“What do you do when it rains? Where is you your favorite place to be? What songs do you listen to when you’re sad? Where do you go when you feel afraid?”
“I do a couple questions regularly with my BFF. We used to do it over dinner every night when we were in college and actually saw each other. I honestly think they’re things everyone should ask everyone they care about on a daily basis, and they’re also good to just get to know people better. You can ask follow-up questions or not depending on how deep you want to get.
- What’s something you learned today/this week?
- What’s something that made you sad today?
- What are you looking forward to the most right now?
- What’s something that made you laugh this week?
It’s really easy to think of more along the same lines once you get going, too. If you’re super close already you can throw in stuff like, ‘What’s the last time you cried? Do you feel better now?’ ‘What are you the most afraid of right now?’ I always like to end with the laugh or looking forward to question, to end on a good note.”
“I asked my now wife what her favorite childhood book was. The book she picked as her favorite is one I remember my mom and grandma both reading to me when I was a kid. I used it to propose to her only a couple weeks after meeting her. We’ve been married five years now and that was one question that really helped me get to know her on a deeper level. That book was ‘Love you forever’ by Robert Munich. The most memorable part went like this;
I’ll love you forever,
I’ll like you for always
As long as I’m living
My baby you’ll be.”
“Instead of ‘what do you do?’ I quite like ‘what gets you out of bed in the morning?'”
“What are your three greatest passions?
People get excited when talking about what they’re passionate about, and this reveals what they spend a lot of thought and time on.”
“You are given three wishes by a genie, what do you wish for (no infinite wishes or loopholes). Really shows people’s priorities.”
“Would you rather eat carrots for the rest of your life or apples?”
“I remember hearing (possibly reading) that there are 4 questions to ask a person to see I’d you’re compatible.
- Do you like horror movies?
- Would you travel to a foreign country alone?
- If you could, would you run away and start all over again?
- I can’t remember number 4 but I’d suggest asking if they like pizza coz if they don’t the other three questions don’t even matter.”
“Would you have sex with a clone of yourself?
Everyone I’ve asked so far has always gone on to explain why they would or wouldn’t.”
“What would your best friend say is your worst quality?”
“How many walkers have you have you killed? How many people have you killed? Why?”
“I like to ask what’s your favorite kind of cheese. It breaks the ice and you can learn a lot about a person through their favorite cheese.”
“The best questions to ask are questions about their answers. Thats how you get to know someone deeper, by asking for elaboration, tangents, association – the things that reflect how their minds actually work. A list of questions is going to sound like an extended pick up line.”
“I’ve found that words matter so little. Most of us are drowning in words.
Best indicator of who someone is : drive somewhere on the freeway with them with a little time pressure during moderate to heavy congestion.
Everything you need to know will clearly be demonstrated for you. Don’t believe me… try it!”
“‘What was your first pet?’ or ‘Who was your favorite teacher?’
Then read all of their emails.”
“The best question to get to deeply know someone is this: why?
You can ask people about their favorite movies, music, political beliefs, religious beliefs, etc. And it’s good to know those things about people. But people like things for reasons. Knowing WHY someone likes something or thinks something gives you lots of insight into someone’s character and real personality.”