The Art Of The Power Blowjob

The power of a well-executed blowjob is typically neither the topic of high school sex ed, nor is it frequently discussed amongst close girlfriends; but it’s important. Sending a man to sexual-bliss is an art and one that needs to be finely crafted, not by hand, but rather by mouth.

Like Shakespeare says (because he’s totally relevant right now, right?), “Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them.”

In this case, you’re one of two types of girls: born to blow or you learn how to blow.

All in all, every girl can master the blowjob and once you have, your guy will surely thank you for it and you’ll feel all the more confident, appreciated and powerful.

Interestingly, gender roles play an overlooked part in sex and every intimate encounter with your partner is different. One thing will always remain: the beauty and perplexing mystery of oral sex. Seeing oral sex as perplexing is not always obvious, but it’s more than your mouth wrapped around his dick; it’s your chance to be in the pilot seat of your shared intimate space. For however long you’re down there, you’re in control. (Not that sex is all about control because a lot of the pleasure comes from letting go, which is for a different article.)

Blowjobs have the ability to put woman over man, which spins the relatively patriarchal structure of sex right round. Another thing that sex is not, is purely about submission, but the dom/sub factor of oral sex contributes to the power-wielding abilities that I am bringing to the forefront of this discussion.

The societal perception of blowjobs should give women the opportunity to reverse the roles that are pounded into our psyches regarding the missionary position, virginal quests, and the notion that women should please men and expect nothing in return. We can all admit that sex education and the stigmas associated with pleasurable sex, suck — no pun intended here.

Think about it for a moment; there is no male equivalent of “slut.”

Perhaps women regaining control through oral sex can change society’s lexicon. Why should any of us be slut shamed for accepting pleasure?

I am not scared or embarrassed to admit that I relish in the first few seconds where I envelop my partner’s dick in my mouth and watch as his expression changes. Obviously, or I wouldn’t be writing this piece. I recognize that he’s being put into a vulnerable position and part of me always wishes that he would embrace it more, but I think he’s shy about it.

Going back to the patriarchal nature of sex in society, somewhere down the line, men became afraid to let out moans and sighs of pleasure. Male vocal pleasure became branded as a “female only” type of thing where it was advocated for women to be loud and porn only perpetuated this concept. Think about it…when a girl is six inches in, or what have you, concentrating on the serpentine route of her tongue, breathing through her nose, looking at him versus his dick, making sure she’s in a comfortable position, etc., how else is she supposed to know that her partner is enjoying himself? Here, her partner has to relinquish the power and let her know that she’s doing a good job. (Not to say that all women need reassurance from men, but it’s always appreciated).

So you might be asking yourself what should I walk away with here, and the answer is two-fold:

Blowjobs are beautifully intimate moments when women have the opportunity to realize their own sexual worth and desires and that enjoying a blowjob is not sexually shameful for either party involved.

With that being said, go out, get some, and be proud of it. (He’ll thank you for it!)