18. A Psychopath Proposes
Horrible relationship. I was only 18 and he was 24. Really emotionally/psychologically/sexually abusive . I had been trying to get out for awhile but wasn’t making enough, and couldn’t sign a lease by myself yet (no “rental history”). I also didn’t have a car. So at this point we had been together for about 3 years… We were driving back to the town we lived in (from shopping in a larger town) and started to have a conversation about how I was really depressed and incredibly unhappy. This was years ago, and for the life of me I can’t remember what started this conversation. Things escalated significantly, and within a few minutes he was going ~90 MPH and crying, saying things like “Well if we can’t be together then I don’t want to live anymore.”
I talked him down, making false promises of love and faithfulness, and that “I’m just upset about work….I’ll get it all figured out”
And I made it home alive.
So the next week I had again worked up a plan and the courage to get out. I was at his grandmothers house and (had a clear view of two unlocked doors, and a friends getaway car) I started talking to him about how I was feeling. About how when we got together I was really young and had grown up a lot and I really wasn’t the same person. And I confronted him about some other horrible, soul crushing things he had done. But that’s another story. So his reaction to this? He pulls out a MOTHER FUCKING engagement ring. It’s one time in my life that I’ve been literally speechless. I gently told him no, and that I was leaving and needed space from him (I was leaving town but I didn’t want to get punched..). A scuffle ensued, but his grandma came out of their basement and that gave me enough time to gtfo!!! (I’ll never be able to thank her enough! Jean you may have saves my life that day) *I’m currently with a wonderful man who is the kindest, most thoughtful person I’ve ever met, who always makes me feel safe. And who I’m madly in love with and we’ve been talking about getting hitched.