Date Someone Who Is Just As F*cked Up As You Are

João Silas
João Silas

I mean it. Date the person who is just as messed up as you are. No one in this world is perfect. Everyone has their flaws. Everybody makes mistakes. We are all kind of f*cked up in our own way right?

The truth is, there is no such thing as perfection. We keep thinking we are going to find our prince charmings and princesses. We keep a list in our heads of the checkmarks we have for our future suitors. We hold our heads high and our standards higher.

That’s not a bad thing. It’s good you know your worth. It’s great you love yourself enough to give yourself what and who you deserve.

But, what if the guy of your dreams isn’t the one you have pictured in your head? What if they are the opposite?

We are all broken in some way. We all have our issues and things that damage us easily. We all have our weird hobbies and tendencies that freak other people out. We all fall down and face plant on the sidewalk. None of us are perfect people.

Maybe what makes someone perfect in your eyes, are their vulnerabilities. Maybe what makes someone beautiful is their messy childhood. Maybe what makes someone lovable, is the fact that they don’t know how to love yet.

Maybe, what makes someone wonderful, is the baggage that they carry around with them.

We shouldn’t want the person who is easy to be with. We shouldn’t want the person who has hair that never moves, or has skin that doesn’t flush. We want the messy. We want the flaws and all the imperfections. We want the tummy rolls and cellulite. 

Because how could could possibly fall in love with someone who has no faults?

There would be absolutely nothing to discuss. There would be no excitement. So, find the person who has weird habits. Find the person who invigorates you. Find the person who wakes up looking like they slept on a rollercoaster. Find the person who you find beautiful, no matter what. And find the person who loves you, for all your f#ucked up flaws. TC mark

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You look back and you just feel stupid.
You can’t forgive yourself for falling
or believing all the lies.
You reread every text.
You relive every memory.
And it all starts making sense —
he never wanted love.
He only wanted attention.
He only wanted validation.

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