You’ll Never Have The Same Love Twice


Have you ever been in love but too scared to express it? Because you were already in a relationship, because of an age gap, a location gap, bad timing, or for any other reason you told yourself as to why you couldn’t express that love? Were you worried of losing the person? Or having them be too freaked out to talk to you?

Love is complicated. It always has been and most likely always will be. You can follow professional advice, listen to your grandma tell sweet stories about love, or do what Cosmopolitan magazine suggested. But the truth about love is: you’ll never figure it out.

Love is like the four seasons. Always changing and never the same twice. You may have a warmer winter than usual one year and turn around and be bombarded by blizzards the next winter. It has similar equations, but x doesn’t ALWAYS equal y. Usually the best advice is to follow your heart and even then, you might be making a mistake.

The rule I’ve always followed though, is it’s better to love and potentially be making a mistake than turning those feelings away and never knowing.

If you don’t jump and try to do a flip, you’ll never know how awesome trampolines truly are, but if you just sit there you’ll be wasting a golden opportunity. I’ve been married for almost 9 months. We’ve been together for almost 2 years. And we’ve known each other for 3. In this time we’ve surprised each other with how each other works. Sometimes it’s annoying, sometimes it’s sweet, and sometimes it’s heartbreaking. But any way it comes: it’s OUR love. Make it YOUR love or you AND your partner’s love. It’s not anyone else’s and you shouldn’t buy into them making decisions for you. *this excludes abusive relationships* Don’t listen to the media, don’t swoon over grandma’s stories, and don’t buy into someone making money off of relationship advice. You don’t always need love either. Sometimes being solo and learning how to love yourself is all you need. Sometimes that’s key to do BEFORE settling down and finding a partner. The decision is really up to you and no one should judge you for that. If they do: don’t listen.

No matter what you do or who you end up with, remember it’s YOUR love, it will always be changing, and it will always be confusing.

You’ll never have it down pat, but that’s the true beauty, because you’re learning and growing with someone who is in the same boat as you. That REALLY brings you together and is so worth the time. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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