There’s A Difference Between ‘Following Your Heart’ And Ruining Your Life

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The only time I have actually ever heard of anyone “following their heart” is right before they do something that disrespects them.

To clarify: There is a difference between following your gut that’s being led by your intuition and logic & following your gut that’s being led by pure emotion.

For an example, I used to be best friends with this girl whom I had known since Jr. High. To make a long story short, we stayed best friends and lived together in college, but then she returned to her previous domestically violent relationship. This guy she had been with had cheated on her, called her a slut, got her pregnant, abused her belongings, and was just an all-around unhealthy person. Anytime she spoke of “following her heart”, what she really meant, was that she was going to continue to participate in the cycle of abuse and continue to go back to him.

Often times, we think “following our heart” means to follow and stay loyal to our strongest emotion. In reality, our strongest emotion isn’t always what our hearts want nor need.

What our hearts ultimately want is to remain at peace and be taken care of. Our hearts want alignment, they want compassion and kindness. Our hearts want what is best for us at all times.

What “following your heart” really means, is that you are loyal to your own evolution.

“Following your heart” is when you prioritize what you need over what you want, and you make sure you feel respected at all times.

It’s important that we take the time to listen to our inner voice and fully hone in on what it’s saying. Sometimes our bodies get so caught up in routine, addiction, obsession, and close-mindedness, that we are unable to rationally analyze what it is that best honors our humanity and our livelihood.

Stay true to the vision of you. Listen to what your heart truly desires and what it is truly in alignment with, not just what you are used to being in aligned with. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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