I hope this year, you have the strength to say no to men who only want one thing.
I hope in this new year, you realize your self worth. And I hope you realize that you deserve SO much more than a shitty guy who only sees you as a body part, and not as a human being.
I hope in this new year, you come to the realization that you have been fucked over one too many times. And I hope you realize that at this point in your life, the sex isn’t worth it. The empty hand holding isn’t worth it. The sinister kisses aren’t worth it and the diluted ‘I love you’s’ honestly don’t mean a thing.
And I hope you come to the realization that you deserve real love. Not the kind that is fleeting. Not the kind of love that leaves. Not the kind of love that is half-hearted.
I hope you know that you deserve love that is 100%.
This new year, you deserve something that is bigger than yourself. You deserve the kind of love that lifts you up. The kind of love that is loving to all your flaws and all of your imperfections. The kind of love that is adoring, and that is authentic in every way.
I hope you find the courage to wave goodbye to your past. I hope you find the courage inside of your heart to give yourself something that is beautiful, instead of something that will be gone tomorrow morning.
I hope you can hold onto hope, that one day you will get that great, big love that you have been praying for. And I hope you can do away with those men who whisper sweet nothings into your ear only to get into your pants. I hope you can do away with those men who only smile at you in order to get a kiss from you. I hope you can do away with those men who only compliment you when they are lonely, and those men who only text you at 2 am after a drunken night out.
You are not a piece of meat. You are not a single body part. You are not just a pair of breasts, or a pair of shiny legs. You are not an object, and you don’t deserve to be objectified.
You are a human being. You have a beating heart that has been through hell. You have a pair of lungs that have been through the ringer, and have almost collapsed with your countless amount of heartbreaks. You have a soul. A soul that deserves nourishment and encouragement. Not broken promises and false hope.
I hope you know that you deserve more than you think you do. And you don’t need those men in your life, those men who only look at your body instead of in your eyes or those men who only look forward to a night with you, instead of a morning loving you.
In this new year, please, say goodbye to douchebags, to fuck boys, and to people who have let you down in the past. And say hello to true love. And know that no matter how long it takes, it is worth waiting for. I promise. You will find him one day. Don’t stop hoping. Don’t stop believing.