In 2018, Learn How To Be Alone

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Justin Kauffman

Make this the year you take off all the excess baggage you have carried on your back for so long. Make 2018 the year you let go of the wreckage the past has caused and bled onto your heart. Make this the year you turn all your hurt into growth. And make 2018 the year you slowly learn how to be happy on your own.

In 2018, focus on your strengths instead of your weaknesses. Don’t let your negative thoughts turn into a reality and don’t let your demons from the past pull you under. 

Realize that you can begin again. And realize that this process won’t be easy or fast. It’s going to take time to get in tune with yourself and with the world around you. It’s going to take time to be able to forgive yourself from all your mistakes and flaws. It’s going to take some time to shed all the thoughts that have tangled up inside your head for years on end. You can’t just undo it all at once.

Let 2018 be the time you focus on nothing but yourself. Let it be the time to let yourself make mistakes, let it be the year you let yourself fail, and pick yourself back up again and again.

Sure, you can sit at a cafe by yourself. Sure, you can eat alone. But are you soaking it all up? Are you soaking up the sky and the strangers around you and the calm serenity of your mind?

Let 2018 be the year where you grow truly comfortable with yourself. Let 2018 be the year you can enter a room full of strangers and still feel whole. Let 2018 be the year where you no longer search for love, because you’ve grown to find it inside of yourself.

Let 2018 be the year where you can sip coffee by yourself and not feel lonely. Let it be the year where you don’t need anyone’s company but your own. Let 2018 be the year you fill your heart up with good thoughts, with brilliant thoughts about yourself and about your future.

Let 2018 be the year you nurture your body and your soul. Let it be a time where you no longer are a victim of the demons inside your head. Let it be a fresh start. A beginning. A time to let yourself be. A time to never hurry or rush. A time to enjoy yourself.

Let 2018 be the year you work on becoming your best self. Let it be the year you fall deeply, utterly, and hopelessly in love with your own heart. And never ever think that you aren’t lovable. You are. And let 2018 be the year you begin to believe that. Let 2018 be the year you believe in your dreams and your fantasies. And let it be the year you continue to grow and change and learn and grow some more.

Let 2018 be the year you learn to love being on your own. And let it be the time in your life where you can appreciate yourself, without needing anybody else.  TC mark

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He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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