relationship status, our career status, our financial status decide our overall worth. We let these variables be the defining factor of who we are.
So, when we are struggling or going through transitions or hard times, we fall apart because the things we used to describe us are telling us that we aren’t good enough anymore.
We are all guilty of it, especially in the age of social media where we can see the highlights of other people’s lives. Whether we mean to or not, we are comparing ourselves to what we see other people accomplishing. When we are doing well, we feel proud of how the rest of the world must be perceiving us. But, when we’re not doing well, we feel ashamed and a little lost.
And, that’s where the problem lies. Because no matter what, our lives will ebb and flow with milestones that we view as successful as well as big-time failures we’d rather forget about. We are all human and flawed, but these changes in our status should never change our foundation of worth.
It is both humbling and liberating to embrace imperfection. It is challenging because it requires being transparent with what we are going through. It requires owning up to mistakes and being honest about our emotions and our setbacks. It goes against our instincts of wanting to put our best face out into the world, but it allows us to put our most genuine self into everything we do.
Because life can change in an instant, for better or worse: health, finances, relationships. But, at the end of the day, you can decide who you want to be and how you want to handle adversity and tough times.
You can decide that amidst an ever-changing world, there will be one thing that won’t change: your worthiness. You can decide that your setbacks don’t change who you are or what you are capable of achieving. You can help give other people the courage to make the same realization.
It goes against everything we are used to. Because it often feels like there’s a check-list of accomplishments that people expect from us. Like it’s the only path to happiness, this societal construct of what makes us successful and worthy.
But, don’t buy into it.
You can be happy no matter which part of the story you’re in. You are worthy in every phase of your life, in every success and setback, in every job and zip code.
You are worthy, in every chapter.