1. You are amazing.
Okay, I’ll admit it – this might be a biased opinion. But that doesn’t invalidate the truth that you are amazing. With so many amazing talents and traits to love, it’s a wonder why you were ever rejected or picked last in the first place.
2. It’s actually, seriously their loss.
Do I sound like your mother yet? Well, maybe we should give mom some credit here. She’s right. Didn’t you read that first point? You’re amazing! Anyone who doesn’t want to be in or a part of your life is seriously missing out. And the only one who’s going to end up missing out on something so awesomely great? Them.
3. Your time/person will come.
As mom always says – and don’t tell her I’m saying all this she’s right type of stuff – “…every nookie has its sookie.” What, you may ask, is a nookie? Or a sookie? To be honest, I’ve never asked. After all these years, I’ve just kind of rolled with it. But I think the message got through alright. Basically, she was saying that there is someone out there for everyone, so try not to panic or feel too down about someone not picking you. You’ll find the right guy/girl who will choose you, and only you first. And remember, “nothing ever happens before the time” – another piece of mom wisdom for you.
4. You are no one’s second choice.
And don’t you forget it. See very first point (again) – you are amazing. And having been gifted with such amazingness, before anyone else can recognize your worth and brilliance, you need to. And you need to know that you deserve more than being someone’s second, or third, or eighth choice. Whether it’s a friend, romantic interest, supervisor, etc. – if they make it clear that they don’t plan on picking you (with all your amazing you-ness, capabilities and potential), do yourself a favor and move on without ’em.
5. You might not know this, but you have always been chosen.
Truth is – you, dear one, have been chosen by God, Himself. In fact, you were first in His mind when He sent His son, Jesus to die on that rugged cross for YOU. There’s never been a question of whether or not you have value or are worth dying for. You do and you are.
“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”
— John 3:16-17
And you know what? I think that’s the only affirmation we really need. It’s the hope that we desperately need to cling to – and never let go of. Because someone picking you last, or not at all, isn’t a reflection of your worth or value.
God chose, no – handpicked you and so loved you that He sent His son to die for you.
Truthfully, He’s never had a doubt about how amazing of a person He’s made you to be.
And sometimes you just need to remind yourself just how incredible you are.