We Need To Stop Seeing Breakups As Bad Things

“It’s supposed to hurt — that’s how you know it meant something. Molly, Peter and the Starcatcher

We’ve all been there. The point of no return. The piling of questions without answers and assertions without evidence. 

“Why did they break my heart?”
“I thought we were meant for each other.”
“No one will ever love me that way again.”

Well, guess what? Someone will.

We need to stop seeing breakups as bad things. They’re the end to a relationship that wasn’t meant to be, whether we know it at the time or not. They’re an opportunity to start anew, a chance to find someone better for us, and most importantly, an opportunity to find ourselves.

Every relationship, both good and bad, has wisdom and insight to offer us. A breakup gives us the chance to explore what we really want, and to find out what we don’t.

Sure, breakups really do hurt, but after a while, that pain and heartbreak unknowingly melts away. We need heartbreak. Without the pain of a lost or broken love, we do not appreciate true love when we find it.

Even more importantly, the pain is proof. Proof that it meant something. Proof that that person wasn’t a waste of your time. They may not have been right for you, but they taught you something. Whether it was teaching you how to salsa or the life lesson to never date a cheater again, there is always something gained from a relationship.

Heartbreak comes and goes, but the memories and the wisdom gained from our past relationships last a lifetime. It may be hard to believe, but I think it’s worth the tradeoff. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

featured image – Bhumika Bhatia

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