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Here’s Why We Need To Start Giving Shy People A Chance

It’s hard to believe in yourself when everyone else is something different.

This thought has crossed my mind many times because I am shy. And to be something different from everyone else is not always seen as a good thing.

Now, to most people, it might seem like this isn’t such a big problem, but for those of us with this certain affliction, it can be difficult living life as everyone else does. But it shouldn’t be.

These days, it is perceived that to fit in or to get anywhere in the world, you have to be loud and super chatty, but why should we be sheep and be the same?

Being shy all my life has been difficult, and for most of my life, I have felt that it is a major weakness. Really, it should be a massive plus, because we are built differently and we are unique and rare. And who wouldn’t want to be that?

Still, there is always the creeping feelings of self-doubt and the worry of what other people think and the lack of knowing what to say in certain conversations, but now that I’ve entered my third decade, I really don’t want to care about any of this stuff anymore. It is a daily struggle, so we need a little help sometimes.

If there were just one thing I could wish for, it would be for every extrovert out there to give us quiet types a bit of time and the chance to let ourselves open up and show our true colors. We need to feel comfortable around new people before blossoming. We need to be encouraged to come out of our shell.

Sadly, in the fast paced world that we live in today, if you don’t make an instant impact on someone, then you’re generally written off at the first hurdle. If you don’t say enough or the right things, then you’re considered weird and aloof and unapproachable.

All I can say is that if you want a great friend, then give a shy person a shout, because many of our positive strengths are often overlooked.

We are fiercely loyal.

We are impeccable listeners.

We are great deep thinkers.

We have a calming effect on others.

We are highly observant.

We’re not necessarily introverted—we’re underrated.

And that’s just to name a few.

So now, to every shy person out there: Be the only way you know how. Don’t worry about fitting in. Do your own thing. Embrace your individuality. Don’t ever change. Because being different is being you.

And it’s not wrong to be anything other than who you are. TC mark

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