Stop Rushing To Get Married And Graduate

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Everybody is so obsessed with time. As a child you can’t wait to grow up. Then you grow up and can’t wait to get your degree, then a job, make money, get a car, get married, and start a family.

“I’m turning 30 in [so many] years, I need to have kids by this age and I need to be married at that age.”

So what happens if you aren’t married by 30? Does life just stop there? No!

You move onto the next phase of your life.

You cannot worry about things that have not happened yet. I’m not saying you shouldn’t plan your life, but what you should do is plan for things that you know for a fact will happen.

I mean, really, how can you plan for a wedding if you don’t even have a boyfriend/girlfriend at the very least?

Everybody is busy trying to get to the finish line because we are taught it’s the right way of going through life.

That is the sort of world we live in now. It’s all a race and if you don’t make it to the finish line like everyone else, best believe you are not getting that medal.

Simply put, we cannot foresee how much time we have left on this planet, so we choose to stress, panic, and overwhelm ourselves our whole lives because of what is expected of us, as time is not on our side.

The way I see it we should be trying to rescue ourselves, not time. Time is constant and has always been that way for centuries — but what happens in that time is not. That is solely up to you!

We shouldn’t let the fear of not getting there yet deter us from actually taking a second to think about how we can handle each problem at a time.

If we actually took the time to sit down and answer life’s problems thoroughly, one would actually start seeing the growth and the beauty of living.

Life is not a test, where the answers can only be right or wrong. Life is an adventure.

Today is a sunny and enjoyable day. Tomorrow it could be cold and raining. So what are you going to do to make the most out of your adventure?

Time is not definitive of your happiness either. You could get your degree at the age of 22 or at 40, and still receive the same amount of joy. It’s the moment that made you happy, not when it came.

So don’t stress so much, start living in the moment, and take each day as it comes.

We are really only ever in control in the present, because today’s actions determine tomorrow’s possibilities. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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